Would you cut all ties with a toxic family member?

This hasn't happened to me or anything, but I was just thinking...

If someone has a family member, like a sibling, parent, cousin, etc. that is just a completely toxic person in their life, and their relationship with that person has done nothing but make them miserable (Even though they say they love them), is it right, natural, or normal for the person to just completely cut ties with that relative? Like, completely disown themselves from their relative, and never communicate with them again.

Yes, it's fine to cut ties with a family member 53
No, you can't cut ties with family- try to work it out 2
Don't cut ties with family, even though it might never work out 4
I don't know/Other 5
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Comments ( 14 )
  • Avant-Garde

    Cutting off all ties is sometimes a very good thing especially, if the relationship was toxic. If I could I would get a restraining order against the majority of my family and possibly even sue them.

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  • niniozo

    I couldn't vote because this is a question I also need the answer to. My father is awful. I won't say why, it's a long story, but I've been trying to cut ties with him, but it's hard because my brothers see him all the time, and he is always just there. even though I don't live with him (my parents are divorced) I've kind of been in limbo for a while, just keeping him at a distance but not ridding myself of him entirely. it makes me miserable and I need to make a decision.

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  • LovingLifeBestICan

    I cut ties with anyone that brings me down, even friends. Why be around someone that sucks the energy out I call them energy vampires.

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  • ccjigsaw

    If I said no I'd be a hypocrite. I hate my sister :D She's a slutty, lazy, slobby, selfish, drug addicted biatch who always thinks she's right. To think all it would take for her to be back in my life even a sliver is a simple "I'm sorry." But of coarse she's not sorry, how could she be when she's never wrong??? Sorry, just really felt like venting that.

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  • Jane2me

    I would only cut ties after I tried to help them. If they need rehab and go, they would need a strong support system in place and that usually means family. If they need the help of a professional, help them to get that help they need. If they are not open to that help the story may be different. Sometimes the family can talk to a professional and with them the family and close friends could stage an intervention. All things would be put on the table by all the loved ones and the way to good health is explained and available. If after all that and the toxic behavior still continues then I would let that person know that the relationship is ending.

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  • wigsplitz

    Yes. I have done it. There's another person I'd like to cut off but I really can't right now for a few reasons. No sense in keeping people around if you can't stand them and they just cause you a whole lot of grief. I can't pretend to get along with anyone, not in the least. If someone pisses me off, they know about it, it's a throwdown. They'd have to do something amazing to get off my shit list. Fuck 'em.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Yes.
    Nobody has the right to harm me, steal from me, lie to me, or make my life miserable. I'd be more likely to tolerate it from family or give a second chance or two but when it comes right down to it, I could give a damn less how many genes we share because obviously they don't.

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  • verppisces030990

    YES! Unfortunately i have many family members like that in my life.. As soon as I can I'm getting out..

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  • Legion

    there are only 3 family members we dont talk to, and thats because they have stolen from and disrespected the rest of my family.

    My family doesn't tolerate thieves.

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  • Legion

    My Aunt was like that, and we helped her get better. Then she found a nice boyfriend, got some money, and started calling the rest of us nasty names, and acting like she was suddenly better than us. good thing she in Louisina, so i just told her to fuck off and deleted her from my Facebook.

    It doesnt matter how their personality is, as long as they dont disown or harm the rest of the family, they are still respected.

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  • GeekiTheBrave

    im never going to talk to my family ever again when i leave the house

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  • thinkingaboutit

    My mom has a pretty nasty neurotic personality. I do not, as of yet, know how to kick her out of my life for good. I'm not against it, I just don't know how.

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    • joybird

      This is difficult. Just always be in a hurry out the door if she phones or calls you. She might eventually get the hint.

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      • thinkingaboutit

        If only crazy people were so simple

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