Young adults being perceived as idiots?

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So, am I the only young adult on here who's tired of being perceived as a complete moron who has nothing to offer the world but immaturity? I realise that most teenagers, even ones about to be in their twenties like me, are extremely immature and piss their lives away drinking every weekend and hooking up with another guy every other week but I am walking proof that mature teenagers or young adults exsist and I'm sick of every single person over 30 judging me when they hear that I'm 19, assuming that all I care about is alcohal and facebook or twitter or whatever the fuck most people my age spend all their time doing. I am absolutely, not part of this stereotype and I would like everyone to recognise that you really do get mature 19 year olds, its not impossible. I haven't drank heavily since I was 17 years old and I am in a long term relationship, longer than a year now. I moved out of my mother's house when I was 18. I run a household for christ sakes. While everyone else my age is worrying about finding a lift to the club this weekend, I'm worrying about budgeting for things my boyfriend and I need to pay for for the month and what we will be cooking on christmas. I've been called lame and boring countless times and I couldn't care, because when everyone else wakes up with a hangover, I wake up next to someone I'm sharing my life with, yet old people take one look at me and assume I'm a young dumbass who doesn't know her ass from her elbow. I'll probably get afew oldies commenting that I'm in over my head but that's okay, I'm mature enough to accept that there will always be judgemental assholes in this world, and move on. What I'm curious to know is, are their any other young adults on here similar to myself, who are sick of being perceived as a reckless teenager?

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    Wow. This post doesn't help your argument about being a mature adult.

    Thanks for calling me old. And thanks for assuming I would judge you based on age alone.

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    • starie
      9 years ago

      I agree. This post doesn't help her case at all. Sounded like a child ranting...

      I am a 20 year old and believe me, i won't judge you on your age, only by this post. That being said, you don't seem as mature as you portray yourself.

      Having a 1 year old relationship and "running a house hold" isn't a sign of maturity. It is just a life you chose. I lived on my own at the age of 17, you don't see me using it as proof of my maturity. Maturity isn't about the situations you have put yourself in, it is about how you handle those situations. Paying bills (like plenty of others) doesn't make you mature, it makes you responsible.

      People are assuming you are an immature teen punk? So what? Let them. If you were mature you would know how to handle that situation: Ignore their assumptions since you should know that all that matters is that you know they are wrong. Instead you are letting them get to you and assuming all human beings older than yourself are like that.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        You're entitle to your own opinion of me, but I believe the way I live my life makes me a lot more mature than other 19 year olds I know. You're right, having any old relationship for a year doesn't makeone mature, but I guess you really have to know me and witness how my relationship works to see what I mean. What I meant was, I think about things like family, bills, the future and so on, where as most other 19 year olds don't think about much besides boozing it up every weekend. By the way, its pretty cool that you lived alone since 17, not many people can say that.

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        • GinnyWeasley
          9 years ago

          I don´t know her, but her post doesnt seem like mature or immature, it seems like she is pissed off.

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        • starie
          9 years ago

          I don't believe you should compare yourself to other people. Yes, your life style may hold more responsibility than other people your age but that doesn't make you any better than them. Everyone grows up at their own rate and it all depends on many factors (their past/their way of thinking, etc...).

          I am not trying to say you don't have any sense of maturity, i'm sure you do. Anyone who categorizes someone by their age isn't worth getting angry over, that is all.

          To categorize "older people" under the same boat isn't fair. You are doing exactly what "older people" (the ones you have encountered at least ) are doing to you. You are assuming all people over 20 are all the same, just like they assume people your age are all the same (which i know isn't true. It all depends on the people you surround yourself with. Age is irrelevant. It isn't the age group you should blame, it is the people making those assumptions about you, you should blame.)

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Most older people judge me based on age alone so excuse the shit out of me for speaking based on the majority of older people and what they tend to do.

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      • howaminotmyself
        9 years ago

        My guess, you expect them to judge you based on age alone and therefore you project that belief onto people you do not know.

        I have no idea how old you are nor do I care, but you are behaving like a child. You are being rude a disrespectful to me simply because you know I am older than you. And that is what you are being judged on now, not your age, your behavior.

        Most people in their early 2Os believe they know everything about being an adult after only being one for a few years. I was no different. Except i never assumed people thought I was a boozing slut. That's laughable. And it doesn't matter how successful you are at being a young adult, you still have a lot to learn. Hell, I still have a lot to learn too. But I expect that to be the case for my entire life. I will never be done learning about life.

        I was very mature for my age, always have been. But I certainly didn't demand for people to take notice and complain when I was treated like a child. "Hey look at me being an upstanding citizen. I pay my bills on time and follow all the rules. Just look at how mature I am."

        You don't have to try so hard to prove who you are.

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        • CountessDouche
          9 years ago

          I completely agree with this comment. A true hallmark of maturity is humility; the ability to understand that no matter where you are in your life, you don't have everything figured out. I think most people can look back on that moment of arrogance in their lives, where they truly thought they had all the answers, at whatever age. Perhaps people are reacting to your attitude, OP, and not your age.

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      • daydreamer394
        9 years ago

        You are doing exactly the same thing...

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  • KeddersPrincess
    9 years ago

    Because, for the most part, they are.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Most of them most definetly are, but not all.

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      • KeddersPrincess
        9 years ago

        Not all but most.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    maturity happens at different rates for different people

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  • OldChick
    9 years ago

    I was a mature 19 year old. I quietly learn from older people. I was leaps and bound ahead of my peers. I appreciated the lessons I learned.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    When I was 19, and others would ask how old I was, they would be surprised by my answer. Often times, I'd be ask to prove it with ID. I've been getting mistaken for 23-30 since I was 18. Been in the workforce and on my own since I was 18. It has never been assumed that I was any less than 23 years old (I am 22 now) by literally everyone I have ever met since moving out on my own and dealing with actual adults all day, every day.

    I've never felt a day over 16. I'm young, I'm jack-shit retarded and I always felt the need to ask why anyone would assume I am so old, because I smoke? Because of my job? No, "because of how you carry yourself and how you act".

    I'd be lying if I said being told I'm mature for my age (or in my case, being told that there's no way I am 22 and watching the surprise on the faces of the individuals around me) is a pretty nice feeling but that isn't the point. The point is that if you are a mature individual, you will not need to convince anyone. Your attitude, behavior and actions will show it very, very clearly.

    In short, if you are sitting here and trying to convince someone that you're mature, you're not mature enough to make that claim. Maturity and independence often coincide but can come separately...

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  • thr
    9 years ago

    If it's a complaint of yours that old people misjudge, it's made up for by them being old. They're old, you win.

    If you think it's a good to be mature in the way you practice it, or if you enjoy that, then that's fine. I don't necessarily have higher thoughts of a mature 19 year old than someone who's tweeting and drinking.

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    It's normal in the sense that it's extremely common, but not in the sense that it's good or rational.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    The young are sophomoric not just you all of us. When you get to a certain age you realize your never to old to learn. Never to old to take advice when its given.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I always drove myself to the club.
    :-)
    I don't really go anymore because quite often it's douchebag central up in there.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      And how old were you when you stopped going?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Sadly, I was about 26. I married the wrong person who didn't like to dance.
        :-'(

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          Why sadly? Do you feel 26 is too young to stop clubbing?

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Why would it not be sad? I made a terrible mistake and married someone I wasn't entirely compatible with?

            Not everyone goes clubbing just to get drunk and pick someone up or get picked up, in fact some of us go out to listen to music and dance.

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