Why have i never had a boyfriend?

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Im 19 years old and never had a boyfriend. I see myself as an alright person, I like to keep a tidy appearance and I wouldn't say I'm not an attractive female (Others have also told me these things) - not trying to sound arrogant here, just so you can get a fair idea =) However, Ive been really lonely for a while now and I know for sure that it is because I dont have that someone special in my life. I look at my friends and I envy that they have someone to go to after a hard nights work and snuggle up together and what not. Ive only ever had a sexual relationship with a guy. While it might have been fun, I really really liked this guy but ended up getting hurt. I need someone who can treat me the way I deserve to be treated and also someone that I can treat with respect and care for. Im just a bit lonely and it's hard when you've fallen for someone whos with another...???

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  • raining_skyttlez
    13 years ago

    Just what I gather from your post...you don't have enough self confidence...you apologized for saying you were pretty ...its alright to think you are pretty and deserve well for yourself...ask yourself...what DO I deserve...decide what your answer is, go find it, ask the guy out if you have to...oh, and get over the taken guy for now, he's taken...might as well pretend he's dead, because even if he left the other girl for you he'd leave you for someone else...it just works like that...If your still single and they break up, go for it!Good Luck! Believe in yourself!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    you could get a girlfriend for the start

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    • vanillaE
      13 years ago

      Maybe I should become a lesbian...guys just really havent worked for me so far...

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  • pooty85
    13 years ago

    my best friend from childhood didn't have her first serious boyfriend until she was 20, and she was always a very beautiful girl. we all mature and develop at different paces and you shouldn't feel weird for not having a guy. if you're feeling that lonely you should try asking one of your gal pals to find you dates. i always notice the best relationships happen when they're introduced by mutual friends. and as far as getting hurt, it's unfortunately gonna happen, it's life. but don't be afraid to take chances.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    You're so young. You'll learn that there are SO many people out there to choose from, the chances of you "finding the one" now are slim. Enjoy yourself, and add other people in when you find someone worth having. Don't settle because you're lonely.

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  • Piggy123
    13 years ago

    Maybe 'cause you're Ugly

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    • vanillaE
      13 years ago

      Awesome, thanks alot mate. Did making make you feel better about all the insecurities you have? Really appreciate your comment...

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    get an older guy ,, like 40's and he will rock your whole world and soul .... guys our own age are basically still on their mothers tit and worse than usless.

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  • Corleone
    12 years ago

    I'm 19 and never had a real girlfriend as well. I'm kinda in the same situation. It's perfectly normal you haven't had a serious relationship yet. Try to figure out whether you're really ready for a relationship. A lot of single people forget that relationships do have their downsides. You'll probably be married for most part of your life, so enjoy the single lifestyle while you can. Otherwise, you'll regret it once you're all tied down ;)

    And if you really really want a boyfriend, try not to get too serious too fast. It's the major reason why I stop dating someone.

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  • Galvani
    12 years ago

    I had 2 girlfriends at age of 18. Both lasted a month.

    Now I'm alone too and I'm 20.

    So don't feel bad, your time will come.

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  • cookiesaregreat
    12 years ago

    Your time will come. don't worry, I'm sure :p

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  • iHeartDinosaurs
    13 years ago

    If I were you, I'd wait for someone you KNOW is perfect for you. Once you find that perfect someone, you will be so happy that you waited.

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  • Iz_me
    13 years ago

    The fact that you are waiting for someone who is going to make you feel special, is actually awesome. We all feel a little bit lonely at times but thats not bad. Relax and take your time. There is no need to rush.

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  • MortalKombatFan1
    13 years ago

    I'm the reverse of your situation. I find girls my age to be self absorbed and shallow, or just plain bitchy. Perhaps I'm around the wrong people, lol

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I didn't have my first love until I was 19 and it was my best friend's brother. There is nothing wrong with being picky.

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  • xino00
    13 years ago

    19!?
    you in US?

    wow....where are all the us boys?

    in UK, by the time you are 14 you'd get a boyfriend.

    so many girls in uk man:/

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    • vanillaE
      13 years ago

      Yep 19 but not in the UK or the US. In a small country close to Australia =) Maybe it's too small to fit in some of the decent guys in this world. The only guys i've had 'something' with are from other places - Australia, England and Ireland! What am I supposed to do!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Maybe guys your age are picky eaters.

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