Why is it so hard to move on?

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I had a best friend of 10years, we were friends since we were 11 and completely inseparable. When she moved overseas we tried to keep in touch and she came to see me for the first time in 8months, things got a bit awkward and a few weeks after she went back to the UK I received an email from her saying that since I couldn't follow her beliefs (she's suddenly an environmentalist) we can't be friends. I was shocked and heartbroken, I sent her a harsh reply and blocked her on facebook, hoping that I actually felt the same way about her and I would just forget about her.
It's been over a year since this happened and I still find myself crying most nights that I don't have that special person in my life. I miss her and her mom dearly, they were practically my family and I wish I could say something at least to be on good terms with them again.
Unfortunately when I had last seen her she seemed very unreasonable and wanted to dictate the way I am suppose to be living so I don't think trying to be friends again is an option I just want to stop feeling like there's something missing all the time, I want all those childhood memories to go away and to move on with my life.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    It was rude of her to tell you that you couldn't be friends because you guy's don't share beliefs.

    You did overreact a bit - the whole "not if i unfriend you first!" bit.

    It's normal that you miss your old friend. But, judging by your description, even if you were on good terms, you'd still miss the way she was. No one has the right to dictate another's lifestyle - religion, politics, or environmentalism.

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  • sarah8
    11 years ago

    I think you really thought of her as a very close friend. However, things are not the same when you part away. I think what happened in your case is not normal. Most close friends don't end up like you guys did. It's sad that things ended up the way it did for you.
    I have seen close friends remain friends even when they move away, but since they are not around as much to share each and every moment of their lives...things can get awkward when they see each other again.
    Sorry she is not your friend anymore. And I can understand if you can't find another friend like her. No one can replace anyone. Every friend holds a special but a different place in life.
    My best wishes. Only time will help you get over this ordeal. Smile! please.

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  • loveSeeker
    11 years ago

    I am sad to hear that,
    but the thing you have to understand is that, the reality behind her saying. While she is saying she is an enviromentalist and can't be a friend with you, she would have something else over there in UK. May be new friend that 's why she brought that reson of enviromentalist, inorder to cover upp her excuse. so see the truth and judge.
    To forget her try doing things of unsual in your spare time "sport + reading books ...etc " and make your self busy, also try to have new friends if possible.

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