Why wont he ask me out?

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OK, so me & this guy really like each other, we've both told each other, and meet up on a weekly basis just to hang out. We've made out with each other, and can't seem to keep our hands of each other. I really like him, and really want him to ask me out. Im pretty sure he knows this, as my freinds have said they've told him.

Problem is, he has said he's been hurt in past relationships & so is taking this one really really slowly. Which i totally respect, because i dont want to just throw this one away, i want it to work.

I think he is scared of getting hurt again, which is fair enough, because so am i. How to i prove to him that im not going to hurt him, that hurting him will only hurt me.

Ive already told him that i want this to work, he knows that ive been hurt and that im scared of getting hurt again, but i've made it pretty clear that iv'e thrown myself into our relationship.

What can i do to be his girlfriend, all i want is the label, to be officially his, and for him to be mine.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think he is full of shit and using you. And you are letting yourself be used.

    "HELLO - WAKE UP!"

    Make out? Can't keep hands off each other? Did you ever hear of dating and becoming a girl friend BEFORE all the touchy feely stuff?

    He doesn't respect you so respect yourself, learn something and move on.

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    • bingo2468
      14 years ago

      my boys and girl friends , the person who has written the question is from hindu family, and she just cant think the way you gals can think!!!

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  • Hunter0820
    14 years ago

    I'm a guy and trust me. It takes a lot of guts to ask someone out, especialy if you've been hurt before. Just give him some time and space.

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  • jrphotographer
    13 years ago

    Just give him some time, be patient. He'll ask you out soon enough :)

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  • colie50
    14 years ago

    I think that maybe you should confront him saying that if he isn't ready to commit to a relationship, then you aren't comfortable with all the touchy feelyness that's happening. Tell him that you feel degraded that he's willing to make out with you but he isn't willing to put himself at risk. Remind him that sometimes risks are necessary in order to move forward and, even if he is afraid of getting hurt, are you worth it to him? Because if not, then maybe he isn't worth it to you. Put it all out in the open and then let him decide. If he decides that you aren't worth the risk, then maybe you should go fishing again. Alright, I know, I know. Bad joke. Fishing, fish in the sea. Get it?

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  • boofle
    14 years ago

    why dont you ask him out?

    if he needs time then give it him, the more you pressure him the more its going to drive him away.

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  • Aleks85
    12 years ago

    you are going to hurt him, you're female right? I know his pain.

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  • Nukechoo
    13 years ago

    If you really like him, and he really likes you, then waiting shouldn't be too much of a problem.

    You've already said that you work well together, so its not an issue of whether of not it will work, it just an issue of being ready. Find out how he was hurt, friendship is an exremely important part of a loving, and sexual relationship.

    To keep things moving, I suggest planning something special for him, other than just the weekly meet up, something to let him know how you feel.

    Don't pressure too much, but don't tell him to rack off either. Either would be a mistake.

    You can't hurry love.

    Hope these comments help! Don't give up, I think you'd regret giving up.

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  • blaaacksheep
    14 years ago

    Give it up. This guy's not ready. Maybe it's you; maybe it's him. But if it's already not working out, it's only going to be more painful in the long run. Don't drag it out.

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  • Iku_Nagae
    14 years ago

    I can only think of one thing to do, just wait it out a bit longer. The worst you can possibly do is try and speed things up. Take it slow and with a stride.

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