Why is he doing this and what should i do?

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Sorry, didn't know where to post this topic, so posted in Relationship thread...

Every morning on my way to work, I walk by a cafe with an outdoor patio. Over the last few months, I noticed a cute guy sitting outside on the patio with his dog, and potentially his father (who appears much older). He sits there every morning with his dog and the other man every morning (when it isn't raining obviously). I've noticed that, every morning, when I'm approaching the cafe, or as I walk by, this guy will either stop what he's doing to watch me, or will just stare as I walk by.

I didn't notice him at first. It was once I saw that he was watching me that he captured my interest. He's quite cute and clearly loves his dog.

I should note that I always have my sunglasses on. Hence why I can see him watching without him seeing me. Lol

Walking by this cafe is now my favourite part of the day.

At this point, do you think I'm wrong in assuming there's interest on his part?

I would really like to talk to him, but I'm not sure what to do. I only see him during mornings when I'm walking/rushing to work. Even if I stopped at the cafe, I wouldn't have the guts to say anything to him. I'd want him to approach me.

Any ideas?

I get the feeling he's shy too.

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  • Murun
    6 years ago | pl

    Take off your sunglasses before you next pass by, make eye contact and smile. It's a good start.

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    • Sunshine007
      6 years ago

      Thanks, Murun. I know you're right, but it's so tough for me to do. I mean, what if I'm interpreting him/reading him incorrectly. I'd be mortified.

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        Eye contact means a lot. A smile goes a long way too. The sunglasses hide your eyes, he clearly makes and effort to see you, take them off so he can. (if it's not too sunny of course)

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      • Murun
        6 years ago

        There's not much risk in a smile. The worst that can happen is he doesn't reciprocate and the best is that he smiles back. See what happens and then take it from there.

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  • xfg52
    6 years ago

    Walk somewhere isolated, like between the buildings where the dumpsters are. See if he follows you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    If you want to talk to him then stop, and ask if you can pet his dog. Pets are a great conversation starter.

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  • Ascelin
    6 years ago

    Some (maybe even most) men like bold and brazen women, so if you really want to be ballsy and a bit dramatic then as you walk by you can hand him a note with a smiley face and your number. Maybe ask to meet at the coffee shop after work too? You're sure to leave an impression and at the least intrigue him.

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  • Sunshine007
    6 years ago

    Thanks, guys. I actually missed him today, most likely because I left for work earlier today. I'll see if I can work up the courage and do something tomorrow (if I see him).

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