Would you stay in this relationship?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little less than 3 years. August 2014 he moved to a different state to go to the college of his choice while I stayed home for school. We love eachother very much (at least I believe we do) but we only get to visit eachother for a two week period maybe 3 times a year. We both know thats not cutting it but we are both too pussy to make the call... It would be much easier if he didn't love me anymore.

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BlackyHancock

8 years ago

Speaking from experience of being in a few, a LDR can work IF there is an end point in sight. 2 or 3 years apart is not so long in the scheme of things if you really love each other and you see a future together

If there's no end point in sight, I'd move on.

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Cigsznass

8 years ago

if there is not a future, do the right thing and cut it off. Better now than later.

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putitinhoe

8 years ago

do u guys skype or something? ldr can last but it takes work.

u culd allways take a brek from the relsionship tho

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I text/ call every day and try to skype 3 times a week
  
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  - putitinhoe
    
    8 years ago
    
    hey... in that case, ignoring the issue won't fix it. talk to him about it. don't necessarily just dump him, but just discuss it. it could be a mutual break - which would end in the least amount of heartbreak that could come from this situation.
    
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

What are ya'll's plans after graduation?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Technally the plan WAS to find a town mid point between our two cities that had a promising outlook for both of our industries... Settle down, get a job, start a family, live together.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    8 years ago
    
    Has the plan changed?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      No but he keeps saying that he cant wait 2 more years for that to happen... He wants me closer NAOW and so do I but school :/
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        8 years ago
        
        Well, you shouldn't drop out of school for him that's for sure!
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        I would never do that.
        
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Jebus-Kreist

8 years ago

A few years isn't anything. The fact that you are considering this so early in time(and not for THAT long at that) makes me question what your intentions truly are. Just imagine the emotional relief and happiness felt of being united with the person you love when soldiers were coming back from wars lasting 6+ years in the past, except minus the PTSD.

You two love eachother and have plans after you two can get back within proximity. The fact that you two are so happy and lovey for eachother is just making you feel depressed because you feel it's just hurting eachother being away. You'd rather break up with him so he can find happiness closer to him right now, than to have him wait to be happy with you, correct?

Your wording says it all. You are trying to selflessly sacrifice your own feelings just so he can be happy. Infact if what you said is true about him also thinking it's not quite cutting it, you are both considering being selfless for one-another to find happiness. I'd consider it a tragedy if you didn't endure it and come back together. I'd say just endure it, because you'd be hard pressed to find a relationship that was strong enough to try and survive long distance over a long period.

You both went to schools to better your futures, not abandon your past.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  thats all correct... I'm 99% ok with waiting but my family and friends are really pressuring me to weigh my options (and secretely) find someone else. They help me see every fault that I'm not able to see because I'm too love struck and willing to compromise. (Ie; i'm a morning person and he's a nght person, therefore gettiing him up at a reasonable time to do anything productive before the normal rush is usually out of the question).
  
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  - Jebus-Kreist
    
    8 years ago
    
    Jesus, they are encouraging you to secretly find someone else? That's utterly disgusting.
    
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Livellovelife

8 years ago

Go to the same school

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  His school sucks and does everything backwards! No >:c
  
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  - Livellovelife
    
    8 years ago
    
    Then tell him to go to urs
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      My school is "too expensive" for him
      
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Arm0se

8 years ago

You just said you love each other. You should stay together.

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uwotm69

8 years ago

If he just leaves you like that he clearly doesnt love you. Sorry bout it :/

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KingTermite

8 years ago

Pointless waste of your like, pull the plug on this one.

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HiAGAIN10

8 years ago

I learned that if it's meant to be it'll be. It'll hurt really bad when you split, but after 1 to 3 months (depending on you) your feelings will die down, and you'll atleast feel like you can live without them. You may miss them or still have feelings for them but being broken up will make you less emotionally attached. Thus, making you be able to become friends. And if the time and place is right, and you still love eachother, you can get back together. It'll all work out.

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bucho's_butt

8 years ago

I think the first question that should be addressed is the reason you two are in school. What degrees are you guys pursuing? If you are in college for a basic 4 year degree for something academic like history, political science, literature etc. than there are options. Why not have one of you transfer schools? By the way those degrees are worthless but we can get into that another time. If you guys are dead set on pursuing useful technical degrees then I'd say stick with the career path and go your separate ways. You'll end up as different people in a couple years and it won't do to reunite.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Our majors are offered at both schools but no one wants to transfter (mostly because my school is more expensive and he wanted to experience a different city).
  
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haze26

8 years ago

You are both still young very few LDR stand the test of time. But it you really want to make it work its possible as long as there's no issues

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Dawnbraker

8 years ago

Talk to him and say " I really love you but this long distance relationship isn't working I don't know how you feel about it but I'm not feeling the flame that our romance once had I don't know many it's time we should brake up" but almost cry when you say it then when your done burst into tears

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