Why the brief texts?

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I met a local guy online and I got his number. He is back with his family for the summer (we're both college students) so I haven't actually seen him in person yet. He was the one who provided his number first.

We initially were texting quite frequently, and he seemed interested in getting to know me. But after a few days, he began to say less with each text. He still texts me frequently and always answers immediately when I say anything, but his responses are too brief! Like just a word or two. I feel like I can't get any conversation out of him. I know he has a job, but that didn't stop him from texting me huge paragraphs when we first began talking.

Do you think this is normal for a guy? Is he just busy, or some other benign explanation? Or is this an indicator that he has lost interest?

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Based on 8 votes (3 yes)

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DolphinAngel

8 years ago

I am quite a shy guy and honestly, I have nothing to talk about in a conversation really...

If I have a topic that is interesting to me though, I can talk hours about it...

Also, I am really bad when it comes to keeping up a conversation so if you have sufficient topics to talk about, ask him if he would be interested in talking about those...

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Are you bad at keeping up conversations even when it is with a girl you like? Maybe I should see if I can find something that really catches his interest. Thanks for your input :) I'm glad to hear from a "shy guy."
  
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  - DolphinAngel
    
    8 years ago
    
    Well, it is been a while since I have talked to a girl I liked but I have problems keeping conversations going with people I like in general; I would expect it to be worse with a girl I liked.
    
    Yes, if you know about something he likes to talk about, do that. If you do not, ask him what he is interested in and try to find some topics for conversation.
    
    For example, music, books, sports, video games etc. just to name a few options ^w^
    
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- chained_rage
  
  8 years ago
  
  YOU'RE A GUY?! :-O
  
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  - DolphinAngel
    
    8 years ago
    
    Yes, I am :3
    
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Short4Words

8 years ago

Since, for better or for worse you guys are starting this off as a long distance relationship you might want to find ways to spend time online together. Watch a movie and skype, or play games. If the chemistry is there you guys will find a way.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Thank you :) I didn't even think of doing something interactive together! The game idea is great.
  
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- Arm0se
  
  8 years ago
  
  I like this idea. I met my first girlfriend on minecraft :3
  
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Maybe he lost interest, but try not to take it personally.

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noid

8 years ago

Why don't you try verbal phone conversations?

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chained_rage

8 years ago

I have done this before. My reasons for talking less was that the girl couldn't keep the conversation flowing. It was too much work for me.
I would leave long replies and asked questions and such and she would answer back without trying to throw in a few questions or say something funny or interesting on which a conversation could be built.

It became a task to talk to her. So I lost interest and replied less and not so frequently.

Later, it started to bother her and she did what you are doing now; questioning what is wrong with the guy and not understanding why he lost interest.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  The feelings you described are exactly what I'm feeling, though. It's a task to talk to him. Do you think he feels the same way? Great, now I'm worried
  
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Arm0se

8 years ago

Not everyone's a talker. Some people only say what is necessary.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

Maybe he's run out of things to say to you? You could try cutting down on your own communication and see what happens.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

Why not just ask him? We don't know

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I kind of hinted around at that... I made a couple jokes about how quiet he is. He said "I tend to be that way when talking to attractive girls," and then another day he just said "I don't know, haha." I don't know how to discuss it without being needy or prying.
  
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Nokiot9

8 years ago

I lose interest in girls I meet online if I don't meet them within a week or two. Out of sight, out of mind. It's just how most men are.

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Aries

8 years ago

The best way to find out is to ask him however if you met him online . It's very likely he is talking to other girls and meeting new girls frequently which he probably is full of interest and doing the same with them . Everyone is full of paragraphs at first , to hook the persons interest .

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

Ok, then. I got that one way, way wrong. Sorry.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  It's okay!
  
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green_boogers

8 years ago

He is a dude of few words.

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Anonymous Post Author

8 years ago

I don't think he has lost interest because he continues to text me. I just don't understand why he can't come up with conversation ideas. I'm having to drag the conversation along by myself. Im hoping he will be more talkative in person, because it's starting to drive me crazy. I need more conversation than he is providing!

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