Why is it so hard for women to say, "no," or "i'm not interested?"
Three years ago, I got chewed out by my boss after I asked a woman out. I worked with non-profit organization, and she was from another assignment. Mine worked alongside hers on a field trip one Thursday where we met. She acted friendly and whatnot while we mingled on the bus.
Let me first inform you she was NOT a coworker. She was from another organization separate from mine. The gal latched unto me like a lost puppy and insisted on eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner with me throughout the trip. Later, she gave me her e-mail address, and I asked if she wanted to get together.
I didn't spell it out to her that I wanted to date her. She then complained to her director who called mine, and that's when I got my lecture. I didn't tell her I wanted to jump her bones in that e-mail. Yes, I wanted to plug her hole, but I never told her that. All I told her was that I wanted to get together with her. I was later forced to resign because they considered it sexual harassment.
That's not the first time something like this happened. I've had two other women stand me up on dates because they were too chicken shit to tell me they weren't interested in a relationship. One was just looking for a free dinner and the other was some lonely gal who wanted a simple shag. Ladies, if you aren't interested in a guy, then why do you give him your number or e-mail address and the runaround after that?
Why can't you just tell it straight instead of beating around the bush? If you women all have enough brain cells to adjust your bras, use tampons and maxi pads, apply make-up, send text messages, type posts on your Facebook walls, shoot e-mails, drive cars, earn degrees, and even raise children, then why is so damn difficult to say, "No?" Are you afraid the guy is gonna burn your tits off with a blowtorch or make you eat dog shit off the floor or something?
If a socially awkward person like me can figure all this out, then why am I having a hard time wrapping my head around this when "No" is usually one of the first words little children and foreigners learn to say when they learn English? Why is it so hard for a grown woman to say it? Is it like getting a pap smear with a meat hook? Is it like pulling your teeth out with a pair of pliers, or is it like giving birth to a porcupine with its quills extended?