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| 20 years old because I'd be done raising them when I'm still young | 77 | |
| 20 years old because that's when I'd have the energy to do it | 74 | |
| 20 years old because that seems normal to me | 31 | |
| 40 years old because I'd have lived a lot before settling down | 73 | |
| 40 years old because I'd have the maturity to raise my kids right | 37 | |
| 40 years old because 20 is too young | 30 | |
| I don't want to have kids at 20 or 40 thank you! | 166 |
Sperm - Condom = Baby
Therefore, Baby + Condom = Sperm.
Finally, Sperm - Baby = Condom.
Just basic algebra.
I picked 40 because by then I'll probably have my life established and I'll be mature enough to know how to raise my children right. Plus I would've lived life.
I would never have kids. Why give birth and push them out of their "safe spot"? Now they'll have to suffer.
20 because I don't want retard sperg babies.
I'm good with not having any though
The first option was an interesting way to think about things.
However, I will NEVER have children, for a number of reasons.
1. Raising children generally/ideally involves being in an intimate relationship with another person. I am unwilling to do this.
2. I would never naturally bear children, because my genes carry traits that are extremely undesirable, including several mental disorders, and heart issues.
3. I could not handle that kind of responsibility.
4. I am not good with kids. I would be a terrible father.
5. I'll probably be dead soon. My kids would grow up with no father.
There are probably more, but I cannot think of them right now.
I applaud that you are honest with yourself...as more people should aspire to do the same before they procreate...
Sorry to hear about your health issues. I hope you are wrong about being dead soon. Based on your comments in threads you seem to have a lot to contribute to help people.
One of my best friends whos 21 has just had a baby, both him and his girlfriend have shit jobs and rent a house, i honestly think he should just leave because he has effectively gave up his life for lets face it a shit one.
I want to have three children and I would like to have my first one at around 25-28 if this is possible. I would like to have my second one when my first one is ages between 3 and 5 years old. I would then like to wait about ten years so that my first child is around 13-15 and my second is about 10 before either having my third child or adopting.
I would choose to have kids at 25-30 because I'm still young and should live my life, kids just ruin your fun in my opinion, you can't go to clubs any time you want, you have to deal with whiny kids, you can't have privacy etc
When you are ready. Enjoy your children because they are a gift. Yes it changes your life but it is completely worth it. Don't be selfish because you give up your freedom but they grow up fast and you will resent them. Love them with all your heart.
I am 18 and the thought of having a baby in the near future is too bizarre. I haven't lived! I feel like a kid myself. While I do have a strange maternal yearn for a baby, logic comes in and slaps maternal yearnings in the face. Hell, with all of this new technology, 40 will soon be the new 20. When I am 30 would be ideal, but I would rather chose 40 over 20 so I can become established, hopefully wealthy, but ideally still have my childish spark. Not to mention I would love to go out and LIVE in my the prime of my life.
The younger you have children the better, although money is a huge factor! If you cant afford it, you cant so most wait until they are in their 30's or 40's. When you have them younger, like 20; obviously you face a lot of problems etc but on the bright side, by the time your children are "twenty" you will be young enough (even at forty) to coach them, continue to parent them etc.
Honestly i'd rather be young enough to understand my kids as opposed to being so old that i cant, but just like most of the poller's; im so past the age of having kids that i just wont and i just can't. Ill be dead before they get married and god forbid what happens to them before them (in this day and age anyways).
At 20 you are a child. Even if you don't notice it at the time, then you grow up and you realize were nothing but that. Whatever it is you had been doing at that age. If you had been raising a child, you had been raising a child while being a child. Even if you had been running a country, you had been running a country while being a child.
Only 2 options - 20 and 40? That's quite a leap. You don't have to wait to have everything together to start having a family if you are on your way educationally/career wise and can juggle/sacrifice. But the days of starting a family practically right out of high school are past unless one of you luckily landed a pretty good job.
Why dont they use the 35 YO?? I'd have kids at that age... because i'd have energy and wouldnt be so old.
I was going to pick the fourth option but when I saw the last option bingo was his name o.
I'd love the wisdom and security you have when you're forty, but I chose twenty because you can do more with your child.<BR><BR>My parents had me pretty late, and they couldn't do with me what other parents do with their kids. Plus, you can relate to your child more when you're young, which in turn makes them trust you more.<BR><BR>I'd prefer some middle ground, though.
hmm.. I'll have kids when I feel my partner and I ready but right now I have no partner lol
i would rather have a child at like 20-30 so like he dosnt grow up with old parents cuz my father had me when he was 37 and i grew up doing things with other peoples familys cuz my father was to old
and it makes me pisst to see that
I think I would really rather not 20 or 40. I wouldn't want to be only 2 years out of high school and having kids. But I also wouldn't want to be 58 and still having kids living at home. I would rather somewhere from mid 20's to late mid 30's to have my kids.
I'm not a young mother, i don't regret it. I can teach my kids better than a 20 years old mom. I am more mature, reasoning is much better, have a job and money to provide them. Experience to pass on. and still can have fun. .. If you are too young I think you lack of experience , patience (most of all) and you are still "living" .. older your are settle down, mature.
But it depend on you. you may be young, and "have liberties and fun when older, and kid are more independent. .. BUT.. kids are never 100% independen from parent.. parenting is for the whole life, so better wait a little and live your life and accumulate experiences to make you a better parent.
Well i think like 23+ because some people are still acting like kids at 21 and getting drunk a lot which is no way to raise a child.
A child can't raise a child XD
Therefore use protection.
You could just wait till your marrid to have kids.
Ugh. It wasn't letting me reply to katywompus but lol, don't be concerned! My nickname is Burna and the Baby part some people connect with the Burna part and then the 27 is my birthday (December). I'm in love with my little man!
That's funny because I never thought to look at my username in that way..
In the spring, I'm going to become a foster parent. I'm 36 years old.
I'm glad that I waited and spent my youth (and beauty) having a great time and traveling. Now I am ready to commit 100% of myself.
I've watched some of my friends have their children at a younger age. In the early days, it seemed like a struggle for them because they were trying to raise their babies and have adult fun too (like how their single friends are), but the two just don't mix that well. I've had more than a few of them admit they wished they had waited until their late twenties or early thirties to start their families. Although a few of the ones that weren't very good parents in general, still managed to party anyway.
I didn't plan on mine either and I've reached neither age. Children are a blessing though and energy plays a big factor in raising them.
I can't help but be disturbed by your username on this poll in particular :/
I'm not sure if you got what I said or not, but I said: Ugh. It wasn't letting me reply to katywompus but lol, don't be concerned! My nickname is Burna and the Baby part some people connect with the Burna part and then the 27 is my birthday (December). I'm in love with my little man!
That's funny because I never thought to look at my username in that way..
I just realized that I cant 'reply' on my phone for some reason so I got on my desktop aaannnd VIOLA!
Phew! I was fairly certain that you weren't a baby burner. I'm glad that's cleared up :) do u get crap for your birthday being so close to xmas? Mine is dec 7 and my husband is like damnit! Why so close to xmas! Hehe cus I'm lucky :p I'm dreading it...again. I hate getting older :( but last night some kid said I could pass for 22 which made my damn day!
Never! I love babies :}}. Omg. I hate how people think that they can only give me one gift because my birthday is around Christmas -____-. Everyone else gets two gifts. Why can't I? I'm dreading my birthday this year too :(. Lol aww! Good for you xD! Sadly, I could probably pass as like 15 or so because I'm so short. Yikes
I was 20 and I'm so happy. I didn't plan to get pregnant, but I did. More recently a good friend of mine had her first kid at 40. Not for me, man
20 is better than 40 to me. I think I want kids around that age. Somewhere around 20-23 for having a first child. I want exactly three children. 2 boys and 1 girl. and 4 is ok too but no more. I want to adopt one of them because, I'm cool like that.
Depends on my life situation... Have I got a well paying job? secure house? Legit dad? The little things are important (although the house and dad thingy are big things) well.. More important then my age really... :)