Why in the hell do i care about this?

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I OBVIOUSLY know this is NOT normal but why does it bother me when I see my boyfriend look at girls up and down on movies? I have only seen him do it once in public but it was some fat lady lol but if he does it in movies then he does it in public. Yes i know I need to get over this but why do I kinda get jealous or something? I am not ugly at all..I have been told many times that I look like Megan Fox and Taylor Swift so why would he still look at girls like that

Ask him why he looks? 17
Just forget about it 46
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  • chubbawubba69
    12 years ago | pl

    Just because he's with you does not mean he will cease to find other females attractive.

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    • bryson_willis
      12 years ago

      but he doesn't have to be looking them up and down with his girlfriend standing right there next to him.

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      • STFU23
        12 years ago

        true but even knowing he still does it with out me there bothers me

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      yes i know but it just bothers me seeing him look at girls like that because I don't look at guys like that, and even if i did it wouldn't really matter because guys do not have an ass and boobs to look at

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      • chubbawubba69
        12 years ago

        You will face many bigger and more serious problems in your relationship, trust me. Life will be better for both of you if you can learn to just let it go. My wife knows I check out other girls all the time and she accepts it. You can't change human nature.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's normal.

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  • abominus566
    12 years ago

    i can see why your jealous, you fear that someone can steal him away. but don't worry if he likes you he will stay with you,some guys do that, stare at others. thats just how some are i don't do that but thats only me.

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      he doesnt really stare i just see him look up nd down at em once nd thats it.....i think. nd i dnt really knw if hes lookin kuz thats how he looks at everybody or if he likes their bodies because i knw he looks at everybody up n down..i just gotta get over it

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      u dnt do that? so even in movies if u see a girl like in a shirt showing her stomach nd wearin a short skirt u wouldnt look at her up nd down? why dnt u be my bf then lol kuz im never gana get over this nd i obviously knt make him stop the way he is

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      • abominus566
        12 years ago

        well, im different when it comes to that,and well i havent been with any one in a long long time. i dont want too sound gay but i have much respect for girls/women but talk to him and express your self. you flatter me by the way.

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        • STFU23
          12 years ago

          oh i see. i tried talking to him. he has 3 different stupid reasons he could come up with. one of them was that he didn't know why he looks at them like that. the second one was that he looks at everybody like that and the third was that he doesn't even look at girls like that. i repeatedly asked him and these were the answers I got. uhhhh I wish guys could be customized because I'm really not going to get over this. even if he looked at a girl like that in a movie, right when i saw that he did that it made me feel sick. i didn't want to eat what i was eating anymore. how old are you? well, I wish he could have the same respect as u do.

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          • abominus566
            12 years ago

            i am nineteen,i also wish the same but until that day comes,we may have to bury those feelings until they can be understood more clearly. but don't worry too much about it some are like that, but i cannot tell you what to do,but remember there are many out there if it doesn't work out you will find another,it will be hard moving on, is never easy but you will become stronger. oh sorry for mentioning "not working out" but i try to put your mind at ease.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    Curiosity, my dear! It's a natural human trait.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    I'm not quite sure how you could look like both of those people at the same time. But anyway, it's natural for him to do that and it's natural for you to feel this way about it.

    Attraction is a wave, not an arrow - it may hit some people more than others, but it's never really singular. I'm sure you find other people attractive, whether they're celebrities, people you know, or people you see on the street. What's important is that one doesn't act upon these impulses. But it's understandable for you to feel this way; women tend to give higher significance to emotional (as opposed to physical) cheating.

    That being said, like all relationship problems, the best course of action is to calmly communicate with your partner.

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      haha i really don't know either. this might sound weird but i dont really find other guys attractive anymore or if i do see one that looks a lil better than others i dnt take a second look like i use to..i just dnt care anymore.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    I think it is pervy that he does that.

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      really? i thought every guy does this though? yeah but i guess it is kinda pervy..even though i just need to accept it. because it kinda is normal to just observe everybody like that

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      • TyLee
        12 years ago

        I don't think that every guy checks out other girls. I mean especially when he is with you he should exercise self control. It is normal to observe other people but there is a fine line. You have to decide which he is doing and what is acceptable and what isn't.

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        • STFU23
          12 years ago

          yes thats true(: but this is why i thought it wasn't normal..its because i saw him do it to a girl in a movie because she was wearing a skirt and a shirt that showed her belly but it was just a movie you know and i saw him look at her up and down and it still upset me.i think its not normal because this bothered me because it was a girl in a movie and im pretty sure it doesnt bother other girls..out in the public i cant really see how he looks at girls..:/

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          • TyLee
            12 years ago

            That would bother me too. I think it's normal that you got upset by it. If there was a hot guy with his shirt off in a movie and you were checking him out would your bf would most likely get
            upset with you. I think it is more about if he makes it a habit or not. And yes girls do get upset about this but it is one of those issues where it isn't worth it to start drama with the guy about it cause it will probably end in a fight.

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            • STFU23
              12 years ago

              you're very right;) thanks for the advice (:

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    That's just the nature of boys. There's absolutely no way of stopping it.. And honestly its not a big deal, I'm sure if you saw Jesse metcalfe walking Dow the street you'd look too ;)

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      eh. hes alright but no, i dnt stare anymore if i see a better looking guy than the rest

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        My mom used to tease my brothers when some hot woman came on TV. She used to put her hand over their eyes and say "censored" and we all used to burst out laughing. I used to do this on my hubby when I some gorgeous hot chick on TV.

        Just make a laugh out of it. It's normal for men and doesn't mean anything. They are visual creatures but the eyes aren't always connected to the brain to realise that you see them doing it.

        Don't start getting all stupid over this or he's going to think you've become boring. Also, if you start to accuse him of something in the wrong, he'll do something about it to be accused in the right!!

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        • STFU23
          12 years ago

          oh okay. but when they do this are they thinking "oh i want to fuck her" or they are looking just to look?...

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            No he's not thinking that. Half the time, men aren't thinking anything at all - which I used to think was not only impossible but ridiculous! You know when they're quiet and you say, "What are you thinking about?" and they say, "Nothing." They really do mean that, don't go on and on - they are thinking 'blank' it's usually women who are always thinking about something.

            For them, it's a bit like sitting in an empty pub / restaurant (substitute brain) and someone walks in. All of us naturally glance at that person. It's just that a female has awakened them for a split second, then their wee brain goes back to sleep.

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            • STFU23
              12 years ago

              omg! that always happens! i always ask him "what are you thinking about?" and he says nothing and i get mad because i think he just doesnt want to tell me lol thanks! :)

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    You care because you know that if he looks at other chicks theres a chance he might not have your baby. duh.

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      that's not why haha

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  • bryson_willis
    12 years ago

    hold on here, it's not normal.

    if it were (push-up) cleavage or some great legs he was looking at, then it's normal. But to constantly eye other girls when around you is a wrong.

    I'm going to assume he isn't aware that he's doing it or how it affects you. You ought to talk with him.

    If my date caught me eyeing another girl, I'd be expecting TheLook™

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      I tried talking to him and he just says i wasn't looking at them like that and just tries to change the subject and went to sleep. but maybe i brought it up in a bad way because a lot of the time I'm scared to ask him something so I wait till I'm mad then tell him. we don't usually discuss things calmly

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      • bryson_willis
        12 years ago

        ha ha. talking to a us guys, is never easy :)

        Also I may have been wrong, I just noticed that originally you said on movies, not 'at' movies. two very different scenarios.

        sorry I read too fast at times.

        So it's almost normal and probably want to stop nagging him now :)

        On film you are meant to enjoy, the sexuality of the characters sometimes, and that's okay. There's a reason Daniel Craig finds random reasons to take off his shirt at various points through out the movie. I think looking 'up and down' might be a little extreme, but I think your safe.

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