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In my experience (about 5 people in a decade) when a man finishes, sex is considered complete regardless of whether or not the woman came. Why do men seem to forget about our orgasm once they’ve gotten theirs? You can still use your hands, mouth, or a toy. And having to ask you if you’d “mind” helping me finish is such a turn off. This isn’t a man-hating post, I’m just genuinely curious what a man’s thought process is after he cums
That’s why I always try to make sure the lady I am with orgasms at least 2-3 times before I do, because I know I’ll need at least a half hour to recharge lol usually oral twice and then her on top does the trick.. anything less for her i would think she’d feel short changed. That’s just me though. I wish I was still in my 20’s where I could go right away after the big O, but as soon as I hit 30, I realized it’s a no go minutes after round 1. If a man really cared about your feelings and satisfying you, he would certainly do things to make you happy and finish. Sounds a little selfish minded if you ask me
Out of all sexual activities, penetration is the least likely to make me cum. I prefer oral or manual stimulation by far and I don’t think that’s uncommon for a lot of women
I agree.. that’s probably why it’s one of my favorites because it’s almost a for sure orgasm for her. I’ve always loved to please and watch a woman squirm lol
I've seen surveys which found that only something like a fifth of women are capable of reaching orgasm solely from penis-in-vagina thrusting. The position used and the starting state of arousal of the woman can improve the odds of this happening, but for most women, the position of their clitoris relative to the entrance of her vagina means that it just doesn't get enough prolonged stimulation for an orgasm to happen.
A good man will always come last. Or, at the very least, he'll do everything he can to not come first.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys are very goal-orientated when it comes to sex, and that goal is getting themselves off. Once that goal is achieved, they're done. It's shitty and selfish, but it's true.
I think you've been very unlucky in your choice of men. Perhaps they were just young and dumb, or maybe there were things about their characters which appealed to you but which also meant they were inconsiderate jerks in the sack.
I realised at some point in my twenties (which is a very long time ago now) that making a woman have at least one orgasm - and preferably a lot more than one - was a helluva lot more enjoyable than me just climbing onboard as soon as possible and humping away until I came. That wasn't an entirely selfless thing, since I also figured out around the same time that if I was with a halfway decent woman and I focused on making her feel very good at the start of sex, it was much more likely she'd be willing to do just about anything I asked for and I'd eventually get off too.
Yes. Empowering your partner to make everything as romantic as she pleases yields huge returns for both of you. I find that almost all women are unaware of the "sleep hormones" that are released when the guy hits climax. I make good after-play a priority, but tell my partner when the sleep hormones are hitting my brain. I'll usually hold her hand and fall asleep on her shoulder. It's all biology that's unavoidable.
I'm sorry; sorry, but I don't think the ungrown up men you are talking to are really an incomplete man.
Real men... ensure that their partner is satisfied before things are over. That also includes at lest 20-30 minutes of post intercourse cuddle time.
My experience is that a good sex session is often in the range of 60 - 90 minutes when you include foreplay/warmup, intercourse or other forms of producing orgasms, and then post orgasm cuddle time.
I also learned decades ago that its best to learn how to make a woman orgasm... and run her through at least several of those before pursuing my orgasm. They are always very happy afterwords.
Once you cum theres chemicals that are released in your brain that make you feel exhausted and you get really unhorny
It's pretty much a limiter so guys arent constantly horny.
Imagine the mayhem if guys could cum multiple times in a row!
This^
You also get very sleepy and relaxed, or at least I do. Post sex sleep is the best sleep.
A proper gentleman tries to make his lady finish before he does, or at least get her close and aim for that mutual orgasm thing. Doesn't always work, but when it does... it's amazing.
if the man orgasim first then hes just doing it for his pleasure.a true man should be trying to make u orgasim not himself.
the normal thing is for the man to have foreplay to mae sure thewoman gets turned on and cums . then its mans turn . . when a man cums the urge and desre goesbut comes back to go again .
cumming takes alot out of a dude, when i cum i just wanna take a nap after cus its alot of effort to make like a billion sperms
if your man says sex is done when he is , then he is selfish and not considerate of you at all, not all men are like that,
Guys like that are selfish, immature jerks, and you shouldn't sleep with them.
Some men do not just lay down because they have come and will make sure that their partners satisfaction is met. But yes, most often it ends with ejaculation.
It’s the man you’re with who’s got that habit, not all men. I lick my wife profusely before we fuck, to make sure she orgs 2 or 3 times before I do. It’s the considerate thing to do.e
Men have been the more competitive of sexes for a very long time. Theirs has been the-who-gets-there-first-who-finishes-first-business for so long.
But with more and more women joining athletics in recent years, hopefully the tide will turn.
Have you ever heard of "post nut clarity"? As WeirdGuy said, men get unaroused after they orgasm.