Wife never says my name

Maybe ur nickname is "you"

He's saying she doesn't use pet names either, if I'm understanding right. No real name + no pet names = basically no name at all. Not normal if that is the case.

she obviously doesn't know your name

I really wouldnt like it if my husband wouldnt call me by my name or reffering with an nickname like 'sweety' or 'darling'. You make it alot more personal when using someone's name.

Why don't you make sure you do the same back. Maybe then she'll realize it kinda sucks.

This us normal for some people to be. I'm like that. I rarely use peoples names when I talk to them. I don't know why, it just makes me feel weird to call people by their names unless I absolutely need to.

I don't think that there is anything particularly wrong, but nothing particularly right either.

You need to slap her and say "what's my name, b!tch??!!!"

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I have mild Aspergers and cannot say my partners' name. This has plagued me since I was about 20 years-old (for more than 20 years). I hate that I cannot do it. Every time I started a new relationship, I would make myself say her name, but it is a horrific thought. I really just cannot do it.

I do this. Its not intentional or meant to be disrespectful, in fact I cant even say why, its just how I am. If I have to say someone's name I actually cringe inside, maybe I have a mental disorder lol.
Sorry if it makes you feel bad but at this point its unlikely to change.

Heisenberg is hard to say!
You know what John Prine says, "neighbors think my name is 'where the hell you been?!'"

"Say my name/Say my name"

~Sorry I couldn't resist:)

It's not normal and strangely disrespectful. The least she could do is care enough to call you by your name instead of saying "You". It's rude. I was thinking that she might have a memory problem but that would be easily remedied if she would just ask you for your name. Why don't you give her a taste of her own medicine? See how she likes that!

lol maybe she doesn't know it

My parents never really call each others first names either, they call eachother "Darling" .. all the time. Unless they're angry. I notice alot of couples only refer to each other by first name when they're mad at each other or something.

But you should really tell her it upsets you, just make it clear. :)

You're not being silly at all.....I love it when the woman I'm involved with says my name.

Why not ask her why she doesn't do it?

Lol some people have trouble with names, I know I don't ever call anyone by name. I feel awkward, like I'm mispronouncing or something.

I never call my boyfriend by his name because I don't really like it. haha. we've been dating for 2 years and when I have to say it i cringe a bit inside.

I mean you married. That only works if you TALK to EACH OTHER, and tell them what bothers you, if it bothers you that she don't say your name then - TELL her. It's not that hard. But maybe she doesnt know your name- you should find out dude!!

Well, it isn't much of a big deal. I hardly call anyone, let alone my family, by their names.

I have been married for damn near 10 years and have never called my wife by her first name.

I call my husband "pet names" the majority of the time, but I also call him by his real name on a daily basis. And he pretty much does the same. It's normal. Shouldn't upset you unless you're afraid she's on calling babe to keep from mixing up names. . . Which would be bad. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

If she consistantly does it then she's not doing it deliberately. Does she interact this way with her parents ? Do her parents interact with each other like this ?

Honestly if this was a problem for 2 years and it bothered you so much then why did you marry her ?

I'd reccomend not responding until she calls you by your name. Don't do it back, that's modeling a behaviour that you don't want her to have, while it may make you feel like you are getting revenge it's actually counterproductive.

Unfortunately you are going to have to train her like an animal (no, not with dog biscuits), positively reinforce the desirable behaviour (go above and beyond when she uses your name), offer no reinforcement (don't react at all) if she just calls you "you". Don't get mad, don't tell her off, but don't do what she wants until she uses your name. It sounds childish, and she's probably going to get pissed at you, but it will eventually work.

Shes detached! As if you are irrelivant ir something, call her on it and do not respond unless she says your name or pet name! It's kinda a respect thing too, and I agree with stone, stop calling her by any name see how she likes it

Lmao@ mrs issues!

I never call my husband by his name only if I'm really mad at him :) he does the same

Lolllllll. You you you!!

Is your name Dick?

She is being very disrespectful.

I was the same with my girlfriend, I found it weird calling her by her name for some reason maybe shes like that. OR MAYBE YOU NEED TO MAN UP AND SLAP HER AROUND UNTIL SHE DOES EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT THATS HOW MARRIAGE IS MEANT TO BE