Would you consider this cheating?

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So, for a while, I was taking Ambien to help me sleep. It causes short episodes of amnesia and poor judgement.
I had this friend, and one night he asked if I wanted to chill, I said sure. My dumbass forgot that we were gonna hang out, and I took my pill, and then an hour later I guess he called me and said "I'm here!" So I told him that I'm a little fucked up off of this Ambien. I don't remember what happened after that, but apparently we went to his place, I smoked a cigarette, and then we had sex? I was not aware of any of this.
In my mind, it almost feels like rape. He knew what the Ambien does to me, so he took advantage of me. I probably consented to it because I was "sleep walking." I love my boyfriend more than I've ever loved anyone (including myself, my family, and everyone else), and I would never want to cheat on him.

Is it cheating if I wasn't even all there? It's a little different from drunk sex. Ambien makes you pretty much black out, and not remember ONE bit of anything that happened.

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  • flutterhigh
    11 years ago

    Wait, who gives a fuck whether it's cheating? You were unconscious, and someone had sex with you. That's rape. Not "almost" rape.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      This.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    You should tell your boyfriend what you told us. He'll probably understand.
    If he does find out another way and you try to explain afterwards, it'll sound like excuses to him.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Fuck I just feel so guilty. )':

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    • TerryVie
      11 years ago

      you trusted him not to take advantage.

      Basically, you simply drugged yourself, other than that, it was date rape.

      I don't think you are guilty of cheating, but i think he is quite guilty of date raping you.

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    • BloodRedAndTrue
      10 years ago

      it should have been your responsibility. so some blame is on you. stop sugar coating shit people!

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    • BearGrylls
      11 years ago

      Don't fell guilty. You're not the problem.

      My advice it go to the police.

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  • IrishPotato
    11 years ago

    Hmm...tough one.
    You were easily manipulated though, and you should definately tell him you didn't like him taking advantage of you, so no. I don't concider this cheating, since your conciousness wasn't there.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I had a Question like this I should of worded it better like you did " .

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Lol so it's either rape or cheating ... I lose either way then, bullocks

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      If you are raped than you did not cheat on him ! you were raped report him!

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        But technically, I drugged myself, and probably consented to it anyways?

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  • Boo!
    11 years ago

    He raped you. You didnt cheat. Go talk to your boyfriend and kick that bitches ass who took advantage of you.

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  • Finding_Peace_In_A_Mad_World
    11 years ago

    That's a tough one. I guess technically it is, but you didn't purposely do it per say. I say you explain to your boyfriend what happened, and he'll understand (hopefully). It will also make you feel less guilty if you get it all off your chest..

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    "apparently we went to his place, I smoked a cigarette, and then we had sex?"

    Wow you should have also robbed a bank along the way!

    Mind you, I say date rape, but a court wouldn't!

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    That seems pretty sketchy to me. First off get rid of that friend, and never talk to him again. Second, it sucks, I have no idea whether to call it rape, or say it is cheating and its your fault for putting yourself in the situation. It boils down to rape or cheating though in my eyes.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    These are difference circumstances than just a normal cheating. But to put it bluntly - unless you call it a rape, it's cheating.

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  • JustDave
    11 years ago

    I actually saw a commercial that stated one of the side effects of Ambian is "engaging in activities that you later can't recall" or something like that. I wouldn't want to take the stuff for that reason alone. Maybe it tells of that effect in the warnings or instructions. It could help you explain things to your boyfriend.

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    • JustDave
      11 years ago

      I just googled "side effects of Ambien" and it does state "some people may engage in activities like driving, eating, & making phone calls with no later memory it." Good luck with your boyfriend. I hope he's understanding.

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