Would you break up if you found out they were not as into sex as you

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Let's say wow you met an amazing amazing woman or man and you're blown away. They're gorgeous, they have lots in common, you laugh like there's no tomorrow, you really understand each other but then later on you find out they are not into sex as much as you.

Theyll have sex and they love it but it's not a priority and they like to sometimes not have sex for a week or two.

Would you break up with them?

-----I'm actually asking because I've been with a guy for 7 months and everything is going so well but then I finally confessed I'm not wanting to have sex every week and sometimes I don't feel like it for a few weeks and he said I should have told him this months ago and he broke up with me but we didn't even have sex until 5 months in because I said I like to take things slow and he said it was fine because he respects me but then when he found out I'm not as into sex he left me. 🙁-----

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    I'm a relatively conservative woman, but honestly I would probably not want to be more than platonic friends with such a person. This guy probably feels like you pulled a bait, and switch on him.

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    I have gone my whole life without having sex till now and do fine. I would just see it as something positive they bring all the other things into a relationship I like. Besides you do get to have sex with them based on the description anyway, so its not even a big deal

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  • Boojum
    2 years ago

    Rose is right: as a guy, this sounds like bait 'n' switch to me (although once a week after five months of abstinence means the bait wasn't all that alluring to begin with).

    Sex isn't the be-all and end-all in relationships, but most people find it very important, and a good sexual connection between two people in an established relationship creates the sort of bond that's not experienced anywhere else in life. I'm sure that those with no interest in sex will declare that BS, but it's something they never have experienced and never will, so that makes as much sense as someone deaf from birth declaring that music is meaningless.

    If sex something you'd rather not do or if your ideal arrangement is having a guy on tap for the rare occasions when the urge for it may strike you, then you should be up-front about that from the start. As guys go, I've always been well down on the scale of sex-obsessed. But even if you have the most astonishingly scintillating personality and our interpersonal connection was totally simpatico, I wouldn't have hung around in an exclusive dating relationship with you for five months hoping for something to happen. What's more, I'd like to believe that it would have taken me less than two months of weekly sex to pick up on the fact that it was really not important to you.

    It sounds to me like you'd be happiest with someone who is asexual. They're not hard to find these days.

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  • Mini69
    2 years ago

    Men are always into sex so it’s highly unlikely that would actually happen. But I do like to be in control, so I have broken up with a few men because they don’t like to be dominated by a woman.

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    • techpc
      2 years ago

      Not always. Both genders have people with low and high libido. Some people find sex very important in a relationship, and some people don't. Please don't paint half the population with one massive brush.

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      • Mini69
        2 years ago

        I guess that’s true, but research does show that men in particular are extremely sexually motivated in most cases. I’m not suggesting that’s a bad thing, I’m a woman in my 50’s but I am very motivated by sex and enjoy a frequent and varied sex life. By varied I mean the activity not the partner. I have been with the same man for many years.

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  • John671671
    2 years ago

    Not wanting to have sex every week? That doesn’t sound like too much sex? I’m surprised he stuck around five months.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    I would break it off right away because if I didnt and I fall in love with her I'd just be miserable my whole life with her.

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    My ex rarely wanted to have sex and when he did, he got on and he got off. I was miserable. We were together for 7 years and then I broke up with him.

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  • ellnell
    2 years ago

    I've had a man do that to me. According to him I was his "dream woman" and I can agree we usually got along extremely well but i'm asexual and he had high sex drive. I can understand his point of view though.

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