Would you enter a relationship with someone who is hiv+?

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I came across this question through " Have a gay days" page on Facebook and the amount of varied replied and reasons made me curious to what is it normal has to say about the matter!

So: Would you enter a romantic relationship with someone who has HIV and take their medications as they should? Or would this be a deal-breaker to you?

Why/why not? Please try to motivate your reply and stick to the subject!

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    Well if we had a relationship that wouldn't require sex maybe.

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  • zenparadox
    10 years ago

    I personally would not enter a secual relationship but isn't it funny unless people are hard core testers and safer sexers we may have already entered such a relationship, its just kind of an eye opener question because I'm like no way not a sexual relationship (even with a condom) but what's safer. Condom sex with hiv person or unprotected sex with "someone you trust" ?

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      Well ... the thing is that people ARE having too much unprotected sex. I'm not innocent either.

      Safe sex with someone who is honest about their HIV diagnosis and takes their medications is safer than unprotected sex with someone that you believe that you can "trust"

      Yet, somehow I'd not do it. To Willingly sleep with someone that I knew could potentially infect me with something ...no.

      At the same time I have had unprotected sex too so ... A personal guess would be that we have been thought that HIV is REALLY dangerous so I think that it's something that's programmed into us by now.

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  • Mister_Nobody
    10 years ago

    Definitely not. The risks would be too great, and it would be depressing knowing that she would almost certainly die a couple of years down the line, after getting gradually weaker.
    That said, I wouldn't have a problem with being friends with an HIV sufferer.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      Though there's medications available and as long as she takes them she'll have a full life.

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    • GYBY
      7 years ago

      Medication means you can't pass it on and you don't die from AIDS.

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  • Johnnytherat
    10 years ago

    Im not just sure i wouldn't stay w/ them..... I'm HIV positive i wouldn't stay!

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Absolutely, unequivocally, NOT!
    No way I want to have "protected sex" with my full time lover.
    Anyway, I have so little time left, I'd rather not spend it taking massive amounts of drugs, which I can't afford, and worrying about how my active lifestyle might open me up to some injury or illness that my damaged immune system might not be able to handle.
    Absolutely, unequivocally, NOT!

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    • GYBY
      7 years ago

      You can, when someone is HIV+ and being treated they can not pass it on, this has never happened once in history.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      We are on the same page. Basically that was my point too I could not limit myself to having protected sex only and not to mention the fucking worry about the condom breaking every time!

      Yet people in that discussion countered with: But they deserve love too!

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  • anonymous9250
    10 years ago

    I would definitely not date someone with a sexually transmitted disease/infection I whant sex and to know that if we are really in the moment we wount have to worry about getting infected

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I don't think I could, for a handful of reasons. I don't want to live in fear that the person I love could any day fall seriously ill and die. Even knowing that medications to control HIV exist and are effective, that would still be far too emotionally stressful for me.

    In the future I want to be able to have children that are in every sense the biological product of myself and a person I love. I don't want them to be born with HIV.

    Then there's the classic reason of wanting to have sex without risk of being infected yourself. I enjoy sex, and I'd ideally want to have unprotected sex with my partner which would be completely impossible if there was such a high risk of infection.

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    Not if I knew beforehand. I would consider staying if I found out down the road.

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    • thegypsysailor
      10 years ago

      I would be absolutely furious if I found out "down the road", if my partner knew! I really believe those who have unprotected sex when they know they have HIV, should be charged with at least manslaughter or attempted murder. There is absolutely no excuse for that behavior, and the punishment should be very severe, perhaps a 15 year minimum mandatory sentence.

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      • anti-hero
        10 years ago

        I meant down the road as in post love, pre-sex. We don't all just whore ourselves around like a bunch of drunk sailors.

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      • Riddler
        10 years ago

        They do get charged for it. There is Laws saying you have to warn people that you have aids if you have sex with them. http://aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/just-diagnosed-with-hiv-aids/your-legal-rights/legal-disclosure/ Also if someone dies since you infected them and chose not to tell them it can be charged as "murder".

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