Wife cheat

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i found out that my wife cheated me.
after i suspect that my wife cheated i talked to her about cheating, and i mention thah i had cheated before, long time ago. she admitted that she did also.
when we start talking about it, i realized that they had anal sex, and that pissed me off more then anything. the thing is , i didnt sleep with the other firl i met, we just touched each other and kissed (it was in a night club, while i was drunk). now i just wondering , kissing is one thing but go to someone else home and have anal sex is totaly diffrent !!
i dont know what to do , cause on the one hand i did cheat on her as well but i just dont fell its the same. she just said that cheating is cheating and besides it was long time ago and i should forget the hole thing. what should i do ? i am 36 and she is 32, married 4 years and no kids.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    What skintight said

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    You don't need to be a rocket scientist to figure this out. Get a divorce.

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    That is a HUGE difference!! I mean arguing over which movie to see and beating the hell out of her could both be called fighting. But do you think they are the same?

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  • bam361
    13 years ago

    ok dude my wife cheated on me with who used to be my friend multiapule times while i was at work then filed for a divorce to date him we had a son(now passed away) and for 4 months fought for back i told her forgave her now i do have to metion i did not sleep or try to get with anybody else while we was seperated and in the long run i got her back....there is a thing called forgive and forget

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    • BoredGuy
      13 years ago

      I bet people walk all over you all the time. Normal, if you have no respect for your self noone else will have either (including your trashy wife)

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  • Bikertrash69
    13 years ago

    I tried to live with a woman that cheated after we were married. I tried for a long time and ended up in divorce. Never could get past it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I would never cheat on my girlfriend. I also find anal sex wrong. But I agree with all of the above comments. Seek counseling, talk to her, do something. Your both in the wrong, don't blame it on one or the other.

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  • Bling24
    13 years ago

    I think there is a big difference between what you did and what she did, mostly because of the intent. You went out got a bit drunk and made out with someone. She went to a mans house and had sex. Both wrong things, but her actions sound more as if she planned that to happen. I mean spur of the moment kissing someone, fair enough (especially when drunk). Spur of the moment going to another persons house and doing it... no, there had to be some degree of thought before that happened. You are totally right to be mad at this, if it was me I wouldn't be able to look at her again without feeling hurt and betrayed. As to how to deal with the situation... I guess you just need to think about if you can get over it or not, and if you still love her.

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  • theRealDeal
    13 years ago

    I could not take what she did-period. Big difference! Yes, cheating is cheating, but she should have kept that shit to herself!! I feel for you my friend!

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  • husband
    13 years ago

    thanks for responding, but are guys for real?
    i mean , i am sorry for my language, but she got fucked up her ass and this is like me just kissing and touching other girl? do u realy think thats normal or am i the only crazy one here?
    i am going crazy , dont know what to do...

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    Obviously its different acts, but STILL shes right...cheating IS cheating (in my opinion) BOTH of you are wrong for what you did. Its just plain wrong & hurtful. Theres no "what you did is worse"...ect. I think you guys need to reconsider your commitment to each other, & seek counseling. OR go seperate ways, OR have an "open" marriage. There are many options, do what works for you.

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  • skintight
    13 years ago

    You are both wrong. You both need to get over it or get over each other.

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