Why is she so cool about it?

I have been dating my first cousin for three years.It feels like an absolutely normal relattionship since all our close friends know about it and I can easily sleep over his place.But now his mom suspects that we are dating,yet she is cool with us.she doesn't shout about it or give me those nasty looks that you'd expect from the conventional christian woman.therefore I feel comfortable being in this relationship.But is it normal for her to remain this calm?

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  • loveislove

    IF EINSTEIN DID IT THEN WHY NOT?

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  • Lawcheetah19

    Actually it takes generations of inbreeding in order to have a significantly increased risk of having kids with mutations because you will have an extremely small gene pool. Just try not to let your kids fall in love with close relations and if things really do get that far with your cousin, move to Europe and get married.

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  • illbreakyerrface

    thats sick

    its your family

    eeck

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  • MidnightBlossom

    Oy, can everyone shut up about it? If someone asks a question, you should answer it and not critisise them. Jeez...
    Okay, maybe she doesnt want to interfere and she thinks you're "experimenting" or something. either that, or shes too frightened to discuss it. maybe shes cool with it...?

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    • captblood44

      a voice of reason. koo

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  • No, she should be against it, stop lying to your self.

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  • imamakemyownname

    You must be greek.

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  • MapleSyrup

    Gross.

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  • very disturbing u shouldnt be dating your cousin thats sick

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    • rainmay

      Indian culture does it sometimes

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  • qianzhan2013

    well, just remember it is your decision. no one can take that away from you. And if your cousin's mom cool about it, then you have nothing to worry, just live with it.(China Secondary Vocational Education http://en.qianzhan.com/report/detail/e659bf9e22524c38.html)

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  • watermelonninja

    I bet you live in the middle of nowhere!

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  • MeLikesLittleBoys169

    When you're dating your first cousin, his mom's reaction should be the least of your worries. Do you, by any chance, live in Kentucky?

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    If that's what makes you both happy, screw what everyone else says. Just make sure you are properly informed about the consequences of making children and such.

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  • purpleattitude56

    uhhhh thats kinda...gross. and if you have babies then they'll probably be messed up due to DNA similarity. just saying.

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  • YOURaFREAK

    If you live in kentucky and your dad is also your uncle!! then yea your completely normal

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  • burningDESIRE

    I'm curious if this is a blood cousin or if you are related by marriage. If it's blood, then both of you should relies that it can't go anywhere. Most states will not let you marry a blood relative. If by marriage, then there is nothing wrong with it at all. There is no difference between this and dating anyone else, except you don't have to introduce them to the family, lol.

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  • Mpatient1

    Well, I'm guessing if she is cool with it, she, the one of his parents not related to you by blood... She may think of you more as her husbands family that way... I can't imagine a parent that is ok with their child dating one of their brothers/sisters children... But it has to happen I suppose...

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  • firestar2525

    well i have no problem with it as long as she is not weird and annoying and ugly like my cousin so if she is hot go for it do her if you want i think it would be cool then you could go in your room by yourself and family won't suspect as much as if it was like a girl from school oh if it don't work out call me lol but yeah go for it dude your cool and awesome for it dude i want to do her

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  • XxgemdinxX

    Well, um, Dating your cousin? I don't have anything against it, but I would never do it. I mean if you two have children together, you got to think about the consequences. But as far as your question goes, if she's remaining calm about it, I would think that maybe she's okay with it or, possibly she doesn't know yet. If you haven't told her yet, maybe you should tell her soon.

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  • bobpanda91

    Technically having children with your first cousin doubles the risk of the child being born with a genetic disorder, but the risk is still only 3-4%%. So it's not as if your children would even be likely to be born with a genetic disorder. If you truly love each other then it really shouldn't matter. Maybe she's not upset because she knows that the issues and potential problems involved in such a relationship have been blown way out of proportion by society. Hopefully she's just well informed instead of too shocked to say anything.

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    • zipperipper

      everybody is related in some way, sure, its wrong to date ppl in ur family, but everyone you meet is in some way related to you. so yes its normal

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  • combatgal856

    She probably thought it was wrong from the start so when you broke up she was OK with it. I hope that's how she felt

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  • sepia

    thtz jus gross

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  • roadrunnerxo

    Well your okay about it. Why's it so weird that she is.

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  • MrChimpo

    Who the fuck cares? Seriously. Just don't have kids, the gene pool is polluted enough as it is.

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  • She only "suspects", you've not told her anything, and already you see that as tacit approval. Makes me think the same goes for your friends - they all just think you and your cousin are good chums.

    Or, they all know, and they just don't know what to say or do.

    Either way you should know better. Stop it.

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  • snufflebunny

    If I was his mother, I would totally freak! why is everybody so insest!?

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  • EndStreet

    Thats normal
    Wtf iz wrong ?!

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  • SunshineBaby

    I just hope you realize the complications that you children could have, but I personally don't think it's anyones place to say who you can and cannot date. If we make incest illegal because of the chance of disabilities in children then we would have to make it illegal for women over 45 to give birth too.

    Anyway, maybe she is just in denial and doesn't want to believe it? Or maybe she just doesn't care.

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  • mtziongirl

    Where the hell do you live Hick town!?
    Stop dating your cousin.
    If you have a kid it might be fucked up.
    But now that im done being negitive...dont pay attention to her just be happy.

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  • Krenn

    It's fine, just import genes from a sperm bank if it ever gets that far. You're NOT sick.

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  • spyderr

    just please don't uhhh, mate, because your children will be inbred and therefore they have an increased chance of having disorders

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  • AnnaAgain

    If you live in the US, it's GOTTA be in West VA lmao! They're famous for never leaving the gene pool. I mean, incest isn't legal in most of the US, but for about half of it, it's legal to marry your first cousin. Whatever floats your boat i guss.

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  • Powerfrog

    after three years, she proberly already knew for most of it, and yes, i do think the whole "going out with cousin" thing weird and disturbing, your children would most likely be deformed mentally and physically and after three years, its really hard to move on, i once had a fling with a step sister, not a very good idea, keep it out of the family.

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  • kajas

    Wow i dont remember her asking whether or not u thought it was gross or not, far out some people are stupid, if u dont feel comfortable with her being so calm and ur sure she knows adress the situation to her in private to find out how she really feels abour it.

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  • "I am quite curious to where you and your family reside."

    it's either gonna be a place with a lot of banjo music or else some weird little cult-town where everyone dresses in gray robes and listens to a strange little man who talks REALLY funny.

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  • YumInsanity

    whassa fuck!? mniraml23 is right, you share too many of the same chromosomes, if you have a child
    (by accident most likely) it will have some serious mental and possibly physical defects. his mother is probably so shocked at her own child being in an incestuos relationship, so against her moral code that she is choosing to ignore it. try and rub it in her face, like have sex on her bed. while shes in it too

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  • shag776

    your mom was probably the same way years ago

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  • mniraml23

    It's your family. Your genes are too similar for you two to have children.

    I know you never said you wanted to have children with him, but accidents happen.

    Keeping your relationships inside the family is strictly taboo in most of the world.

    Your friends know about this and they are 100%% cool with it?

    I am quite curious to where you and your family reside.

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  • Its unusual but nothing wrong with it

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    • kia106

      yes thats against gods likeness it called abination thats your family lik really

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      • Not everyone believes in your god.

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      • Captain_Kegstand

        You do realize that there are many different religions with many different opinions, and some people that are not religious at all right?

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  • itsCalledLove

    i'm dating my first cousin, and we're the same sex. and she's older. I wish her mom was cool about it. But we've only been for like a year, and her mom says we're not allowed to see each other anymore.

    =[

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    • watermelonninja

      what is wrong with you?! As perverted as anyone can be!! ':/

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  • 100crf

    i think its perfectly normal. im in love with my first cousiN!!!

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