Will different lifestyles ultimately make me leave a great guy?

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Hi everyone!

I am a full time college student who is in her early 20's. I live dozens of miles away from my university, I commute daily, and I am still an honors student. I am not trying to brag about my academic life. Rather, I am trying to let you all know that I work very hard.
So far, my college experience has not been about partying, drinking, or experimenting. Actually, the last four years have been the hardest years of my life. I had a very abusive father who tormented the rest of my family all of my life. He became crazier than ever. He then abandoned us without warning. My family and I have been suffering from the damage he has caused us, emotionally and financially, every single day. We have very little money yet we have to pay for the mess he caused because he disappeared one day.
Despite my problems at home, I continue to push myself to become the very best person I can be.

Okay, that's all you need to know about me.

I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for 3 years. When I am with him, I usually feel happy. He is very sweet and optimistic about life. He has also been supportive of my family and I during this difficult time.
My boyfriend comes from an upper middle class family. Let's just say that he will never have to worry about being financially secure because his parents will be there to support him. My boyfriend lives on campus at the same university I attend. Every day, he hangs out with his friends. They drink, have fun, and do whatever the heck they want. Honestly, I only get to see him four times a week for an hour or two at the most. To make a long story short, my boyfriend is living a completely different lifestyle than I am.

So, what is the problem? He is really beginning to bother me. Even though he is sweet and accepts me for who I am, I am beginning to think that it's not going to work out. My boyfriend sometimes invites me to attend parties with him, but I never can because of my hectic life.
Am I crazy or is this a normal way to feel?

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    life is not fair, some just realize it later than sooner.

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  • instazombiinaboxx
    12 years ago

    It's normal for you feel that way. It's similar with me and my new step-brother. I've struggled my entire life while he wanted and needed for nothing. Now, I work my butt off for things that his family just hands over to him. Essentially, you and I understand the value of certain things, be it education and degrees or a reliable vehicle. We might work hard but we will appreciate everything that we accomplish and work towards. It's a feeling that they most likely will never know.

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  • femmefatale12
    12 years ago

    You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Honesty is the best policy. But don't dump a good guy over something that could potentially be avoided!

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you're resenting your boyfriend because he is able to lead a more care free life. I think you should break up with him before he becomes one more stressful thing in your life.

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