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whenever i go TOP on her,she covers my eyes with her hands or hides her face under pillow/blanket.
she also faces opposite direction when i place my head on her shoulder during sex (happens when lights ON)
while lights OFF; she is comfortable
NOTICE !
U MIGHT THINK SHE IS SHY.
than WHY SHE NEVER FORCED ME TO TURN OFF THE LIGHTS.?
Some people feel very vulnerable when they're having sex, some people - women, especially - are very self conscious about their bodies and can't help hearing criticisms in their head whenever someone else looks at them naked, and some people are convinced they look ugly when they're enjoying sex.
If your girlfriend had a previous sexual relationship, it's possible some ignorant asshat told her that her expressions when they were having sex were weird, and now she feels very self-conscious about that. Or maybe she has watched herself in the mirror as she masturbated, and she's convinced that her facial expression when she comes is ugly.
Or maybe it's simple guilt about having sex: if you're not actually looking at her, that makes it easier for her to pretend that it's not actually happening. Weird, I know, but it happens because we're all weird in one way or another.
As for why she doesn't switch off the lights, maybe that's because she knows you enjoy looking at her. So, in her mind, that's a compromise she can live with.
Nobody here is going to be able to explain this to you, bro. The only person who might possibly be able to do that is her, but she might not understand it either.
I'm not clear on why exactly you find this disturbing enough to ask a question here, but I do think that she's missing out on what can be a very enjoyable aspect of sex. Some cynics say sex is about nothing more than the friction of bumping uglies. It can be about a lot more than that if two people explore their connection on more than a primal, physical level, but that ain't gonna ever happen if one of them insists on hiding.
I can understand that. It's a very vulnerable position to be in and everyone isn't comfortable with that, myself included.
You could always do it with the lights off if that helps her feel more comfortable or use a different position. You should also talk to her about this. She's not going to feel more comfortable if you ignore her discomfort and show no understanding of it and maybe she's too shy to bring it up herself.
Thats pretty hot. id like it if a chick put her hands over my eyes so i can't see while we are fucking. blindfold is good to. maybe add a little ball gag action yummy.
If she's not comfortable being vulnerable with you, i.e. not letting you see her face during sex, that would be classified as shy by definition, no?
It would also explain why she's not setting any rules but doesn't fully go along with the moment