Would you venture into a long distance relationship

Would you be willing to venture into a long distance relationship if you thought the girl you found online is the one or would you be hesitant because of the obstacles such as money to travel to and fro?

Yes 7
no 11
I am in one, it's great 14
I am in one, it's terrible 2
It depends (comment) 5
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  • Dream_Killer

    It really depends. One factor would be how long I knew this person. I mean if I met them on the internet there's no telling who they really are. People lie all the time. I would have to meet this person and talk to them face to face before deciding on doing a long distance relationship. If they seem like they are worth it then I'd go for it. Sure it would be hard. But sometimes the struggle is worth the reward.

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  • Aliceee93

    Before I came here I would've said no.
    But I think more people are finding love online, and it is actually working, if both parties are fair with travelling and committed and that.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I can't say I would, for multiple reasons. Mainly because the internet may reveal your deeper thoughts, but not who you are. I judge who people are based on their first reactions, their impulses and their repeated behaviors that they probably aren't aware of. On the internet, we have a filter: the ability to think so carefully about what we say that we might not even be who we truly are behind the username.

    My biggest hang up with getting to know others on the internet is that there's no way to really express my personality sufficiently through text. Yeah, I'm spacy and preachy but I'm a very energetic, social and talkative person. My language, tone of voice and nonverbal communication is very expressive and much of that is lost in text. I'm also much more reliant on slang, although when I'm being serious, I do speak like this. My friends say I'm like an energetic Vulcan. I'd feel like the person would only love me for the small percentage of me that's represented through text and that's misleading.

    Ok, edit, there was one person way back in the day that I was internet crushing on for about two years and the feeling was mutual. We talked and carried on like we were dating, messenger, webcam and so on. He's on my Facebook still, but we kind of came to the conclusion that it wouldn't work for us (we were in high school with no possibility of moving in the future due to our being minors). I met him and a lot of very good friends I still have to this day on a gaming forum that I frequented as often as I frequent IIN now... Hilariously, my original reason for visiting that forum was to get cheat codes for porn sims. Yep.

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  • flowerchild94

    I was in one for five years and let me tell you it was horrible! We was both still kids so we couldn't take off to another state to meet yet. There was A LOT of distrust and fighting, it really takes a toll on a person not being able to reach the others personal needs and knowing that theres a ton of people there in person that could. However that's not what ended us, it ended because the person became very dependent on me emotionally and when I had to leave Skype (we cam'd constantly) they would say they was going to go kill themselves and it got to the point I just couldn't take it anymore and I deleted everything but its all good cause they moved on pretty quickly :).
    I think it CAN work as long as there is a plan to actually be together and a time line to look forward to, with A LOT of trust cause without either its just very discouraging and really a waste of your time.

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  • derpyderp

    If you had asked me a few months ago I would have said no.

    Then I accidentally stumbled across a girl who is so perfect for me it's fucking scary.
    I never knew there was someone so right for me.

    So now, yes. I'm in one.

    There's challenges, definitely, but we face them together & get through them.
    We don't plan on staying long-distance which is super important.
    IMO there HAS to be a goal to end up together.

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    • Hello there I'm just wondering how it's going with that girl, have you visited each other yet? And did either one of you stay with the other? And how often do you talk per week? Sorry for the 21 questions I'm trying to get as much info as I can since I maybe heading towards the long distance relationship route, any advice you can give me would be great. Cheers.

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      • derpyderp

        Shoot me a PM

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  • megadriver

    Nope. Been there, done that. It doesn't work.
    It would only work if you were together before that for quite some time and are close to marriage. Maybe then it could work. I don't know.

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  • Rich_Guy

    I travel to China quite often. Sex tourism in neighboring Asian countries is cheaper, easier, and more efficient.

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  • Avant-Garde

    Online, I would be a bit wary. Are you absolutely sure that she is who she claims to be? Offline is different. I actually am looking to pursue a relationship with a friend of mine, my friend says "yes", it would be a long distance relationship. I honestly wouldn't mind the distance. We know each other so there is really nothing to worry about, even if we took the relationship online. No, but with an online relationship you have to worry about deception, scams, wanting that green card, etc. Personally, I don't think that the risk of getting so involved is worth it.

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  • sillygirl77

    I did it with my husband while we were dating when he graduated college and I was still there another year... it worked out but i'd only do it for the right person.

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  • worriedgirlhere

    I've considered this question for quite some time. There's this guy I've had feelings for...for any longer than I should be. Reason being is because we don't know each other personally. I only knew him because he went to my old high school and he was friends with one of my friends.
    If I ever got to know him though, and if it were to amount to anything, it would ultimately turn out to be a long distance relationship. So I never made a move. One part was because I'm too shy. The other part of me was afraid that a long distance relationship wouldn't work.

    But honestly, if you like the person, and it works out, you should take advantage of that. I don't know if I'll ever see this guy again, but if I had at least talked to him or gotten to know him, I would at least have the pleasure of knowing him at all.

    Sometimes you have to wait for things worth waiting for.

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