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For clarification when I say angry I mean extremely angry, as I'm sure many people would be at least somewhat stunned by such a question.
If your boyfriend were to ask you if he could sleep with another woman or bring another girl into the bedroom for a three-way would you be extremely angry?
For clarification, your boyfriend has not cheated, and this isn't a demand he's just asking for your consent.
| no | 28 | |
| yes | 20 | |
| I'd leave him | 15 |
I sure as Hell would not appreciate the notion. I would say no of course, and if he insisted I'd leave.
I wouldn't be angry, I would probably appreciate their openess with me.
When your initial reaction is anger when someone is asking something or sharing something personal with you, it only closes that person off from you. Better to have an open mind and listen to them and if that's not something you're comfortable with then tell them but don't lash out at them.
I would be very upset and I would probably leave them honestly. Just because I personally believe that sex and love have an important connection that you really shouldn't ignore. Ignoring this ultimately leads to a less meaningful connection with your sexual partners. Partly because they are just that, another sexual partner.
I would take what I say with a grain of salt though, just because I personally don't even look at other people as sexual at all when I'm in love with someone and I've been told by other people that this is crazy and that no one is like this. I just wanted to give my two cents
My belief is what's important is to not fake or suppress your emotion/reaction to it. Why curb how you feel based on what others think? There's a difference between being angry at someone, and communicating that something made you angry (or whatever other emotion), yet not punishing them for their transparency. Tricky, and not exactly easy to do, but there is a lot more maturity and emotional intelligence in the latter.
I wouldn't be upset at all. I wouldn't say yes to him doing it on his own we would have to do it together but I'm bi and currently in a poly relationship with 4 others. I have my gf and one of the guys has a gf and the other guy is single tho he some times brings girls home. In our house we all have sex with each other but that was all agreed on when we became a poly family. There is alot of threesomes but at times there can be alot more than that in bed at once.
Its really a personal decision if you can't live with it don't do it. You need a very stable relationship and alot of communication. Good luck.
I can't give you good advice since there is nothing consensual about the sex I have with women.
Why be angry though? We need to communicate our desires and discuss them like adults.
We have people like Fluffy1uv here, they wont even look at other peple when they are in love.
Then there´s people like me that is absolutely into stuff like this as long as everyone involved is consenting.
An innocent question is no reason to get mad. Now if my boyfriend had said "Hey That new girl from work she´s totally into the idea of having sex with us :D" then I´d be pissy because he´s been discussing it with her before he discussed it with me (Had I been someone who isn´t into this, now my boyfriend knows I´m into it)
If he had NAGGED and WHINED then you are free to leave if you desire. But to leave someone just because they communicate their fantasies? Most men I know dream of a threeway ...
I could probably end up liking that. Threesome or them doing it with me watching? or doing it with her first then asking me for a bj. I could actually really like that. Maybe. For the right girl. or girls. I dunno (/.\)