Would you date someone with no social circle?

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If you had a big social life, had a lot of friends and played a lot of sport, Would you date someone with no social circle, or would you rather stay away from these people?

If you would still date them, would you ever be worried about not giving them enough attention?

Or does it depend on what stage of life you are at?

I'm in my early 30s and ready to settle down by the way.

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Based on 65 votes (56 yes)

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago | pl

I've never really dated someone for ulterior motives, like the size of their social circle, so I guess my answer would have to be yes.

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derpyderp

9 years ago

Yeah I would, some people have good reasons for not having many friends...

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- CoraCook
  
  9 years ago
  
  Such as...? If you don't mind my asking.
  
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  - derpyderp
    
    9 years ago
    
    OK, as a personal example I used to have a HUGE circle of friends.
    I also used to be pretty heavily involved with drugs.
    Nothing too bad (no heroin or crack, etc) but I was on a bad path.
    
    When you are living that lifestyle you obviously tend to associate with like minded people.
    
    When I decided to make a change in my life I left most of those people behind.
    Easily 99% of my friends & many of them I had known for years.
    With some of them it was easy to do so, others not so much...
    
    My best friend (mates since maybe 5 years old) is still involved with drugs & is actually getting much worse.
    I make an effort to still see him but he's changed & what we have in common has changed too.
    
    Since then for several reasons (a bad back injury, caring for a sick family member & trying to focus on my own life) I haven't really gone out of my way to make another large network of friends.
    
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    - iEatZombies_
      
      9 years ago | pl
      
      I also had a crapload of friends that I gave up after drugs. Sometimes you just have to or they'll unintentionally drag you down..
      
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    - Shackleford96
      
      9 years ago
      
      "My best friend (mates since maybe 5 years old) is still involved with drugs & is actually getting much worse.
      I make an effort to still see him but he's changed & what we have in common has changed too."
      
      I feel for you man. Pretty much the exact same thing happened to me. We're not friends anymore...
      
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      - derpyderp
        
        9 years ago
        
        Yeah it's hard ha.
        I grew up with this guy & still consider him a friend but we've definitely grown apart.
        
        Unfortunately he moved onto harder drugs & I've watched his life crumble...
        He's lost his family (mother & sisters, not wife & kids), his place to live (with said family), his job, a possible career in AFL football & a whole lot of his true personality.
        I fear he's actually heading towards a drug induced psychosis.
        
        Sadly he's not the only one either.
        Another 4 people I know, 2 friends & 2 family members, have basically lost EVERYTHING, literally including their sanity, to hard drugs.
        
        Fucking evil shit...
        
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    - CoraCook
      
      9 years ago
      
      Oh, yes, good reasons. I have done the same, if it matters. Unlike your friend, the friend I've had on and off since childhood is on a clean path, though. Yet I've never wanted to speak to her after a night when I desperately needed her and she just dismissed me.
      
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      - derpyderp
        
        9 years ago
        
        Was hoping to hear your thoughts on my reply. & of course it matters...
        
        Good to hear your friend is on the right track. Wish I could say the same!
        
        That's fair but I can see both sides.
        If your friend was caught up in drugs then her priorities were likely really fucked up, but at the same time there's never an excuse to abandon a friend in need.
        Has she ever apologized?
        
        I lost someone I cared about because of stupid decisions I made when out of my mind & it still eats me.
        I actually gave up everything the next day but it was too late to change anything.
        In a way losing that person was the best thing that happened to me as it forced me to take a good look at myself.
        
        It's hard to know if you could without knowing details but I hope maybe you guys can sort things out one day...
        Everyone deserves a second chance, but on the other hand some things are unforgivable
        
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        CoraCook
        
        9 years ago
        
        Yeah, I can see her side just as much as mine. But I was really, really fucked up, and felt she was the only person I could turn to - and even after I told her that, she just said "ugh, go to sleep, it's 2-fucking-a.m." It was a nightmare of a night for me. I could never forgive her. I do think people deserve second chances, but with her I just felt it was the last drop. We had already distanced ourselves in our teenage years, and I was heartbroken by the way she chose more popular friends over me (in fact, she was actually already choosing drugs - it took me much much longer to get into them). I used to blame her for bringing me along when I wasn't exactly in the mood for doing drugs, or plain trying to quit, and would end up doing them just because of her - nights when I had a car and she didn't, for instance. (Okay, it was completely my responsibility to have said yes or no, I'm aware now.)
        
        I'm happy she's trying and I hope she does make it, but I don't intend to reconnect. There are things about her personality that I dislike and I feel she's not someone I want as a friend anymore. We had tons of fun, of course, but that's it. She has recently added me on FB after she spent some time away, but I've hidden her posts and have no interest in knowing anything about her. I only know she's been getting clean because of a friend we have in common (argh, a friend who likes her so much but who she used to diss behind her back. I always found that extremely immoral, since that friend was always supporting her and getting her jobs, encouraging her artwork, while she was off getting high and speaking ill of her - with and to the man the other friend liked! It disgusted me)
        
        Mmm... I'm drunk, I think (yeah, I can do that now without it being a threat to my drug-sobriety) Sorry for the rant.
        
        I'm really sorry for your loss. Do you blame yourself for it? I hope you don't. Like, even if I blame my friend for letting me down, I know it was not in any way her responsibility to tend to me that night, nor to "save me". And, no, she has never apologized - probably because to this day she doesn't even know what happened.
        
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        CoraCook
        
        9 years ago
        
        Also, I think losses are inevitable when it comes to drug use, so if you losing someone gave you life, I think that's great. It certainly could have been the other way around. What would you think of that? Wouldn't you be happy your friend realized what he/she was doing to him/herself and decided to change? I know I would.
        
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VirgilManly

9 years ago

It seems like an odd concern.
What if he/she had a large social circle and most of them were assholes?

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Nokiot9

9 years ago

Is it just me or does this question seem kind of shallow? Why would you care about the persons friends or lack there of? Just because someone keeps to themselves or doesn't have a lot of friends it doesn't make them undatable. If the first thing you're asking yourself is "what's wrong with him/her" because they don't have a lot of friends, you should turn that question on yourself for just thinking it.

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[email protected]

9 years ago

I'm 52yrs old and never gave a FUCK about having friends or being in or having a fuckin SOCIAL CIRCLE.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

I would love to! I'd be the center of their universe and they wouldn't ever cheat or blow me off to hang out and watch stupid football.

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mountain-man82

9 years ago

Yes, I would. The size of the social circle doesnt play a single role in that for me.

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Wolverine99

8 years ago

i don't think people are understanding what you really mean because you sugar-coated your question. if you mean is it normal to dump and ignore and treat a guy like shit and play with his mind like a toy just because he isn't famous or rich with your rich friends the answer is probably no but you and your twin are selfish snobs so whatev.

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RainbowDischarge

9 years ago

I have like, no friends but my man has a pretty big group of guy friends.

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- shuggy-chan
  
  9 years ago
  
  *fist bumps* friendseys
  
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IIN2?uestionlife

9 years ago

If I were to date someone with no social circle, I would morph our social circles and together we would have less than a semi circle. If shes cool with that then, 'hop in the car woman im running outta gas'.

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

Yes. I don't really have a social circle.

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- Holzman_67
  
  9 years ago
  
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  there ya go I gave ya one :)
  
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- shuggy-chan
  
  9 years ago
  
  Is that cause u always end up draining them of blood?
  
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  - KeddersPrincess
    
    9 years ago
    
    Yes. This is why.
    
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    - shuggy-chan
      
      9 years ago
      
      Hmmm, well feel free to draining me anything then >;)
      
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TareBear20

9 years ago

It depends if their my type or not. Popularity and similar things never really mattered to me growing up. I'm accepting of all people.

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handsignals

9 years ago

Yes, I don't have one either, all she needs now is big tit's and a fat ass and I'm ready to tie the knot.

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- seekelp
  
  9 years ago
  
  What does her one tit possess?
  
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  - handsignals
    
    9 years ago
    
    did'd eye "mack" an other gramitacle (errror)
    
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    - seekelp
      
      9 years ago
      
      probably
      
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CoraCook

9 years ago

Are you the social-circle-less one? Or would that be me? It depends. If we got together it would be just the two of us plus Bill Withers!

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- shuggy-chan
  
  9 years ago
  
  How do u teach a duck the blues?
  
  U put him in the microwave till his Bill Withers
  
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  - CoraCook
    
    9 years ago
    
    Hahahahlol
    
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    - CoraCook
      
      9 years ago
      
      You're such an adorable moron. I'm surprised the FCSN haven't contacted you to be poster boy yet! ♡
      
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      - shuggy-chan
        
        9 years ago
        
        Fcsn?
        
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        CoraCook
        
        9 years ago
        
        I dunno what the "tard association" is called, that's what I wanted to say! :P
        
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edna

9 years ago

No, they could be a queer and I would not want to be disrespecting god by their choice to live an unholy life!

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