Women who "dream" of being housewives... :/

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Seriously? How can some people be so unambitous? You don't want to be president? Be a millionaire? Make the guinness book of records? Be a celebrity? Win a Grammy? Climb Mount Everest? You would rather just conform to and reinforce the homogenous stereotypes that The Illuminati penned over a hundred years ago to keep humans tame and vapid? You'd rather change diapers and cook three meals every single day of your life?

Also, this contradicts the decades of fighting feminists have done for gender equality. You just want to go straight back to the prior times? Being a domestic slave? Just palm off all that effort feminists went to for you? Unblievable.

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago | pl

    "Also, this contradicts the decades of fighting feminists have done for gender equality. You just want to go straight back to the prior times? Being a domestic slave?"

    That's not what it is about. It's about the rights and the opportunity to choose what they want. If they want that and it makes them happy, what's it to you? Does it impact on you personally? If the answer is yes, then I think you need to have a look at why what other people do to make themselves happy is such an issue for you.

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    • dom180
      10 years ago

      Exactly.

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  • Shrunk
    10 years ago | pl

    "change diapers... every single day of your life"? umm most kids grow out of diapers by, what, 2 years? Also, you gotta bring the Illuminati into this, really? credibility = blown. You best be trolling, son. Not all women (or people in general) have a desire to be rich and famous, nor do we all agree with feminism. Get over it.

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    • TheInsignificantGirl
      10 years ago

      People who don't agree with feminism generally do not know what it is. They just listen to what the media tells them and do not realise that they remain constantly a Google away from enlightenment.

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      • Shrunk
        10 years ago

        ok. I don't really care enough about it to google it nor would I watch/read/listen to "media" discussing it. but if feminism is against a woman being a "housewife" then I disagree with it.

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        • TheInsignificantGirl
          10 years ago

          Nonononono. It's not against a woman being a housewife. Feminism is about giving women the support, choice and opportunity to become whoever they want to become. And why would anyone be against that?

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    I am a guy and I wish I could be a househusband.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    10 years ago

    I disagree. I think people should do what makes them happy. It doesn't have to be exactly what you define as happiness, but people find happiness in different things. For someone women (and even men) being a parent and spouse is a purpose for them. It gives them a reason to live. There's nothing wrong with being a housewife anymore than being president, CEO, a mountain climber, whatever. People should live their lives the way they want to live it.

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  • Unimportant
    10 years ago

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman who wants to be a housewife, as long as that's really what she wants.

    Certainly there are dangers on this road. But aren't they everywhere?

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  • Goomats
    10 years ago

    Some women LOVE babies, fashion, sex and housekeeping. It's just an opinion like any other.

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  • Hugh*Janus
    10 years ago

    I want a housewife who wants to be a housewife.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    If you have a problem with it, you should just learn to deal with the fact that other people have other wants, needs and desires in life. It might not seem like a 21st century ideal, but if some people want to live like that, who is anyone else to give them hate for that?

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  • bananapie
    10 years ago

    Some people want to be housewives/husbands and others want to make a career. I've studied at a university and worked every summer break for the last 5 years, yet I'd love to be a housewife. Everyone is different :)

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  • thr
    10 years ago

    What's good about climbing Mount Everest?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You disgust me. Who are you to say how another woman should get fulfillment in life? You are right and every stay at home mother/homemaker is an unambitious jerk?
    You are the quintessential fem libber that I have come to detest in a very long life.
    It takes a hell of a lot stronger woman to take care of a home and raise her children herself than it does to be a professional woman and farm out the responsibilities of their child rearing.
    You are a very big part of what is wrong in America these days, and your are no part of what's good.
    A woman in America CAN be anything she chooses (for the most part), but she has no right to denigrate those who don't choose to be like YOU!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It's kind of ironic given that some conspiracy theorists believe "feminism" was something made by the "illuminati" so that women would be able to get taxed, thus the people in power gain more money.

    "Also, this contradicts the decades of fighting feminists have done for gender equality. You just want to go straight back to the prior times? Being a domestic slave? Just palm off all that effort feminists went to for you? Unblievable."

    This bit astounds me, as it shows that you think women should be for feminism more than feminism should be for women.
    I read that most women when adding up ones openly admiting it and those secretly wishing it, that they were housewives, that most women want to be that way.

    Being a "House wive" is not a "slave", it is a housewive. Who would you consider more of a slave in this situation, a woman that stays home and does work modern technology makes capable to be done within two to three hours, or the person they want to be a housewive to that works full time to pay for that technology that makes her work easier work?

    Let me get something straight here. You claim feminism is about fighting for what women want, yet when "WOMEN" deviate from what "you" want (feminists), they are a disgrace?

    This sums up feminism nicely. You're not for helping women be what they want to be, you're for making women be what "you" want them to be. So empowering. -Sigh-

    Despite this, I do not like the idea of housewives in general. Sure, be one if you want, but I think modern technology has made being a housewive all too easy to the point of not even needed...Maybe that is why some wish to be housewives.

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    • Hugh*Janus
      10 years ago

      While I agree with much of your post (your delivery is awful though), I'd like to know how you figure it's 2-3 hours of work per day and also why you dislike the idea of a stay at home parent (whether male or female). If I ever get married and have a family I want a stay at home wife. I think not having a 24/7 parent is what has really contributed to the mess in society. I don't believe people who are too preoccupied with outside jobs have any business taking on a family and kids especially.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        A housewive would be cooking and cleaning, right? If you did it properly, with the correct technology easily obtained today, it can be done. I've cleaned a whole house and cooked before and it was done within that time (hence why I was saying two to three hours).

        I never said anything about a stay at home parent, this is a housewive, not a stay at home parent, nothing about parenthood was brought in to this, from my understanding.

        I have no problem with stay at home parents, like you said, it's best for society, however I see no reason for a housewife to be a housewife.
        Yeah, the idea of it is nice, but the practicality of it is small.
        Why have someone in the house doing domestic chores that you can do easily by yourself? Why not be of extra use and work for a better income, or perhaps work and put that money in to a savings accout for when they have a child and then become a stay at home parent/housewife?

        They have a right to do what they want, but to me it is't "slavery" like this perso suggests, to me, it's taking a very easy way out. If we didn't have so much technology making it all so easy, I would understand, but not now.

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        • Hugh*Janus
          10 years ago

          Ah, ok I assumed you meant both with and without children. My bad.

          Yeah I agree it's not slavery.

          Well I guess the time it takes depends on the demands of the household and the technology they can afford or fit in the house. It would vary. I think 2-3 hours is a low estimate though because there's more than just cooking and cleaning. Shopping, budgeting, lawn care, laundry, errands, things like that. I'm probably forgetting a lot too.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Possibly, you do have a point thta it would vary, but I think on average people don't have a larger house that would vary it that much.

            You are right, there are more than cooking and cleaning, there is shopping, and so on. I'll go down a list of things of how I think of it.

            Cleaning:
            Dishes - Dishwasher.

            Cooking - May take a while, however not a costant effort, i.e not having to stand at the oven until it is done, etc.

            Lawn work - I personally have not seen many women do the lawn work, it has been the guy, or someone called in, but even then, it is not something needed done every day, or every week.

            Shopping - Delivery.

            Budgeting - That is a good point, but it isn't something that takes much effort (I tend to do it for family).

            Laundry - Washing machine and drier. Folding them, etc. It depends on how many people live in the house, which would be two, man and woman, or woman and woman, etc, you get the jist. I have five people in this house, it was six previously, and it took about fifteen minutes when someone was folding them in to their piles of who's who.

            Errands - It depends, I suppose. Could you specify?

            I don't know, I just haven't known a family with this structure to have it divided like the worker goes to work, and the house wife/husband stays and does everything else, in all the cases I have seen, the person working has also had things to do after work, like you said, errands, budgeting, and so on.

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    • TheInsignificantGirl
      10 years ago

      NOOO that does NOT sum up feminism nicely!!! Feminism is about women having choice and oportunity and suport to become whoever they want to become. Feminism is labled 'feminism' as oposed to 'gender equality' because, although they share most of their characteristics, feminism concentrates on bringing women up to being on par with men. Because women are below men in more areas than the ones in which men are below women. I won't bore you with examples unless you request them.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Oh, ho, ho, ho. I do request them. I request them so much. Don't be surprised if the outcome of our discussion is not of what you expect, though. Lol.

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        • Hugh*Janus
          10 years ago

          Well I'm not going to sit here and argue minute details. Everyone's needs, finances and household appliances vary so the exact time spent "actively" laboring will vary greatly. My interest in having a housewife stem more frim having someone who is 110% dedicated to running shit 24/7 and taking care if things PERSONALLY rather than how much time she spends actively physically working. While she's not physically working she is still having a vested interest in our needs and wants and putting maximum effort in. I know I could hire, have delivered, have machines do work but nothing can replace a true mate. I find a lot of value in that. If you don't then whatever...but don't insult those who do.

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        • TheInsignificantGirl
          10 years ago

          Men hold higher management positions than women. http://www.catalyst.org/knowledge/statistical-overview-women-workplace

          Men earn more than women. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_pay_gap

          Women are raped more than men. And a lot of them are blamed for it: http://www.womenundersiegeproject.org/blog/entry/eight-reasons-why-victim-blaming-needs-to-stop-writers-activists-and-surviv

          In some places it is illegal for females to go to school. Basically all of this link. http://www.rawa.org/rules.htm

          Need I continue?

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Yes, and men hold more positions in construction, engineering, and so on. Men also hold the "lowest" positions such as bus drivers and bin men, but I don't see anyone striving to make women equal there.
            Women also hold more positions in teaching and psychology than men.
            The reason for this is because men and women gravitate towards different jobs. More men than women gravitate towards engineering, construction, and management than women, so more men will get those positions, just like more women gravitate towards teaching and jobs involving mental health, which is why more women are in those areas than men.

            An inequal conclusion does not equal an inequal opportunity.

            Yes, men "on average" earn more than women, and this myth of men earn more for the same job has been refuted multiple times now.
            The statistics were made by seeing how much men and women make "on average", not how much men and women make for the exact same job for the exact same work done.
            Men work two hours more than women on average, they take less leave than women, they do the riskier parts of the jobs that risk health and safety, education also comes in to play for it, and men gravitate towards jobs with higher pay than women do, such as I stated, construction, engineering, and so on, which pay more than the jobs women tend to gravitate towards.

            So women aren't "paid" less, they "earn" less. Some studies have also stated that when a woman does have the same qualifications and pulls in the same work, she actually makes around 10% more.

            Actually, no. More men are raped than women, as this article states:
            http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2449454/More-men-raped-US-women-including-prison-sexual-abuse.html

            The reason why it is assumed more women are raped is because male rape is not taken nearly as seriously, and the whole "women get blamed for it" is ridiculous. That whole myth came about due to "one" officer saying "what were you wearing", which then resulted in the "slutwalk". It isn't an epidemic, it doesn't happen often.

            Despite this, did you know that 70% of all violent crime victims are infact men?

            As for your last one, I agree. That is terrible, but what has "feminism" done to stop it? If feminism spent most of its time helping women that "really" need it in foreign countries, then I doubt most would have a problem with it, but instead they work on very small or non-issues because it brings them money and are, in all seriousness, a selfish group. If it doesn't effect western women, then they don't care as much, even if women in the other areas suffer far more.

            So yes, you're going to need to continue

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  • Hhhhhhhh
    10 years ago

    I'm not even gonna read the comments because they'll make me angry. But girl, from one feminist to another, you need to appreciate that just because a woman's personal goals and ambitions happen to coincide with the status-quo, doesn't mean she is disrespecting the efforts of other feminists. It means that she is pursuing her own dreams regardless of whether or not that would be viewed in a positive or negative light. Another feminist whose primary goal was to start a family might hold a grudge against feminists like you for making it seem like we all need to be married to our careers and "dykey*". This would also be wrong though. As women and feminists we need to respect each other's decisions and show that either way, we are in charge of how we choose to spend our lives. *sorry for using the word dyke. I am a lesbian as well but I do not think its a nice word at all.

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    • arthurtheaardvark99
      7 years ago

      thumbs up!

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    This is highly controversial!

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