Would my boyfriend like my family?

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I'm just over 30. I've been with my boyfriend almost a year. I love him to death, i found my true love pretty late but it came so strong. I've always been very confident, mature and i think i'm an attractive and cute person. However with my current bf i'm acting totally differently, i start loosing my coolness. I wanted to be with him all the time and I literally cancel my plans whenever he's available just to spend more time with him. Long story short, I love my bf's family, they're really nice people. I'm from different country and my family background is a lot different than his. My dad has bad temper, negative and the king of the house. Everybody should listen to him whether he's right or wrong, but still I love my family so much. I wish they live as long as i do. Now, my bf wants to visit my country to meet with my family next summer. Btw, he's pretty serious with me, he says he loves me and i'll be only woman in his life (hasn't proposed yet though). I starts panicking now that what if he doesn't like my family, we're not rich, plus my dad's personality. I keep thinking about this all the time and the feeling is just getting worse. I really really don't want to loose my bf. Am I over thinking this? sorry for the long story, i never post sth before, please bear with me and any type of comment will be great comfort for me. Please help! Thanks.

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  • Skittlesforlife
    13 years ago

    If he was serious about the loving you forever part and he doesn't consistently ask for sex then he is will except them for who they are no man can feel for a woman that much and toss her away because of a little problem like your family isn't very open to him, or he doesn't feel he can do something or ever commit to you. No, a man like that is hard to find ironically there are three kinds of men:
    1. Sex craving guys: these are the pigs of all men they tell you they love you but just end up banging you and leaving but the good thing is you can easily spot one of these unless your drunk (which is one of there tactics) to spot one these you must understand what they want of course sex but there are very rare and terrible guys that you should never date that want you to pay the bill for the meal and they will just leave after they get what they want and try to get it fast it is almost imposable to date one of these guys past a week or two

    2. Deep emotional and passionative guy: these guys are very rare to find and are either very clingy (and) or will be willing to spend the rest o there life with you

    3. And guys that are really not sure of themselves: these are the oddest kind that often come up as shy and and then end up trusting you and the most important thing is to never ever ever cheat or do anything that can cause him to consider not trusting you if you don't like the guy just tell him gently and let him feel that he isn't the problem.(most guys are this)

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  • candy8
    13 years ago

    I think it doesn't matter whom your family is it matters who you are so don't be worried because he love you for you

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    Good luck! I hope everyone gets along. It's hard when the family doesn't like your man, and vice versa...

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  • callb4ucome
    11 years ago

    "if you like it than you should have put a ring on it"

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  • PieIsYummy
    13 years ago

    Talk to your dad before hand and tell your bf " my dad is a asshole"

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  • Sugarcoateddoll
    13 years ago

    You should definitely tell your bf about your father and generally what you feel. Tell him you are scared that he won't like them cause of the money and your father. He will most likely support your fear and make you feel better

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  • candy8
    13 years ago

    Not your family

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  • Deltoran
    14 years ago

    If he loves you, he will not mind. Just explain all this to him before you go, and he should understand.

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  • codhubiv
    14 years ago

    Your Dad sounds like a real a-hole, tell him about your sexual antics, that will shut him up

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Tell him what to expect so there are no surprises. Approach it as a couple. He'll love you for it, if he loves you. And who knows, he may just charm your dad.

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    • destiny123
      14 years ago

      Ollieo, Thank you so much for the response. I think that's the best advice. You made me feel a lot better. Thanks.

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