Would it bother you to be good friends with a close-minded person?

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I have this friend, and I've been friends with him for about 3 years now. I didn't see him very often before, but lately we've been hanging out alot. He's a really good guy, very caring and honest, but the only problem I have with him is that he's very close-minded many times, and doesn't allow himself to be open to suggestions.

I'll give an example. We'll be at an Italian Restaurant and the scenario goes like this -

(Waitress brings out our drinks)
Him: The coke isn't cold enough. Would you bring this back and bring me a colder one?
(Waitress walks back to the kitchen with the coke)
Me: The coke has ice in it. If you wait alittle longer it'll be cold enough.
Him: I shouldn't have to wait even a second longer, especially since I'm hungry.
(Waitress comes back with the coke and our meals.)
Him: There's not enough sauce in my Pasta. Please bring it back for more sauce.
Waitress: Okay then... (Walks back to the kitchen with the plate)
Me: There wasn't enough sauce? It looked fine to me.
Him: There's nothing wrong with having alittle more. Either it's done exactly how I want it, or I don't want it at all.
(Waitress comes back with his meal looking frustrated)
Him: Oh, you're aggravated. I don't want people who don't like me to serve me. I don't want the Pasta, just bring it back.

It would be like this 60% of the time when we go out! I mean, I'm a straight-forward person myself, and I like to be open about things that bother me and things I don't like, but I really feel that he's being extremely excessive, especially with the most smallest things! He can't be even alittle understanding about so many things. Has anyone ever dealt with someone like this, and how did you handle it?

It would bother me. 28
It would bother me. I dealt with people like that too. 24
I wouldn't put up with this person. It's not worth the frustration. 46
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  • wigsplitz
    13 years ago

    That's not close-minded, that's just annoying and petty. He probably gets your and his food spit in.

    Try doing it to him when you go to his house. Complain about everything. See how he likes it. Or manage to record his behavior and show it to him, he may be embarrassed enough to stop. That behavior is just horrible and I wouldn't want to be seen with this guy. Sounds like someone who gets off on demeaning people-refer him to a slavery or dom/sub sex club so he can get out his frustrations in a more acceptable manner.

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  • Kutieadb
    12 years ago

    My family acted like this whenever they would go out, they would act they were better than the server and that the server should treat them like royalty because they were paying for it. It embarrassed me to no end and it makes me sick to think about being around a person as haugty as that. No matter who a person is in your life wether it be your sever or you dentist they deserve the same respect no matter what.

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    • Kutieadb
      12 years ago

      Server*

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  • dinz
    13 years ago

    By the sounds of it - tell him to open his own bloodly restaurant

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  • BirdyMojo
    13 years ago

    I would be freakishly embarrassed to be in public with him! That's just annoying as 'you know what.' I've had company like that before, I about slit my wrist. LOL. Good luck with your little friend.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You'd be the one I'd avoid. People who quibble over nonsensical things annoy me to no end.

    As to your friend: Who cares? The man knows what he wants and he's not bashful about getting it. Maybe you should stop whining all the time and let him be.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      It's not a problem when he's by himself doing these things, the problem is when he's like this around a friend.

      The thing that you have to understand, is when you're around people who you consider friends, you have to be alittle understanding and flexible, because nobody can have a good time when somebody is being difficult.

      Some people out there like to think that their actions solely affect them only (Which is also close-minded thinking), but it doesn't. Friends can make you look bad and embarrass you just by acting out on their own.

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      • DiscoDuck
        12 years ago

        So what is making you keep him as a friend??? Do you consider friendship like marriage or something. If he or his actions are a problem cut him loose simple as that....don't whine about it, just move on away from the problem. [period]

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        13 years ago

        The problem is that he thinks it's ok to be like this at all, alone or with a friend.

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    You know, he sounds pretty straight forward. And he's a customer after all, he just wants it to go well and smooth with a girl like you around. He wouldn't risk embarassing himself in front of others and so he takes precautions.

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  • zenji
    12 years ago

    Why not just shoot at the waitress' feet and make her dance?

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  • Haeven
    12 years ago

    Sounds like he's a selfish jerk, not just close minded, no offense. :) I mean, you can't expect people to cater to your every little whim, sounds like he just needs to stop sweatin the small stuff, and just deal with it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I couldn't be bothered to hang around with some-one like that. Though as you have known him a long time, it might be best worth mentioning it first to see what he says about it.

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  • EbonySheep
    12 years ago

    Confront him/her. Ask the individual what's going on in their life, what's wrong. He or she is probably insecure or feels insufficient in some way and is projecting their frustration with life and with themselves on to other people. S/he needs to set goals and/or find some sense of purpose or that person will be unhappy for a LONG time. You could help prevent this.

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  • TotalAspie
    12 years ago

    I'm in a similar position with my grandparents. I'm related to them, yet ironically, I cannot relate to them. Both grandparents are not that educated, and they're the products of the rural south in pre-WW2 America.

    I hate what both of my grandparents think about a lot of things (as well as the hows and whys), but I'm in a position to do nothing.

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  • gogo45
    12 years ago

    I would say it takes away from the time that your spending with them and it does make it very uncomfortable. I know a person that when we go out, they act like their the spokes person for the whole group, such has w"ere not tipping them beverage they took to long", or being bossy on what to order and what is a good deal in their eyes. They make it very uncomfortable and not even worth dining out with. I would say tell him about it.

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  • Chokolate
    12 years ago

    I bet they did something to his food :D

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  • BigKahunaBurger
    13 years ago

    Just let him be himself. If he's stupid enough to be rude to someone who is about to serve him food, he'll probably get what he deserves sooner or later. If I were that waitress I would have spat in his sauce =D

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  • Flea50
    13 years ago

    You can't realy handle it because its just his personality. But your could try talking to him. He sounds very annoying.

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