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- You have a social/hereditary disorder (Autism, Asperger's, etc)
- You had tendencies in your family to abuse/use alcohol and drugs (Smoking is also a thing)
- Bipolar, Violent tendencies in the family. Cancer. Diabetes
- Your father was a abusive deadbeat. Wifebeater. (Tainted Paternal line)
- Maternal grandpa was also abusive and a wifebeater.
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- Maternal uncle is a rapist in and out of jail.
| Yes | 15 | |
| No | 49 |
I'm someone who has a mother with the first one. People with autism/aspergers, please fucking don't have kids. If you're diagnosed and you're oblivious to the reasons why it's bad to have children in your case, then that's even more of a reason not to.
I have all of the above (except the first one)
1) Dad is an alcoholic, uncles from both sides of the family have past drug addiction issues
2) I suffer from social anxiety, bulimia, bipolar, anorexia
3) My dad used to beat up my mum most nights of the week and my brother and I would try to defend her, we were 11 and 8 years old.
All of these issues and honestly someday I would love to have children as I know what NOT to know but you can never be too sure, I can only hope that when I do have kids I don't end up fucking them up.
If you're financially and mentally ready to take care of a child, by all means, do it and give him/her a life that's ten times better than yours. Just stay away from addictive substances, make sure they are healthy and active, and keep them away from the uncle and the grandfather.
1- no I would try not to have any
2- yes...im not the one abusing them. I would keep my child away from the family members that were.
3- yes/no if I dont have these things I might still have a child or if there arnt a whole lot of family members with said problems...if almost everyone does have said problems I might try to adopt.
4- yeah what does he have to do with anything...cut him out of your life and move on and be happy with the family you have made.
5- grandpa is even further back in the family line...cut your ties have your family.
6- yes I would never speeking to this person let alone have them around any child of mine...I would still have my own kid no contact with uncle.
Except for the social disorder (and not all social disorders are genetical neuroligical disorders like autism), nothing is hereditary, just that you have a bad family don't means you will be bad.
Yes, I did, it wasn't planned but me and his mum are going to do the best we can to make sure he has a good life.
I'm sorry to cause any confusion but what I'm trying to show with the abusive relatives (no, I was never abused. But I could've been), is the tendency for abuse to occur. How it can be more likely in different families.
Yes I would still have kids and already have one...my brothers father my step dad was physically abusive... my own father exceedingly lazy and abused drugs for a long time(nice guy tho)... another step dad I had locked us kids outside we had to go to neighbors house to use bathroom(mom left him). I have one mentally handicapped person in my family like a 2nd cousin...and a niece that had a brain tumor.
My bf side of the family is littered with horrible people.
We are not horrible people...my bf grew up looked at his mom and decided he didnt want to be like that.
It takes a bit of nature and nurture... there are also people who have overcome terrible things and became great people. ..and people born to goid families who turned into terrible people.
The thing is though, even if you do raise a kid right (as long as there are violent tendencies in the family), the child could still grow up to be bad. How loving and tender care doesn't always end up producing good people. Sociopathy is a example of this.
Maybe but sometimes it does...takes both nature and nurture.
also I dont have the abusive genes my brothers would...my father is actually a really nice guy he is just super lazy and abused drugs when he was younger... his dad was super not lazy they were kinda opposite in that way. And although my bf family line is littered with terrible people none of them physically abused the kids in the family.
Even if I had an abusive gene that could possibly be passed along doesnt meen the child would turn out bad...you really never know until they grow up...all you can do is your best.
Abusive family member does not = more likely chance if child being abusive.
Now being abused = more likely chance of abusing...but still child could be a great person