Why i hate my mother

I hate my mother ,,why? I left living the country of mu birth ,uk,40 years ago,reflecting back one of the reasons for that was the over bearing parents,clingy,over powering,I made a life for my self and a good one,over the years I have become a confident person,owned my own buisness respected and well liked.To cut the long long story down,skip forward 40 years,I/we now find our selves my husband and I living back in the uk,caring for parents that look no interest in anything to do with their old age,rather carried on as if they would never reach old age and if they did well our daughter will take care of everything,and give up her life and everything she has worked for and come and take care of us,because thats what family are for.
I resent them I hate them for what they have done to my life and I am still here taking care of everything they did not do,father with alziemers mother with dementia,,, all i want to do is go home and have my/our life back and I feel trapped,my mother is needy,she sounds pity full when she talks she used to call us when we lived obver seas and talk ina sorrowfull way and make me feel guilty,over the years I encouraged talked with them at length at coming to where we live and we would take care of them,but no they were not prepared to give an inch,rather we were not given an option but to give up our life instead and care for them,I hate them both,but especially my mother for being such a weak insecure,person who could not think for her self and made it obvious that she was going to totally rely and be dependant on me to take care of all their needs in old age,when they were my age they were enjoying life to the full and having a life,my mother has taken my life away and all she is is needy

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  • Angelp3ny

    When your mom's a BITCH,i think thats what you should do...RUN AWAY.

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  • Evil_Rebel

    I run away from my mom

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Because she didn't teach you not to attack strangers with giant walls of text.

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  • najumm2025

    You know 40 years is quite a long time and you'll become 'needy' really soon, who'll look after you? Cherish these moments with your mum, she's the one who bought you into the world, without her you wouldn't have a 'perfect' life, you wouldn't have any life tbh

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  • thegypsysailor

    Poor mom. She tried so hard and all she got was misunderstanding and disapproval.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You could have told them no of course.

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    • yes you are very right there,but considering the much bigger picture which there certainly is,
      No alive siblings,no other family members willing to help in any way at all,even though there were, and still are plenty family around,
      The choices my parents had many times,they choose to sit and do nothing at all towards there pending old age,instead out in the evenings playing bingo,off on holidays
      I my self doing what I could over time to suggest persude them to come overseas to where I was living happyly,providing them with so much imformation as to where they could live,we could sell our property and buy something with an attatched unit for them to live near and we could take care of them,they chose to stay living in a house that was never going to be suitable for old age and alziemers,
      It was I who came here 4 years ago and waded through all the mess and doctors hospitals,social welfare,finances,trying to arrange power of attourney to make it better for me to deal with everything,with a man who is arrogant and thinks I am stupid.
      I gave up a good little buisness I had,my husband his job,
      A mother calling me and crying ,when are you coming,are you coming ,I can,t manage,me trying to deal with all the emotions that go with all that,anxiety,panic attacks,what to do,trying to hold my life together in some way shape or form.
      In the end it all got that much for me being thousands of miles away it was a decision,yes our decision to give up our life,put all our belongings in storage and come here,it was easier to go insane here than at home.
      Try having to put your old lovely dog to sleep who you loved so much as a child,who you had had for 15 years,and taking her to the vets and looking into her eyes knowing she was not coming home,our hearts were broken,but they got what they wanted,believe me there is more where this comes from,much more.
      I am so sorry to say all this but our hearts are broken and we are sad and just want to go home,,,

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  • flyingnostalgia

    For Gods sake she is your mother, get over it.

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