Why was my online gf better than my real life gf?

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My online girlfriend and I had more comfortable and open-minded relationships. We liked the same TV shows, had the same opinions on marriage, life, almost everything. She was a girl I paid actually paid attention until she gossiped about shit I couldn't relate to. Anyways, I had other female friends online, and I got along with them, but it was just shallow conversations. I was more of my alternate self. But we separated after we got lives, though we originally planned to meet. We still have eachothers numbers though. I had two girlfriends since. First was just good sex. Now the other is good, romantically. And the sex is good but she, too, only gets my alternate or "outside" personality. My online girlfriend understood the real me but was amused by my other side. Our phone sex was hot too, so I can imagine us in rl. Maybe I need to let go.

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    Of course she's better. You idealize her, and you don't have to deal with any of the complications of real life.

    If you want to give it a chance, you need to meet her. You cannot continue on with fantasy land "dating," which will always be superior to real dating...mostly because it's not real.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I really do want to meet. I think our real life relationship would be better too.

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      • CountessDouche
        8 years ago

        You should meet. I think you'll always wonder if you don't. Disappointment is preferable to a big huge "what if."

        I don't think online connections are not real; they're just different.

        In a sense, they can be more honest because you don't have the pretense of first impressions (mostly because most online interactions start off being non consequential), but they have the potential to be less honest too; people can misrepresent themselves, and even if they don't, it's easy to project your ideals onto a person, and fill in the blanks, so to speak.

        There's only one way to find out. I hope it works out. Good luck : )

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          We had lots of drama too. Which is why we separated. We know about eachother's good and bad sides. Thats why I fell for her more. If a person is too perfect online I start to get bothered because I can't keep up with that. I'm not shallow. Those type of people I don't bother to have personal contact with. But I already know what turns me off about her, and we've argued. I don't just miss her for the memories or out of lonliness, but also for how we didn't have to compromise our personalities to like eachother. I miss her. But theres still other girls, I guess. Thanks.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    maybe... she was your mother?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Nah. My mom and I don't have anything in common. She thinks I'm weird.

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