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If you had a major falling out with parents (who made you suffer) would you step back into the scene upon hearing of an illness? The will has been changed but there is still time to reconcile and the money is big. I wonder what others think.
| Would I ever! | 24 | |
| No way! | 16 | |
| Maybe | 18 | |
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No way!
My parents were quite abusive when I was a child. As an adult, I did my best to forgive them for it and maintain a positive relationship with them, but my father was unrelenting in his hostility. This past summer, he did something so shitty it effectively ended our tumultuous relationship. Even though my father's always been a massive prick, he's still my dad and the falling out left me feeling gutted and I became severely depressed for a couple of months (I'm better now). I had to make a decision to never allow him to treat me that way again, even if it meant that I would never have a relationship with him.
If I found out he was terminally ill, I would probably not visit him. I feel as though he is already dead in my life. Unless he gave me a sincere and articulate apology for his years of abuse, he is not welcome in my life.
My parents don't have large amount of money to hand down, but they do have a large amount of land (which is worth a couple million). I love that property; it's where I grew up and, when I sleep, most of my dreams still take place there. No matter how much I love that beautiful place, losing my integrity is not worth seeing it again.
I'm the type of person who can hold a grudge for a long time or just write people off completely without thinking of them ever again. If I felt the situation was enough for me to back away from them, I'm not sure i'd care enough to come back. The money wouldn't matter to me at all. If I don't like someone, I want nothing to do with them or their money or anything else.
Personally for me, I would not flatter any of my family members for my own personal gain. There is a Knightly Quote that I live by and embrace proudly. " Life is worth more then Gold but Honor is worth more then Life ".
If I ever lost my Honor (Or my Integrity so to speak), I might as well cease to exist. My Honor is one of the few things that makes living worthwhile to me.
If they were deplorable individuals undeserving of respect or love I'd happily manipulate them into giving me a large inheritance.
But if they were actually pretty good parents I would step back in to the picture because I love them, not because of the money.
It really depends on what the hypothetical falling out is about and what kind of people these hypothetical parents are.
That the will had been changed to exclude you after long suffering and a major falling out is just more of the same. So I wouldn't go back except to see to their health and maybe not then if it would result in more harassment.
Being related does not mean one has a right to mistreat nor does one have to suffer it. Period.
Admittedly some may be desperate or greedy enough to, or feel that getting the money would be their best revenge. Me? No way I'd get sucked into debasing myself!
Not for money, no. For my own mind...I don't know.
I haven't spoken to my father in many years. But I have been wondering recently if I would visit him if I found out he was dying. I honestly don't know what I would do. Sometimes, I think I would want to, for closure. Other times, like Squirrel-Whisperer said about her father - he's already dead to me now.
Its terrible, but there really is a lot of people out there that are like this. I wouldn't though.
Not in a million years. If I didn't want them, I don't want their money. It'd be tainted, as would anything I bought with it.
Maybe, it really depends on the nature of the argument. It's not as much for the money, as to get closer to relatives that would soon pass away.
Hmm that's a tough one... But if they really made me suffer, I wouldn't feel much guilt with it, lol.
It's better to be rich in the soul than rich with physicalities that waste away with time.
I wouldn't do it for the money. If they were declining in health I'd make up with them just to be on good terms for their passing.
Legally speaking, I can't be disinherited, so it's a non-issue. I am also the only person who gets along with everyone in my extended family.