Would you date someone who use to be a cutter?

Sure if I liked them enough. Everyone has problems but we all bleed the same colour.

I don't see why not. I'd even date someone who was currently cutting if I thought they were able to be helped.

I believe that everyone gets insecure, stressed and feels like they need attention. People who cut themselves to feel more secure, relieve their stress and get attention are no different to me to people who express those universal feelings in less destructive ways. They need to be helped, because self-harm is destructive, but not looked down on or thought of as inferior or even different to anyone else.

I've got two fairly close friends who cut or have cut before, and they're so secretive about it that it's very difficult to stop them. In one case, the school found out, convinced him to see a councillor and his situation is, I think, now much better. In the other, as far as I know she still cuts herself fairly regularly but is so secretive that it's impossible to talk to her about it.

I've always thought it a strange way for society to think that if someone cries out for help, the best thing to do is ignore them. It seems logical to me that if someone cries out for help, and they need help so badly that they'd self-harm to get it, we should give them help, not look down on them, patronise them, make sweeping generalisations about them, label them and ignore them. That is exactly NOT the way to make them better.

I voted yes because I use to be. Now it depends on the person. A girl I new at work would go around showing people her arm while I would do anything to hide it. A person who does it for attention would obviously need a lot of attention in a relationship and I don't think I'd like that. It's really what the cutting shows about a person than the actual cutting.

I used to be a cutter
Atually, I'd think you'd be surprised how many people (and who those people are) used to be cutters.

I used to cut myself and still have some scars. Not many people know, and I regret it. But seeing as I did, I'd feel a hypocrite if I didn't date someone because they did too. If anything, I'd be in a better position to understand them, or, if they were still cutting, find better ways of coping with stress having been through a similar mindset :)

I would, I don't think judging a person for their problems is right. One should be judged for their positive qualities, and shown help and compassion for their problems. If everybody approached the world like this it would be a lot nicer place.

I used to. I wish I didn't, I now realize my stupidity of doing so. All it done is leave scars that will be with me forever. I had no reason to cut, so I just sigh when I look at the cuts and burns, there was no need for them.

If you're considering cutting; don't, you'll regret it.

I have done, yes, and probably would again. I dated someone who became a cutter during our relationship (which says a lot for me). I don't know if I dealt with it right. I showed I was upset but I didn't make her feel any worse about it.

I cant understand how somebody can cause themself physical pain on purpose, and want pitiful attention?

I don't know, probably not. I know a girl with an extremely pretty fae, but she has scars all over her arms. It's a major turn-off, and she has some convincing to do if she wants to come off as mentally stable.

Ass long as they didn't cut me.

it depends. that usually means mental illness, and i have enough of my own issues to deal with, without worrying about other peoples. if they were completely over all that (even if they had scars) i'd give her a chance if we clicked.

Yep everyone does it

Yep, I am with someone who used to, its just how some people decide to deal with their shit I guess, she doesn't do it now knowing itd upset me because I don't want her to be hurt in any way but yeah, dating someone who does/used to cut is normal.

As long as the don't make a mess on my carpets.

As long as they don't switch from themselves to you... Go for it

yes, i thought of this before, but that might be cause i deep down a goody goody and want to save people i care about

Probably, i would just try to help them through whatever it is that made them cut in the first place

It depends on how emotionally and physically stable they are now... and if I like them enough.

I would. Simply because I use to be a cutter. I wasn't really intense about it, but I still have scars to show it. If they use to be, and they aren't now, then it's really not a big deal at all. It's part of their past that made them who they are now.
My boyfriend knows about it, and he does say it wasn't very smart, but he also knows that it's just my past. He knows I'm embarrassed to admit to it, and he respects me for who I am today.
And I didn't do it for attention like a lot of people will assume. In my life off of here, only 3 close people to me know about my past self injury. I did it in places that weren't obvious to the world, so most people didn't even see. Some people do it for attention, I won't deny that though.

I would and I would try be as supportive and understanding as possible.

i wouldnt care if they still did. :/ they are human too

I actually would love to date someone like that. I love talking to people and understanding how their mentality works. People who have a low self esteem, which I think you must have if you are willing to commit self-mutilation, open up about their feelings easier than someone with a high level of confidence. On top of all that, and this might make me sound like an asshole, but I've always wanted to be a girl's hero. Like someone who will always be there for them and they'll appreciate me for listening to them.

As long as she doesn't start cutting me....lol, then sure.

As one who SIs, I would have no problems dating another cutter. In fact, I would prefer to be around someone who understands what it's like. It's REALLY difficult for normal people to understand..in fact, unless you do it, you will NEVER understand. So, I think I would prefer a fellow self-injurer.

My wife used to when we first met 12 yrs ago, not really bad but every now and then. It was a method of coping with stress, with her father dying and her mother being a crazy person and her not having anyone she felt comfortable taking to. I helped her work through it and she stopped. The scars are very faint now and there's not many, but it seems like she has that part of her past blocked from her memory because every now and then she'll look at them and honestly wonder where they came from, based on that I doubt there will be any relapse.

As long as they're not currently a cutter.

I'm so naive, the first thought that jumped into my head was 'a wood cutter?' >__< I don't know depends how likely they're to relapse

I definitely would if I knew they were past it. I have known several cutters before. It's certainly a touchy issue. I might not if I thought they weren't stable yet though.

What exactly do you mean by a cutter?

I would shit on that persons chest if I found out they used to cut themselves