Will you date someone with very different political views from you
E.g. You're a hardcore democrat and he's a fan of republicans
| Yes | 32 | |
| No | 30 | |
| Maybe | 36 |
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flutterhigh
The hollywood rom-com answer is supposed to be "of course, love overcomes all!", but I highly doubt it - for myself and for the majority of humanity. I'm not the kind of person that defines myself by my political leanings, but I would find it incredibly difficult to relate with someone on a cerebral level if they had "very different" sociopolitical views.
The idea that "opposites attract" is a myth. A more accurate phrase might be, "lesser differences can be reconciled". Catchy, I know. But plenty of statistics and studies show that people tend to seek (and ultimately end up with) partners who are quite similar to them in terms of political worldview, religious belief, economic background, etc.
I definitely wouldn't automatically write anyone off for having a different political stance from me, but it's hard to deny that it would make a relationship significantly more difficult.
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[Old Memory]
I've only ever dated really dumb women who probably couldn't spell political, so it's not a problem for me (;
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TerryVie
no. but then, republicans and democrats are close enough to not be different in the grand scale of things. I would neither date a left-wing nor a right-wing radical person for extended periods of time.
People attempting to bring religion into politics, I'm not even mentioning.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
DannyKanes
Of course :) I'd still date a girl, even if we were different religions, it wouldn't matter to me
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qwerty098765
Depends on the aspects we don't agree on I'd say.
I really like to discuss politics so I don't really mind if someone doesn't share my views, but if we'd disagree at a very fundamental level (eg him thinking that democracy should replaced by oligarchy) then I'd say it's not possible.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
suckonthis9
We must end the Republican and Democratic stranglehold on this country. Both parties are controlled by a corrupt corporate elite.
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anti-hero
I rarely agree with you to this degree. You are totally correct. The American government has been run by corporations since the industrial revolution (at least that long.)
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suckonthis9
Please consider this: The corporate elite and politicians are usually one in the same or work hand-in-hand with one another. Almost every politician is influenced by a religious organization. Are you not helping to support these greedy, corrupt people by participating in a religious organization? Who taught you these religious beliefs? Do you see that you have been trapped by them?
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myownopinions
Yes, we would just mutually agree not to talk about politics (mostly, though, it's because I hate politics in general).
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Frosties
I have some fairly right-wing friends (to a pretty major degree in some cases; one of them suggests hanging the mentally ill from lamp posts because they're a drain on society) but I don't think I've ever dated anyone who didn't have liberal leanings (I don't mean liberal in the American sense, by the way, but the wider sense). I don't think I could love someone with strong right-wing views, but I'd certainly date them.
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anti-hero
Damn Tories! (That statement may be out of date, but only by a few hundred years haha)
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NeuroNeptunian
Your friend sounds like an idiot 12 year old.
Care for, accommodation for and education for the mentally ill is a sizable part of our economy. If they were all to die tomorrow, well, the economy would take a huge blow.
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Frosties
He knows he is being an idiot but he works in the financial sector and sees things in terms of profit and loss. He sees people the same way. He is very right-wing (Republican) and believes that if you aren't of any use, you should be exterminated for the good of the growth of your own country.
It's not a philosophy I go along with. :)
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Frosties
He's actually a really nice guy and it's very good to have someone like that to debate with. Especially because, logically, he's right. We could be a richer country if we didn't look after all members of our society. Not that I want that kind of country.
It's not a black or white situation, though. It's a sliding scale. On one end you've got my friend (and Hitler) and on the other you've got Marx and Engels. And I'm just another point on the scale. I think I hover closer to the Communists than the Fascists, though.
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NeuroNeptunian
I understand his logic, but the fact that we are a cooperative society and not a straight out, cut-throat, anything goes to get the resources society si what makes our society the society that it would be regardless. Without that element of humanity then there would be no Capitalism to defend because we would have spent more time killing each other as opposed to educating ourselves in order to gain the upper hand.
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hamwich
Wow, that's intense. I wonder if he'll feel the same way when he gets old and needs help from others to take care of himself.
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Avant-Garde
I don't think so. I mainly consider myself to be a liberal and I don't agree with the tea party or rightwing republicans. I don't think it would work out enough to even start up any form of relationship.
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BurnaBaby27
You could always give it a shot. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. At least you could say you tried.
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NeuroNeptunian
Depends on whether or not they give that big of a shit about their ideologies. There are way more things to talk about than politics. Hell, my husband and I have the worst, most violent and brutal arguments about literature and useage of metaphorical content. Maybe THAT'S something I should have been watching out for...
I've been in that boat before, I am a church-going southern Christian and I dated a hardcore atheist Democrat. Maybe, if he'd have spent less time going on about how my religion was illogical and brainwashing everything that it touched, and more time putting out, I might not have actually JOINED the church and we might have stayed together longer than a few months. I remember having to hear this all of the time, on dates, at car shows... gah...
I couldn't be with someone who HAD to be right and HAD to have everyone agree with them unless we had literally everything in common and no disagreements... granted I doubt I'll ever find someone like that. Gotta settle somewhere!
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nAt2017
It really depends on whether or not he supports certain campaigns. Abraham Lincoln was a republican (of course, he was also an outspoken white supremacist, but let's not go there).
I go to a heavily liberal private school. There's one outspoken Republican student (and a couple of Communists) and the rest are all pretty Democratic. The Republican boy is all about shooting and gun rights. He insists that he has control over what women do with their bodies, and is never talking about anything other than meat.
The thing is, I know that not all Republicans are like him. He just happens to be one of the more violent ones. It really depends on circumstance and perspective.
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flutterhigh
Wait wait, let's go there. Source on Abraham Lincoln being a white supremacist? Not because I'd vehemently deny it, but I've never heard that before.
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nAt2017
I was a bit surprised when I first learned it too, but if you look in his debates with Stephen Douglas, he always said that whites were more sophisticated than blacks. And, believe it or not, he didn't like abolitionists- he thought that they sturred up people's emotions and didn't respect the law. Our Abe was very much a man of law. The reason that he opposed slavery was that he saw it as an injustice through all time, not just inthe case of African-Americans. Historians often defend him, saying that he probably didn't have any idea that he was a supremacist. The term wasn't even used at the time. Where he was raised, the idea of whites being superior was simply viewed as common knowledge.
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iEatZombies_
Yes, but that's not to say others should. It depends on what's important to the people involved in the relationship.
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