Why people getting more heartless?

Reminds me of a similar situation I was in back in 2011. I was 200 pounds , had acne, dressed in baggy clothes, and had visibly oily hair. I didn't get help from strangers when my car was broken down.
Fast forward to 2017: I'm 117 pounds, clear skin, feminine clothes, and well groomed. I got a LOT of people to help me when that crappy Taurus broke down again.
In both scenarios I was a socially awkward weirdo but I looked completely different. I guess what I'm saying is people judge it by how you look. Its shallow and cold, but it's life.

I gave $10 in laundry detergent to some old lady in a wheelchair asking for help to wash clothes (she smelled ripe). She was appreciative, and all that jazz but the minute I walked away, she returned the product for the cash... she got booted out of the store... I don’t trust anyone begging for money, regardless of skin color, gender, or disability.

It only takes one to ruin it for the people who really do need help.

There are way too many scammers out there. People are tired of others "crying wolf". Did you know there are professional scam artists that specialize in a version of the "out of gas" scam? Next time, just ask someone to swipe their card and watch you pump the gas. The real scammers won't do that. They only accept cash.

I generally don't respond positively to people begging for money, but it depends on the situation and the vibe I'm getting off the person asking.

If I was filling up after dark and I was approached by a young woman alone in a car who told me she had an empty tank, had lost her purse, and had a fifty mile drive ahead of her to get back home, I'd definitely give her some money.

I'd do the same for a family with kids in the car, someone who was obviously physically disabled and so on.

In other words, I make a judgement about whether the person asking for money is deserving of assistance based on what I see and hear, and I assume most people do the same. For whatever reasons, the people you approached decided you didn't deserve help. You can believe they were all assholes if that makes you feel better, but not getting what we want from others doesn't always mean that they're the ones who are behaving unreasonably.

And why do you think that people back in the fifties would have automatically reached for their wallet when you asked for money? Back then, lots of places had anti-vagrancy laws which meant that anyone without a job found panhandling would be locked up, or hauled off to the county line, shoved out of the cop car and told to never come back.

Humanity, though technologically advanced, is the most savage and barbaric species ever to walk the earth. Our power and influence is unrivaled, but we choose evil. We are more primitive animals than we were thousands of years ago.

look towards the peoples who squandered any public goodwill toward the downtrodden by scammin or bein high paid professional panhandlers or those who beg first then mug if the beggins unsuccessful

wanna be softhearted? go to any city and make eye contact & engage with anyone who approaches sayin 'scuse me can i has a momenta yalls time?'

yall soon regret that coursea action

and thats just individuals dont git me started on the scourge of marketin & advertisin which is somewhere between corporate sponsored beggin and muggin

If you didn't have gas in your car or even money to buy gas, why in the heck were you out driving your car? That is why there is public transportation. You should have sold something to get your gas money. A driver's license in not colateral. It has no value to anyone but you. And the clerks don't have the authority to make deals like you wanted to make. Only the owner or manager can do something like that so get off the workers' backs. Next time, sell your watch or some other piece of jewelry to get the money. I had a panhandler come up to me, at the grocery store, and asked me for some money. I asked what do you have to sell?. He said nothing. Then I noticed the nice silver bracelet he was wearing. I said I will give you 5 bucks for the bracelet. Looking at it he said no, 7.50. I said nope, sorry and started to walk away. He said ok 5. I said too late. and left. When you need or want money, sometime it isn't the best tactic to try to dicker. Besides, why do you feel that people have to give you anything. What are your health problems that keeps you from getting work? Extreme laziness or just being an entitled millennial.

Over Population. In 1900 world population was barely 1 billion, by 2000 it exceeded 6 billion, no other mammals other than cattle have a population of over a billion , humans just bread and bread! Too many worthless people to care about....

Cause we're all staring into our phones 24/7

Less trust in the world today is one of the prime reasons humanity has plummeted. It's a vicious cycle, the decent people genuinely in need of help unfortunately pay for all the lowdown lying cheating scammers who have caused the general population to loathe and distrust strangers as a whole. Then the decent people gradually start acting less decent because honestly, the higher percentage of trouble makers there are, the more contagious all the wrong behaviors become for the general population. It's easier to do the right thing when there are fewer people around being a bad influence. And the falling of a more comfortable caring society has also made people more bitter. Trump taking the reigns in the Whitehouse encouraging America now that's it ok to judge, ok to hate, and ok to not be friendly and respectful has only added to it further.

Ye that seems sad :/

Dude, panhandling always pays less than minimum wage. I'm wondering if you know enough math to do budgeting. When I was a broke college student I always saved $5 for emergency gas. Times were tight. Even rolled my own cigarettes. Poverty sucks, but if you attack your lack of money in an analytical way, you'll survive.

Welcome to reality! :)

Over here you will find a reddit post where a person has photoshopped himself shitting on the grave of a little girl that just committed suicide. And over here you will see people driving past a person who just got into a really bad accident and is bleeding out all over the ground! Above me, you can see a whole bunch of people nagging about how fucked up people are for not doing anything that they wouldn’t do either because they are hypocrites, and right below me you can see a shit ton of people who want to light me on fire for speaking the truth until even the mightest of Gods looks down and says “WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?”

Welcome. Take a seat and enjoy the ride. It doesn’t get any better.

When you need something really bad, no one is there, if those same people needed help they would expect you to help them, Remember this no one owes you anything, just because you've help others doesn't mean they'll help you in your time of need.

That was so rude of them! That was harsh of them. How did you get gas? Why are people so heartless these days? There was a time when children could ride their bikes in the neighborhood, go to the local store, buy some candy, and be unsupervised. There were much less of those without homes, because there were less frauds. Why can't we be like that today? I would have gladly given you the money. maybe even more to buy some food. Some people are so heartless.

You are probably right there. You start forgetting when in one place for a while how some places may be better. But I know that there are places even worse like Chicago, Detroit, or almost all of the East Coast.

Some people are picks and some are great. You just happened to run into the wrong ones. Was you car a wreck? We're you dressed like a tramp? There are different reasons.

They didn't know your circumstance so I am a bit surprised they couldn't help a bit. Its not like you were asking for drug money. I'd have helped no problem but not this week as I have barely enough money to make it through the week.

Kindness seems to be getting rarer and rarer. I'm sorry they were so cold.

1 If you can't afford gas, have no job, why are you driving?
If you can't afford gas I suspect you can't afford insurance.
That's bad news for everyone.
2 There are to many scam artists out there. Looking for hand outs.
I don't work, so that someone can sit on their ass and beg.
Don't blame people for not helping.
Blame the bums who ruined it for you.
3 you look like a bum.
Scraggly beard. Shave it.
Sweat pants. Only ok at home, or if you are jogging.
Sweatpants in 90deg? That's crackhead style.
4 whatever your ailments.
Bust your ass anyway, don't wait for a disability handout.
5 Budget, I've been where you are.
I used to get paid and head for the nearest gas station.
Because till I cashed my check.
I was broke, and on E.
That's no way to live.
I do have simpathy for people in poor countries.
I do what I can to help.
But, not in America.
There are opportunities for anyone willing to work.