Young girl who already wants a baby

get her a pet, a hobby, something else.

I was 17 when I had my first child... I now have three. I don't regret it for a single second. I am no longer with the father... but I am taken. I am one of the lucky few that was actually mature and responsible enough to make it through without my children being deprived. I have a good job, own my house, and have 3 cars @ 22. I suggest that you have a chat with her. She isn't even in highschool yet. She hasn't lived her life... once you have a child everything changes. It is not easy! And her little babysitting "job" is not going to pay for her and her childrens' meals, diaper, clothes, schooling/supplies, cars, gas, lights, phone... she will end up living off welfare like all of the other young mothers. Trust me, it's a constant battle to stay on top. With babysitting you can always give the kids back when they misbehave, or refuse to babysit on nights that you have plans. It's not that simple when they are yours. Does she even have a boyfriend... a reliable boyfriend? Or does she plan on being a single mother? Honestly... she is out of her still maturing, 12 year old mind.

a lot of children think they want to be a parent because they dont understand what it really means. looking mature and being mature enough are completely different. nothing prepares you for a child. thats why so many parents abandon or mistreat there children. she needs to be told what the meaning of being a parent is. its not as easy as babysitting.

cheers!

It's okay for her to want a baby, but theres a difference between wanting and having.

She will find that out if she has one.

I agree, get her a pet. The responsibility should change her mind pretty quick. Let her know of she can't handle that, then no way could she make it with a baby. Or show her a birthing video, she'd wait until she is 30 ;)

Stop saying she's stupid and shit it's annoying she's like 12 I am 13 and want a baby REALLY bad but I dont want to be a 13 year old mother I want to be a virgin on my 18th birthday and when I turn 18 I'm getting (I forget the name) surgery where you don get your tubes tied but it holds it for five years or shorter so I can go to college my boyfriend says he want three kids and he will wait until I'm 25 to have if I want so we agree.. Back to the point now! Just tell her that her (private area) is very small and her 'baby' can be around 7-10 or so pounds and it only gets bigger she might want a baby of her own but once it happens it'll never be able to change just keep babysitting and since she likes children so much she should be a teacher it'll help her understand babies even more show how much work they really are... Good luck to your cousin

Basically, there are two main choices:

Talk:
Tell her how babies are born and how to take care of one. That'll take a bit of time to explain. Don't go into what I call "too much detail", if you know what I mean.

Responsibility:
Get her a pet. See how she cares for it. If it lives as a healthy pet, let her see what a great parent she'll be!
If not, then tell her to treat it as if it were her own baby.

She doesn't want a baby, she wants a toy. There's no such thing as just having a baby. You also have a child, a teen, a woman, an old lady. Above all you have a person. Put your child first, not yourself. She might be old enough for sex but not for pregnancy and a life-time of devotion.

Divert her attention towards her other favourite hobbies

Foolish Mortal, she is. You'd better keep a close eye on her or in her foolish desperation she might go and get herself pregnant. Give her something to do to pass the time. Alert your parents or another trusted family member or adult to the situation so they can knock some sense into her. Make her watch a documentary that shows just how hard raising a kid really is. Do not let her watch shit like "Teen Mom" as that show is fake.

I'm 18 and want a child. I have a loving and supportive boyfriend of over 3 years now.. Were both starting college in the fall and were going to wait until our 4years of college are up and have steady jobs to start a family together.

Get her a pet and have a serious talk to her about sex and babies cos she sounds mature or her age. She needs to understand that she is too young to have a baby and she needs to set up her life first than think about baby. Babies are not just funny creatures you need to take care of them.
P.S: she can try to take care about a virtual baby on sims 3 game

I've known 2 teenage girls that talked like that a lot, and it turned out it was because they were already sexually active. That was their way to bring up the topic with someone they trusted. Maybe they were "breaking the news" before it became true, to lessen the shock when it actually happened, because they both ended up having babies as teenagers.

It sounds like maybe you like your own cousin and want to have sex with her and have a serious relationship maybe you and her should go out.

get the kid a fucking dog.

Make her watch the maury povitch show and show her what happens to underaged girls who want babies.

There are SOME kids out there who are really mature and honestly ready to have a kid at 16-18 or so as long as they have income and got their schooling down, but NEVER any younger than that, and MOST kids need to wait until 21 or 22 I think. And those really mature ones? Need to wait until AT LEAST 16, in fact it'd be better if they waiting a couple more years than that too.

In fact...some people should wait till 30. It's all about how mature you are. But 12??? NEVER...That is NOT normal. Not that she's a bad kid, she is probably just a future loving mother and will take very good care of her kids WHEN SHE'S READY.

Yes this is normal. Just make sure you explain to her why she can't have kids now. A good line to use now might be to say how it would be bad for the baby. If she thinks that by having kids now it would it would lead to problems for the child then I doubt she would want one, if she truly does love kids.

Plus try not to leave her alone with any boyfriends. If she really DOES want a kid and acts maturely she could easily get a lad her age horny and get him to have sex with her.

She's nutty and needs some serious life counseling. Clearly she's under the impression that babies are toys you can produce yourself. She sees children as playthings that she can dress up and read to and race around with when in reality they are expensive, life-altering full time commitments. They don't stay that cute or little forever. They need to be supported and reared properly. Something which a CHILD cannot do.

I have a friend who's 18 and wants a baby like NOW. She thinks having a baby in your mid-to-late 20s or even 30s is "gross" she says she doesn't want to be "that old with a baby". Even though she's 18 shes still a CHILD herself. Her mother started having kids at 14 and popped out her last (of 4) at 21. The girl thinks it's totally normal. In other words the bitch is crazy.

My cousin is 20 and has been "trying" for a baby since she was 15. She runs around picking up people kids and saying "aww i want a BABY!" like she's possessed or something. Luckily she can't have kids with out the help of extensive (and expensive) fertility treatments or in-vitro. Thankfully she can afford neither.

Every girl goes throug that stage, she might grow out of it. What made me grow out of it is realising that a baby is hard work and the fact that my body will stretch to have the baby, she needs to be put off until she is ready i think

my cousin was a bit like this
shes so young and there is loads of time

suggest she gets a dog something she can love and have love her back xx
untill the time is right :)

she's still young that's why she wanna grow up right away.. but believe me, once she's already old and a mom, she would wish to be young again

honestly it sounds a little like you want it and not your so called cusin

Dude, don't feel bad my 15 year old cousin has wanted a baby for years.
she is just plain stupid, and likes making mistakes.
whatta freak.

but I suggest you talk with her.

You need to have a serious talk with her
cause she sounds like , she is going to get herself pregnant, so i recommend
that you do that , Or get her placed on B/C shot to prevent from getting pregnant

The world is full of pre-teens that play house and want it to be a reality. The economy doesn't help the situation either, producing dolls for children, that relieve themselves so the child cleans it up. It makes every young woman want to have an ideal family life at a utterly wrong age. I have a 16 year old niece that had that same false ideaology at the age of 13-14. She, respectivly, found an older guy to date, and her parents were, in my opinion unfit to be parents anyway, so naturally she dated this guy who was 20 years old, and eventually became pregnant at 14. She then was forced to move 500 miles away from the father. She had the twins at 15 years old, and soon after the father was arrested on a statutory rape charge who is in jail to this day. The children at the age of 1 when my niece was 16, got taken into child protective services because she was deemed an un-fit mother. As you can see these things quickly go on a downward spiral and i suggest you get your cousin under control before she makes a grave mistake.