Would you date a girl who had a kid?

i'm 19 and have dated a 37 year old woman who had children, some people are so blinded by love that they can see past the fact that they have children as well as other things eg age difference, distance, habits etc. they became my best friends as i helped them with their homework, played with them and generally assumed father roll within the household although not all of us are into children but in my opinion i think it is fine to date a woman with children, as long as you have an idea of what you are getting into it can definitely be a beautiful thing. you just need to be careful because going into that sort of relationship involves more feelings then that of you and your partner. you're also never going to be number one either but if you love the girl your with and eventually her kids too it won't matter at all. having a child with someone, whether planned or accidental, is a privilege that we should all be entitled to but when seeing someone who already has a child you must be prepared to love them equally, as if they were your own.. and if they don't like you then you're not in a good position as their opinion matters more to their mother then anyone else. if you meet the girl of your dreams and she just happens to have kids it shouldn't matter how many, how old or whatever.. just be happy for the person she is, treat them how you would like to be treated and they'll return the favor in a multitude of ways as i've learnt.

I'm friends with a guy who is madly in love with a girl who has kids. Hes 31, shes 39 and has 3 kids.. I always thought he's nuts for being okay with falling into the role of Father, but he loves her. I don't think anyone can truly say no unless they don't like the person.

I'm quite surprised by the even spread between yes, no and it depends. I would have though the answer would be strongly one way or the other.

I have no problems with dating someone who has kids, but I have to recognise that this is going to be a lot of hard work. Not only do I have to please her, I would also have to please her kids to accepting me as well. The other thing is that if things go well and I marry her or something, then I cannot really be a father to her children either. If they misbehave, I can't exactly be tough with them because I'm not exactly their father. I could also run the risk of upsetting their mother if I do something she doesn't like. Very complicating.

It just depends on the personalities, the situation, the maturity levels, the needs, the expectations. Think hard on this because kids get attached sometimes and it really is not fair to them if you don't plan on being there log term.

I would if I was a little older.

It depends on how she can handle her kid, and how YOU feel about the kid, because if you want to be with her, then you're gonna end up being with the kid, too. If she's really nice but her kid is a total brat and walks all over her, then that might not be a good situation. But if she's really nice and her kid, for the most part, is a good kid, and you feel comfortable with them both, then why not?

I part. don't like kids, also depends if mom has lots of stretch marks. If yes, than no!
Someones kids are a bigger hassle than your own.

I want to start my own family and not raise someone else's

It depends on a few things - if there's ex drama, if the kids are well-behaved, and, well... how close they are in age to me. I'm sorry, I love me an older woman any day of the week but if her kids are closer in age to me than I am to said woman, it just feels weird.

kids are expensive, a responsibility and just plain annoying. i hate whiny voices, and crying. I want to just smack them little bastards.

I just got a date this friday with this gorgeous brunette girl but she has a kid! I mean I'm 23 and she's 22. I met her through ok cupid, but she apparently used to model and works for Victoria's Secret. I just feel weird that i'm going on a date with a girl who has a kid? i don't know honestly i just don't care because her kid is with the father temporarily so its whatever. But I think i might really like her, i don't know, it just sounds weird you know with the kid in the picture and all -

in their twenties, no. i wouldn't date someone who made the mistake of having careless sex with a bad/wrong man, and now has a kid that they'd be focusing most of their energy and attention on. but thirties and forties i imagine it gets harder to find good people who don't already have kid(s), but i'd still want to stay away from them. if i'm going to be taking care of a kid it better be my own kid who will respect and/or love me as their father. not to mention my ideal life is to meet someone and have a good time and fun with them without kids and then having kids when it's the right time emotionally and financially

Well, I'm a girl and I wouldn't date a girl at all, but I will say that I wouldn't date a guy who had a kid. Hm-mm, I already don't like kids as is. Why would I want to take care of someone else's.

I doubt anyone will respond to my post seeing as it's a year and a half old, lol. But anyways, I lean towards a 'no' on that one.

It's not that a girl who has a kid is the WORST thing in the world, but at this stage of my life I am not emotionally and financially set up to take care of a kid, should the girl and I end up in a relationship.

But I would never rule anything out. Things change and things happen. So who knows.

I think it depend.

she a ho...

if she's hot, sure

I'd nail her but would not want to be in a relationship. I don't need all of that drama.

My dad's new wife did that, and he cut us out of his life. See it doesn't always have to end up bad for ya if you date someone with kids :)

I'de kind of feel like she's only dating me so she can get some help with her kids.

only if Im very financially stable

women with kids will have sex with you more than you will with women who dont have kids

I'd have no trouble dating a woman with kids, but I can't say that I unconditionally love kids, because there are quite a few out there who need some behavior modification!

If she was hawt enough, mehbi

i would date a girl with a kid if she is like 24 or 25 then yeah it makes sense for her to have a kid

no baggage please.

Always wanted to go out with a grl like that:)

Never been around kids.
I am a bad influence.
And so are them for me.

There are kids I like and kids I don't like.
I don't like most of them.
So...no.It's not gonna happen.
We just wouldn't get along.

yes i'd be banging that ass all day long

no i would not! they'll even eat the clothes off the line and when they grow horns you gotta have eyes in the back of yr head (plus they have eyes like satan)