Would the world be better if everyone had lower sex drives?

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To make my thoughts (not beliefs) short, the idea is that whether directly or in a more abstract indirect way, one could argue that a lot of what humans do is driven by their sex drive whether it be subconsciously or consciously. And one could also argue that a lot of what humans do is fucked up.

So Im just curious as to whether or not you think a world where every human alive had a sex drive that lets say was cut in half would be a better world or a worse world?

Try not to think of it too much from the point of view of your high sex drive/ your desire for sex because after all.. in this world you wouldn't really know what you were missing in that regard, you'd just not desire sex as much or orientate your life in as central of a way toward fulfilling it.

What do you think? less aggression? No war? a lot less rape? Disadvantages?

Yes, definitely better	11
no, definitely worse	3
Might be a little better	7
I think overall it might be a little worse but it could have some benefits	1
neither better or worse, for every gain there would be a somewhat equal loss	3
other- comment	1

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SwickDinging

4 years ago

Have you seen the episode of Seinfeld where George decides to become celibate? His life improves vastly. Amongst many achievements he develops a broad range of high brow hobbies, learns how to really listen when women talk, and his career takes off.

I'm not saying life would be like this but your post just reminded me of the episode. Maybe things would be better...

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- Doesnormalmatter
  
  4 years ago
  
  Have you also seen the movie called '40 days 40 nights'? Guy goes celibate for lent and it screws his whole fucking life up.
  
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  - SwickDinging
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yeah, I saw that. He also got raped at the end! But his new girlfriend blamed him?? I guess this was back when everyone said men love being sexually assaulted so it didn't count...
    
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    - Doesnormalmatter
      
      4 years ago
      
      Yeah, the plot had some holes. Why did nothing happen when he got raped? That is so not okay!
      
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      - SwickDinging
        
        4 years ago
        
        I dunno. The naughties was a really weird time in the media. I remember a lot of very morally questionable films from the time...
        
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Bumfuzzle

4 years ago

7-11 sells 10,000 pots of coffee an hour, every hour, every day.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  feel like i maybe see your point, will you elaborate?
  
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  - NoLifer
    
    4 years ago
    
    I agree!
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  lol ok...
  
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CountessDouche

4 years ago

Nah, it's only one of the many reasons people act like cunts. If it ceased to exist, they'd just have more time to focus on their other cunty pursuits

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  That could very well be true, i suppose it'd be hard to say for sure, my inkling is different than yours as i think sex drive may have much deeper roots in a lot of negative human action (as well as positive of course) , but i certainly think you could be very well right.
  
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  - CountessDouche
    
    4 years ago
    
    Oh, it's definitely an interesting question. Humans are social animals, also biologically programmed to procreate, and one could argue that the pursuit of any power, status, or money is either directly or indirectly related to the need for sexual status. It's so deeply tangled together that it would be hard to sort if we would pursue the same social markers without the impetus of sexual power.
    
    It's one of those questions you can't really answer.
    
    I guess it depends on how cynical you are.
    
    I'd argue that sex has the potential to create many positive things as well as negative.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      You said in your second and third sentence what would take me 6 sentences of rambling. Essentially my thoughts exactly, only so much more eloquently worded than I could ever do as you can see below in my wall of text comments to others haha.
      
      and yes, I suppose you're right, It is perhaps impossible to answer. Im not so sure their are many real life ramifications/benefits to be had from pondering such a question either.
      
      You get me wondering now about how much our capacity to love and empathize with others is also reliant on these desires and things that branch off of them. It does seem to be all rather entangled as you say. Of course you could say that most of us have some form of love in our life that is completely detached from the lustful side/sex drive. But i wonder how much our ability to love people intimately when fulfilled echoes out into those other areas of love. Perhaps if their was no intimate-love-void (no pun intended) to fill, it would effect other areas of love. Then again, authentic Asexuals aren't psychopaths... orrrr are they? *cue illuminati music*
      
      Man, lost in a word salad now.. trying to articulate fleeting thoughts..not sure if it's for any good, non the less, I really love your last response, thanks for taking the time to share it.
      
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      - CountessDouche
        
        4 years ago
        
        Oh thank you! That's such a nice thing to hear. I don't think I'm particularly eloquent when it comes to the big questions- million thoughts an hour.
        
        I suppose I think of sex as one of the many things we require from another as a social species. If there weren't needs, wants which required other people to fulfill, I suppose we'd just blob around on our own, like independent little bacteria cells. The need itself creates a need to interact with other people.
        
        Needing anything, of course, opens the window for pure selfishness, the desire to manipulate others to meet that need, but it also opens the window all of the good things that come from interacting with others: communication, the sharing of knowledge and ideas, the notion of having a community, etc etc
        
        Would humans interact at all if we didn't WANT something from one another, be it security, food, sex, emotional fulfillment. All the getting & giving, the exchanges of these social currencies - they're inherently open to abuse, but offer a lot as well.
        
        Like I said, it's a crazy complicated question.
        
        Anyways, you did not write a bunch of word salad. I find your thoughts interesting. It's an interesting subject to think about!
        
        I word saladed Haha. Let's sprinkle some philosophical croutons on that fucker together
        
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        McBean
        
        4 years ago
        
        M'kay. Major consideration: Monogamy. Here's why. Human evolution depends on two outcomes of sexual selection.
        
        1) Concentrating the genes of inferior people into loser offspring who will be eliminated from the gene pool.
        2) Concentrating the genes of superior people into winner offspring that will fuel evolutionary change of the species.
        
        The problem is that if everybody fucks everybody, you are only creating offspring with high sex drives. Winner and loser genes are not separated. As a species, humanity goes nowhere.
        
        My conjecture says there is an optimal level for sexual drive. Too much and life becomes an orgy. Too little and procreation fails. But, just the right amount and you have monogamy, families, education, better institutions, and a torch of human enlightenment being lifted ever higher thru the centuries.
        
        You're one of the few who rises well to the challenge of critical thinking. I know you won't disappoint me. Your go.
        
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      turing test failed
      
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  turing test failed
  
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litelander8

4 years ago

Well worded. Good poll. Cheers

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Can't help but sense some sarcasm? lol
  
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SkullsNRoses

4 years ago

I wouldn’t mind this at all. There is the obvious benefit that sexual abuse and harassment would take a nose dive. “Sex sells” would be less accurate so advertisers and TV shows wouldn’t feel the need to constantly “sex it up” with unecessary suggestive and sex scenes, forcing them to be more creative. STDs and unwanted pregnancies would plummet. Asexuals like myself would likely be more accepted. I could go on.

I don’t think it would have much effect on general aggression though. Excessively high sex drives cause problems but sex drives are not the root of all evil.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thanks for sharing, ya those would be good benefits for sure. I wouldn't say the sex drive is the root of all evil, but i do feel that perhaps it plays a deeper rooted role in a lot of human behavior than i'd originally think when seeing it at face value. I suppose to an Asexuals that might be even harder to grasp, i don't have a particularly high sex drive but i do feel that it motivates men to do all sorts of things, good and bad. the unsatisfiable hunger for power and prestige obviously has a lot of driving factors, but i wonder if sex drive is a big enough factor to where if it were removed or greatly reduced the rest of those motivating structures would fail to be as strong. Sort of like zapping out a lot of the testosterone heated male dominance alpha male complex.
  
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- Bumfuzzle
  
  4 years ago
  
  Um actually, The only king without a moustache in a deck of cards is the king of hearts.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    4 years ago
    
    is that really true?
    
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    - Bumfuzzle
      
      4 years ago
      
      Yes, on most standard decks
      
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- Doesnormalmatter
  
  4 years ago
  
  Good points! All the advantages listed are true, but to me it would be weighed out by other things. This is when it depends on what 'the world being better' means to that particular individual. To me, I suspect that people enjoy life and suceed in so many things because of sex, that people would ENJOY life less, even though many objective negative factors like sexual abuse would be reduced. I am not expecting you as an asexual to agree with me, but at least know why I don't agree.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    4 years ago
    
    valid point, it could be that everyone would be more sad and passive with less lust pumping through their veins, but then again in this world you wouldn't really know what you were missing in a way, just your internal desire for that particular pleasure would be less, i feel that humans would just gravitate to other pleasures for fulfillment. Because after all that is kind of we all do best is seek pleasure, I don't think in the absence of that particular pleasure we would be empty handed in finding other ways to fulfill it.
    
    it takes some metacognition i suppose, because it's hard to separate our understanding of how we feel now with how we would feel in this hypothetical scenario where we would be unaware of how we feel now.
    
    after all in a way right now you don't wish you had "100 points" more sex drive, you don't sit around sad that you cant experience this un imaginable higher level of sex drive, or maybe you do but it's only imagination at that point because you cant actually experience it or really even accurately imagine the reality of it, the point is you don't waste your life thinking about it.
    
    in a way desire just kind of comes from within, its quite mysterious in a way, you dont control it and you don't miss potential desires that "could" be their. We are somewhat unable to forcefully create a new true desire or feel absent of a non existing desire within. maybe, right? feel like it's turning into a free will/no free will discussion now lol.
    
    I like hearing your thoughts though, you make a lot of good points.. keep sharing.
    
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    - Doesnormalmatter
      
      4 years ago
      
      That is my main argument, it sounds good in theory, but we do not know what it would really be like. I also am of the belief that sexual desire plays a role in motivating many people to strive for sucess to appeal to the opposite sex. Sex is a way of expressing yourself that is unparalleled, and a society with less desire for it would have more depression and suicide in my reckoning.
      
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Doesnormalmatter

4 years ago

Overall, I think the world would be WAY fucking worse!!! (no pun intended)

I would elaborate more on why if ya'll wanna know my reasoning. But keep in mind that we as people, love to think that things would always be better if it were something it were not.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  this ya'll would like to know your thoughts.
  
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  - Doesnormalmatter
    
    4 years ago
    
    To save paper, look at my first reply to Skullsnroses and what countlessdouche said I also agree with. People would find other reasons to try to take advantage of others.
    
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