Wish things could be the same

Hey all N thx for reading. first i wanted to say that i was very close to one of my cousin, loved her and spend as much time with her as a bf and gf. well that is what it turned out to be. we both know things were not normal cause of cousins that we are. we kissed and used to hug and all that, but things changed after i got married. we all went separate ways. i saw her again after 6 years. we spoke just for abt 5 mins. i really wanted to talk to her more but it wasn't the right time and place. not that i wanted things to go like it used to be but just to be friends with her. i don't expect thing to go more than that. I'm married and just wanted to keep in touch . well its been over a year when we met again, for a cook out with her family. i saw her and started to talk to her. we spoke all about the old days how things used to be between us. nothing of what we did ofcourse. but positive answers and stories about watching movies and so on. well in my mind right now is that i want to speak to her and be a friend again with her. i tried a bunch of time to contact her through FB, but never got an answer. after i told her abt it she sead that she was going through a rough time. i end up asking her number so could talk to her again. All i wanted is friendship and nothing else. its been a day now passed that i did not contact her yet. my question is to you all is to tell me if you think i put in a position where she couldn't say no, to give her number to me ? and second.. if i should try to call her or start by text after a few days.
i really don't want her to avoid me again.it would mean the world to me if she could even talk to me once a while. if she don't reply or contact me back it'd be like a whole act that she put when we were talking . Pls let me know what i should do.