Why is my co-worker acting this way?

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I work at a law firm where I have established a good relationship with pretty much everyone. A new hire just recently came in, who I trained. We both work under the same attorney, who relys on me and trusts me more than the rest of the paralegals. I can't quite figure out why this new hire acts the way she does.
Here are some examples:
When a few of us are chit chatting about work, life, whatever, the new hire will come over to the conversation and just stand there.. says nothing.
Anytime I bring anything to the attorney I mentioned previously, questions, files, etc. - seconds later the new hire appears in his office. It seems like she is always in his office with hardly anything related to work. She even stays in there when it is clear she should be on her way back to work in her office.
However, when I have seen her actually discuss with the attorney work related issues, she does not seem to know what she is doing and comes off like she does not even care.
Around the girls downstairs - she does not say more than 5 words sometimes.
I know what you must be thinking --- however, the new hire is engaged and young. The attorney is married and much older.
Why is my co-worker acting this way? I don't understand what her motive is because her behavior is not consistent.
What do you think she is doing or trying to do?

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  • shiftysplit
    14 years ago

    She could just be shy, or introverted. Not everyone likes to talk about things all the time. She might also feel more comfortable talking in one on one conversations. This is why she may be quiet at the attorneys office until you leave (which is why she stays there, so she can talk to him alone).

    Another thing, some people hide their knowledge and tend to listen more than talk. Also, some people may think very deeply to themselves, but may not have the skills to vocalize it as well as others (she may actually be very smart).

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's not normal. She's probably sleeping with the boss to get the job, and doesn't want people to know she know's nothing.

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal
    14 years ago

    Sounds like someone's got an uncle in a high place. She's probably a shoe in.

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  • JoethePlayerz
    14 years ago

    Fuck her and see if that relaxes her down

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  • Anonysmous
    14 years ago

    maybe she wants you. from what you said it sounds like she is trying to stay around you; try telling her off or faking turret's syndrome

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  • yesitsme
    14 years ago

    First off, Kudos to you -- because you work at a Law Firm(My dream). But her behavior does seem a little queer. Maybe she's not satisfied with her current relationship. ( Just because she's engaged, doesn't mean she wants to get married) Maybe she gets her kicks from older men? Or maybe she wants someone with a little more money in the bank than her current lover. Or maybe she's a recluse?

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