Why must women bring an entourage of people on a first date?

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I've had this happen to me a couple of times. Not all women do this, but a lot are hellbent and I don't know why. All I want is just to meet HER in person. I get that she wants to play it safe which is why I want to meet her someplace public. I do the same thing.

Why does every woman seem to think that either I'm a sociopath of some kind or that I want to plug her hole when we first meet? A couple of them insinuated the latter, but I confronted them and said I wouldn't waste my time going on a date with her if all I have to do is go on Adultfriendfinder.com. I also know of at least five massage parlors within a mile from me I could go to if all I wanted was some trim.

Do you ladies really think a serial killer or a rapist is going to meet you somewhere public where everyone can identify him when your face shows up on the 6 o'clock news or on the back of a milk carton; especially, with all the DNA testing they have there now? Serial killers aren't your average criminal like those two-bit dipshits and thugs some of you gals fall head over heels for thinking your magic vaginas will turn into princes.

What makes you think he won't put on his public charm and schmooze everybody like most serial killers do. There's a difference between a psychopath and a sociopath believe it or not. Most serial killers aren't like Charles Manson who was clearly psychotic. Most of them are like Ted Bundy, John Wayne Gacy, Jeffrey Dahmer, or the BTK Killer in that they blend in with the general population.

I think some of you gals have been listening to the Spice Girls too much. I'm not interested in winning your friends' approval on a first date. That's like me inviting you to my family reunion, or me dating a single mom and her bringing her little rugrats along on the first date in my book. I know you'd all feel uncomfortable around a bunch of strangers, so why must some women insist on dropping a bomb on the guy during the first interface? I'm not going to a job interview for crying out loud.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    Probably because they want to filter out people like you, who have no patience for their feelings or preferences.

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    • dasugaknows
      9 years ago

      I could see that the problem is that he thinks he's smarter than everybody and feels the need to correct people. I'm sure this must rub these women that he's after the wrong way.

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      • Daugenstein2
        9 years ago

        Only people who hurl insults. I then return the favor.

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        • dasugaknows
          9 years ago

          Its not insulting me. Not my fault you can't take a joke or a hint of sarcasim. It seems so me that you have a real bad sense of humor and get upset over things such as girls wanting to bring friends on dates. I could see why they would be afraid to meet you in person.

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          • Daugenstein2
            9 years ago

            I tell you what then. You're more than welcome to go on those dates for me when they want to bring all their friends. Just be sure to pay for everything. Don't be surprised when their friends want you to pay their way, too. Be prepared to get bombarded with a lot of personal questions like why you're in your 30's and don't have kids.

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            • dasugaknows
              9 years ago

              I'd be happy to take your spot but im married and 30. Good luck on your so called dates though.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Actually, I DO have patience, but I also know that's not cool. Like I said, she wouldn't like it if I dropped a bomb on her. And actually, I believe the word you're looking for is "tolerance" not "patience." Nice try!

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    1) Rather safe than sorry, this said I go on my dates alone and some are in public, some aren't. It depends on how horny I am.
    You shouldn't try to belittle someone elses fear.

    2) They might be insecure and shy and going out as a group might ease the stress for her.

    3) Maybe the girl has been going out with some less good guys, and this time she wants second opinions before going solo with you.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      We're all insecure. You don't think the guy is insecure when he has to dress right, look right, speak right, act right, and do everything down to the T. Those fears are irrational. I know you might think something can happen, but that's what mace, pepper spray, and tasers are for. They even have these things called cellphones where you can dial 9-1-1, and that's why I always meet up in broad daylight someplace public.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        Guys are insecure too, obviously I get that- Why not bring a friend with you yourself? Hang out as a small group instead?

        You just seem too focused on the discomfort that this brings YOU rather than appreciating that some women want to play safe. Sure there's cellphones but take me as an example tazers and pepper spray are illegal ... I have NOTHING legal to protect myself with to take with me.

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        • Daugenstein2
          9 years ago

          Sure you do. I don't need to bring all my friends. First of all, it's none of their fucking business. Secondly, I know how to defend myself. I have martial arts training. Third, I'm not a coward. Fourth, I know how to exercise good judgment. That will keep you safe at least 90% of the time.

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          • (s)aint
            9 years ago

            I can't help but feeling like you are somewhat of a jerk and it wouldn't surprise me if you stay single for an extended period of time since you can't even see why girls wouldn't want to meet a stranger alone for the first time.

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            • Daugenstein2
              9 years ago

              That's your opinion. I'm not a jerk. I'm a nice guy, but I'm not a sucker. I don't know if you know what Asperger's is, but I have it. Social situations already for me are awkward which is why them bringing all their friends is overwhelming.

              I wouldn't expect you to understand if you're not educated on the autism spectrum. It's not something I can help, either, not that I'd expect you to give a shit. Most people don't.

              I'm not dating anyone until I move to Thailand, anyway. I'm going moving over there in January to teach English to adults in Bangkok.

              Over in Thailand, nice guys finish first not last, and Thai women don't mistake kindness for weakness and fall in love with dipshits, nor do they drop bombs on guys on first dates like some American women do. Thanks for your input, though.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    these serial killers u mention , i bet some of the victims wished they'd been more paranoid or had more people around them

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Some of them DID have people around actually.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Reading this actually made me think of Charles Manson going on one of his rants.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Well I wouldn't know. I never listened to any of Manson's rants, but I actually DID study psychology and anthropology. I don't even want to know what enticed you to listen to Manson's rants.

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      • dasugaknows
        9 years ago

        Not that it's any of your business, but i actually went to school for court reporting and had to write them several times, genius. Also, everybody knows that he rambled on about stuff that made no sense. I'm sure you knew that.

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        • Daugenstein2
          9 years ago

          Oh well good. It must have rubbed off on you.

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  • Pastafarian
    9 years ago

    You think all a girl has to worry about are serial killers? If I wasn't in an actual relationship and was into the whole desperado dating randoms thing I would be afraid of some dumbass rapist, not a serial killer smart enough not to meet me in public. By the way, women get raped in broad daylight in public these days, so better safe than sorry.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      That's why I suggested meeting in broad daylight and bringing pepper spray or a taser.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Ladies, if u wanna just totally fist fuck ur first date, bring ur stupid friends along for the evening. SURE I'll pay for them too! AYFKM? Lol

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  • mrkrule
    9 years ago

    chill bruh once she gets to know you better she will feel more comfortable being alone with you

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      If she doesn't feel comfortable being alone with a guy, then she shouldn't be going out on dates - plain and simple.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    I never take friends along on blind dates. Just mace and a brick in my purse.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Very wise of you. I'm sure you know friends can even run your date off by saying the wrong stuff.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Maybe you give off a rape vibe?. Just sayin'.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      I'm sure you know all about rape vibes, genius.

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  • Knmayfield
    9 years ago

    Girls are weird trust me I'm a girl. We fell better going on a group date the first time before we are comfortable going solo.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Well then they shouldn't be surprised when they get stood up on their so-called "group dates." This isn't Argentina.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    I don't put up with shit like that. This chick showed up with this gay guy to our first date like he was her chaperone. I tried to pull her away from him during the show but he just kept following us. Eventually I for fed up and just left them both there and never called her again

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  • Petrichor.
    9 years ago

    If went on a date with girl and she brought her friends along I'd just walk away. I've never encountered anything like this before and I'm happy to say that.

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      Lucky you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    If someone assumes you're a psychopath or something without getting to know you then no need to assume they're too paranoid to pay attention to. I can see their point if it's somewhere alone but if it's in a public place then there's no reason to be so paranoid. You can show up, go on the dat, get picked up by your friend while in a public place, and that's it, date is done while being cautious and not insulting the guy by assuming he could be some psycho.

    If someone does this then simply leave or do the exact same. Phone a bunch of your friends to come invade the date like she has. If she has a problem with it just smile and say "Oh, you caught on to how annoying it is?"

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    • Daugenstein2
      9 years ago

      If someone assumes I'm a psychopath, then I would think they wouldn't even bother group dating me. The problem with these dates is a lot of these "friends" wind up getting in the way and cockblocking you. If a girl expects to be the center of attention and for the guy to put her on a pedestal and devote all his time and energy to her, the least she can do is return the favor. It's called reciprocity my friend. I liked your last sentence by the way. I think I might do that.

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