Will i ever meet someone so great?

I think the concept of The One is BS. Also, anyone who believes that the sensation of falling in love is what they should be searching for is setting themselves up for disappointment at the very least, and possibly a journey into some very dark, harmful places.

Lust, infatuation, chemistry, a sense of amazing connection to another person and fantastic sex are all real, but that stuff is about instinctive urges, brain biochemistry and usually a hell of a lot of wishful thinking and seeing only what we want to see in the other person. If you're fixated on the idea that those feelings are what you need to experience in order to be complete, then you'll meet lots of people during your life who will push the right buttons. But for the vast majority of people, those feelings are just a phase at the start of a relationship, and they'll start to fade when reality intrudes into the romantic fantasy and you begin to see the other person more objectively.

If you've bought into the idea that the giddy, obsessive, dream-state at the start of a relationship is actually love, then when those feelings pass, you'll probably believe that you've fallen out of love, dump the previous object of your fixation, go looking for another Mr or Miss Perfect and the cycle will repeat. Alternatively, you might persist in believing that you've found The One and Only, be determined to stay locked in that delusion and remain with someone who's actually very bad for you.

Falling in love is as easy as falling into an open elevator shaft, but real love is about discovery and dealing with the human imperfections of yourself and another person with communication, negotiation and compromise. Real love isn't about the dopamine hits you get every time the focus on your current infatuation looks at you, touches you or says something nice to you. Real love is about decisions people make from second to second every day, and two people deciding that they both get something positive and rewarding from the relationship, so they're willing to put in the work necessary to keep it alive.

I do believe the chances at love are limited, not because of some "the One" idea, but because our previous experiences of love shape our future experiences. Being heartbroken is a painful experience that can discourage you from trying again, or letting yourself feel once again. So I think it's all in your head in the end. You're the one who decides how many chances at love you get.

So, yes, if you shut yourself to love you won't meet anyone that great again. But if you decide to heal, surround yourself by things that make you happy you can have that feeling again and again because, after all, those feelings of love and passion were inside of you, not outside in some other person. You created them, and no one can really take that away from you.

To answer your questions:

1. You can fall in love numerous times as long as you're open to it. If you give up on yourself or people in general, you wont fall in love naturally, but rather look for someone to "fix/save" you or fill in that void.

2. You don't have to settle. Just understand that genuine love is a mature, selfless feeling; it's not as exciting or blood rushing as the first limerence experience you've felt when you were a teenager or young adult. Love is something that roots itself deep inside you to the point it's a state of being rather than something you have to maintain/regain.

3. Of course you can find someone great again, there's billions of people in the world and thousands in your area alone.

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Love mistakes people make often:

1. Limerence/infatuation is a rush of emotions that center around lust. It's not love, but instead the seeds that can potentially create love. (More info: https://www.loveatfirstfight.com/relationship-advice/relationship-stages/ )

2. There are plenty of misunderstandings of what love truly is. Often people see love as a cure for their selfish desires. Love me so I wont be lonely. Love me so I can feel "whole". Love me because I love you. Love is a lot of things, but it's selfless at its core. You love because you want to, not because you get something out of it.

3. "The One" doesn't exist. It's all about compatibility, chance, and risk. Dating is a gamble. To increase your chance of finding someone compatible, you simply do your favorite activities that involve interacting with people (ie gaming, clubs, etc). Then when infatuation hits, you'll have to keep a clear head and take that risk.

4. You can't force love. Too many people try to force feelings by using "fake friendship and gifts," to increase their chances and lower the risk of rejection (rejection doesn't kill you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0R_vu73qqIg ). Love cannot be bought nor can you win it over with niceness like a dog or cat. Humans are complicated, and the best way is to tell that person immediately that you like them and see where it goes.

5. Know yourself, and know what you want. If you're experimenting, let those involve know. Find out if you're monogamous, polyamorous, gay, etc. If you don't know yourself, then you'll put a lot of pressure on your partner to figure this out for you and ultimately be hurt if they don't meet your standards; it's time and energy wasted for both.

6. Know what's important. Meaning, what type of characteristics, values, type of humor, and beliefs you find more attractive and can easily coexist with. Too many people focus on appearances and sex, but age makes all that temporary and meaningless. What are you going to do when you're too out of shape to have sex or didn't age as gracefully to attract a new mate? What's the end game? You want someone you can see yourself growing old with, not because they're hot/sexy, but because you two make a great team and you can trust him/her.

In the end, put yourself out there and live life normally. If you see someone you like and want to start a relationship with, ask if they're single and confess. If someone likes you, keep an open mind and take a chance or directly tell them no (don't go "maybe" or give them hope).

I think you make it "the one". It may start as ordinary but then can become extraordinary.

The problem with falling in love many times is that you carry the memories of each time that it failed with you. This could cause the lingering feelings of disappointment and sadness to be associated with falling in love, tainting it.

I don't think you can feel the same way falling in love after the first or second time. That's not to say that you can't come to love someone, but you may be more reserved and less excited.

The more times something amazing happens, the less amazing and special it tends to become. I believe that having a surplus of relationships tends to make people jaded.

Also, there's a difference between the sensations of falling in love, and real lasting love. My comment is only about the feeling of falling in love.

I definitely think everyone has atleast one "soulmate" out in the World, whether you meet them or die trying. I personally think you have a few chances before (depending on who you are) you start to get desperate

'The one' is bullshit. Hormones, emotions, personality and luck of the draw determine who your with. However, your chances are not very limited. Only limited by the years you have, the list of compatible partners is enormous, and you could only reach a very small percentage of them in your life time.

don't anticipate love, it's the best way not to find it. I don't know the details of your question, really. I mean if there is a limited number of possible times you can fall in love. I kind of doubt it. I don't think there is a set number of times. I do know what things happen for a reason. There is a destiny of somebody that you would be pre destined to be with. Or it's possible your destiny is not to be with anybody at all. You don't know. What you can do is really just ask yourself and sleep on it and try to figure out if you are meant to find "the one" that cupid will guide you to.

I don't necessarily think of this sort of thing as fatalistic in the sense that there might only be one, or a handful of so called chances.