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Would you trust someone who was abused as a child to look after your kids?
I have a reason for this question and I may or may not explain later in the comments, not that you care.
Thank you,
Mr. Person
| Yes | 24 | |
| No | 23 | |
| Only if they've had counseling | 6 | |
| Only if they're related | 2 | |
| Other(leave a comment, if you like i won't force you or anything.) | 11 |
I think I can guess, but you haven't even said what kind of abuse it was, whether it was physical, sexual or emotional.
Other than that, I agree with what howaminotmyself said.
It would depend on how well I knew the person: the fact that someone has been abused themselves has nothing to do with whether they'll turn into an abuser themselves - see my reply to CheyChey above.
Given that lots of people don't go around announcing they've been abused as kids, there's a chance anyone around kids is a victim/survivor themselves and such a huge proportion of people are in this category I wouldn't be worrying about it.
I would not trust that person at all, them looking after my kids is not something that I would even take into consideration. I believe in rehabilitation people can change but I would never be willing to give them the benefit of the doubt if it means I'd be putting my kids at risk.
If you read the post again, you'll see that OP is asking about people who HAVE BEEN abused, not people who have been ABUSERS, who in my opinion should never be allowed near children ever again.
The myth that people who've been abused as children all turn into child abusers is total and utter rubbish ... sure it can happen, but given that most child victims of sexual abuse are female, how come the vast majority of abusers are male?
As a survivor of child sexual abuse I'm always insulted and angry when this comes up as a defence for an adult abuser. Adults have a choice, kids don't.
I wouldn't trust anybody I didn't know. If I knew them, sure, I'd trust them.
Oops!! I just realised I completely misread this!D: I thought the question was whether you'd let someone who abused you as a child look after your kid.
To answer the actual question, yeah, although it depends.