Women's rights - the downside

i don't know.. being a housewife is kind of boring. i have too much ambition for that..

Though you have a lot to be thankful for too...

Youre no longer a mans property after marriage
You can own a home
You can use a credit card
You can do whatever you want with your life.

Of course there are downsides, but I think the old ways would have been worse. :/

Tell that to Muslim women.

I agree to a certain extent. I don't think your problem is with women's rights though. I think it's more of an economic one. An average way of life is just so damn expensive nowadays. I know what you mean. :/ Have you considered downsizing? My husband and I did, and it has worked out brilliantly for us. Now, we can afford to have one of us stay at home while the other works full time. We alternate every year or so.

Wait... Umm lol $60k a year between the both of u and ur not living "well"? Wtf r u doing wiping ur ass with money??

Lol srry for the disrespect. Its just weird. I never lived in the same house 4 longer than 2 months until i was 17. I never had a bed, we never had heat, cable, or hot water. Now im 20 and i live in a decent house and i live off of less than 17k a year. I wish i made half of what u make

Now (MOST) Families simply cannot get by on only one income and most moms HAVE to work.So I agree with you that sucks.
Personally,when I have been at home it worked better for everyone.Laundry was done,lunches made,dinners made,kids happy and house clean!
Times when we both work,there is a lot of stress,we don't see each other much,the house gets messy and the kids feel neglected.

I have news for you, life isn't easy! I'd rather be respected than be a housewife have the supposedly "good-life", while my husband and other men treats me like GARBAGE! Deal with it...

This isn't really a downside. You are in no way under some feminist obligation to have a career and support your family.

As far as the inflation thing, there were lots of poor people before the women's rights movement. It sounds like you're thinking of the 1950s in pretty stereotypical terms, which really only applies to part of the population. Women who weren't rich and/or white in the 1950s had it really bad. They were still poor, but didn't have the option of getting reasonably high paying jobs to help support their families. Many women are still in this position today, but women's rights have helped massively. Back then, women in your position were just stuck being poor.

In conclusion: STOP ROMANTICISING THE 50s. The 1950s were an awful time to live for a lot of people, and things have gotten much, much better. It's still socially acceptable to be a housewife, and the women's rights movement is not responsible for your financial position today. Yes, if you just look at rich white people in the 1950s (which is almost exclusively what people talk about when they talk about that time period, unless they're specifically talking about civil rights), it looks pretty alright. But life is still pretty great for rich white people today, so that's not really a fair comparison.

Oh god I can't stop myself, please forgive me but... Make me a sammich!!!

My wife works, and I stay at home and take care of the kids. And honey, lemme tell ya, that shit IS a 9 to 5 job. You'll be begging for work after a year, gurranteed. I love my kids, they're great people, it's a blast to watch them grow up, but seriously: it's tough fucking work.

why the hell would you want to be a housewive? i'd rather make my own money and not really on men for anything i like being single

The kind of world you dream about is pretty much a thing of the past. I don't think we'll ever see it again ... I understand you -- after all, if I was a woman, I'd love to just take care of the housechores and hop to the supermarket, like it was the '50s or '60s. But men and women alike are rushed off their feet these days. Since the '70s, prices have kept going up, wages have stagnated and we've got an ever-increasing older population to help pay for their care. It's no wonder both sexes have to work.

Lets ask our Russian "pals" how they do things over there? Cange THAT obama!

I was a stay at home mom and lost my mind, which for me I think is bc I graduated from college two weeks before my son was born. However now I would love to be a stay a home mom, who could voluenteer to keep myself "working" stimualted but unfortunantly cannot bc I am now a single mom. Here is something to consider although the idea of being a "Suzy homemaker" is nice, many women of those generations were abused by their husbands (and it was 'ok') and were on some form of anti depressants. (which sadly is still the case today, but at least we have options) I knw women's lib isn't your issue per se, but I would rather be living in our generation than theirs, for the simple reason of that we can make choices. I do agree that taxes and inflation are way out of control which creates a non option for familes who would love to have a stay at home parent.

I tried the housewife thing and nearly lost my mind. I'm too goal oriented to stay at home. I found something I like to do and I'm much happier. Being totally dependent on someone else is risky. I remember the '50's and it was a sad time for women. Do what makes you happy.

I understand your point, but consider this: If your husband leaves you, or dies, and you're a former housewife with no job skills (and maybe even with some children to take care of), you'd be in a way worse situation than you are now. Not having to work is cool, but independence is priceless.

Maybe you should do what I'm doing. Become an author. You choose how long you work and you can stay at home while doing it. I'm 21, never had any qualifications and my 1st book has been published a short while ago. I'm happy enough living the life of an author because I'm my own boss. =o)

Its not about taxes. Its not about going back to the 50s, which for a lot of women were not that great. It is, as you say, about choices.

I think to have those you need good family policies.

Anglo-American countries don't have these. In countries that do, there are choices with leaves, generous child benefits & child care & so families with a full-time a part-time earner are more common than here here it is 2 full-time, full tilt.

Me too .. i wish I could just be a nice housewife with an over protective husband :-) x