Why has my girlfriend denied for so long liking older men?

So I have been talking to my current girlfriend since 2010.. I currently have been with her for last six months officially. She is very attractive women and from what people have said in front of us or just to her.. That we make a cute couple and we are very attractive couple. My girlfriend at the time was just my friend but noticed throughout time that she likes attention of
Older men who may be established in there life by what I can tell.. " business man look I would say". She has always had an eye for Older men but Ive noticed throughout time when she didn't know how much of an observer I am. It came to a point where she wanted to be with me before the six months to prove to me that she was all the way honest with me and she would do anything to prove her trust to me. I have a big trust problem and because of all the woman I have been with.. From younger to older.. To single to in relationship to married. So she has once gave me her cell phone account to look on to show for that she is all about me.. She has givin her number out While she desperately waited to be with me but I have investigated and had called a lot of those numbers to figure out who these numbers were.. Some where people her age but some were older by when I have talked to them to find out things.. Little crazy I would say but this trust issue and knowin how women do things has messed me up in the head. Some these numbers were actually older men with a family and wife and tried denying they knew my gf but obviously had there number in her phone bill at a certain time that has been called if it was only for a day or a week or a month..whatever the case was.. Some of these men admitted to having there number under there name for long time so it was not that the number might of been changed or the phone number was someone else before, So I recently told my gf this and have asked her before but she always has denied it.. Gave her the facts and it took her so much to tell me the truth about having thing for older men regardless if married or not. I told her she was damaging me by not telling me the truth and have been dening it for so long.. I wanted get that out there to her because she tells me that she is 100 to 110% honest and open with me at all times like I am with her.. before we got together she got my first and last name tattoo on her, on the side of her ribs but this weekend I'm going get her name on the inside Of my bicep..I mentioned that to her and she knew already buti wanted her to be honest and I'm not sure why she wanted to deny this. It makes me feel what else has she lied and denied to me?!?! She is 25 and I am 26 years old.. I love her because she has show me so much and clockwise when it comes to her. She has waited to be with me because I dIdnt want to rush it but she has told me that we were meant for each other from the beggining but I never took it into consideration. Till maybe seven months ago. I guess I might sound paranoid but I just want my relationship to be so perfect and not unperfect for the fact of all the woman I Been with And have been in relationship and have cheated on there partrner or husband with me.

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Comments ( 10 )
  • ygrowup

    Without trust, this relationship is going nowhere

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  • jpl714

    This sounds like my life. If you ever have a reason to question the one your with then you don't need to be with them. No need to check cell phones just walk away because that is not love. I would give near even odds that she was molested as a child and will never be able to have an adult relationship with anyone. I volunteer to put a bullet in all child molesters brains

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  • XxPattycakexX

    Who cares if she likes older men? If she claims to love you then let go of all your insecurities. She's obviously trying to prove herself and that takes a lot. A women that doesn't love a man wouldn't go throught so much trouble. If you don't want to lose her then I suggest you just relax because if I were her it'd be upset that someone didn't trust me.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    So simply because she's been with different people in the past makes her a cheater? You're allowed to have your baggage from your past but you expect her to be perfect? You're so paranoid you go through her phone records and call everyone she's ever talked to? You think it's totally fine that you were the "other guy" in all those women's lives but you're terrified of being cheated on yourself?

    You sound like a keeper. Sarcasm implied.

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  • PiscesInLoveWithTaurus

    Damn I like this site.. I like everyone opinion.. Well she has waited for me for 2 years and got with her after that... I do need to relax.. It's me with the trust issue and some on her but we communicated and talked things over. Why she give me that cell phone account password I don't know... Why did I call those numbers to figure things, when I have plenty women chasing after me I'm not sure but I do know that I love her and care for her and she is the sweetest thing ever.. Very caring.. I need that.. I know no one is perfect but she is good to me.. She got my first and last name tattooed on her just to show me that she was waiting on me because she knew we were meant to be.. Even threw her experiences she just knew. I got her name tattooed she loved it and couldn't stop crying recently.. I know her for 2 years and 8months and been with her for 6months.. She deserves me.. I'm all about her...and a suit yes I have a couple..and wear it when I go to work.. I have my own business now that I just started thanks to the help of my love... in some way. But thanks to all your opinions..

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  • Darkoil

    It's none of your business if she likes to fuck older men, as long as she doesn't do it while you are together then this should not be a problem. Just reading this story you sound like a bell end.

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  • robbieforgotpw

    Nice book.

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  • fullhouse

    You went by her phone records? You don't deserve her actually, I'd ask her to kick your ass out of her life.. hehe

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  • ohplease

    First of all, you're older, chill out. She wouldn't have given you her cellphone to inspect unless she either had nothing to hide or was bluffing the biggest bluff ever. Most women prefer older men. You say you have been involved with women who have been single, in a relationship, and married. So you're worried she perhaps has engaged in what you have? Doesn't that seem hypocritical? Don't you think you shouldn't have any expectations or standards of her that you wouldn't have for yourself?

    It sounds like she has a thing not just for older men, but for productive, desirable, successful men. If you are none of these things, I would worry about maintaining any sort of relationship, not just one with this one particular girl. I once read an article addressing geeky girls complaining about guys, even their boyfriends, checking out the chicks in push up bras. The article suggested these girls just buy a push up bra. Maybe don't piss away money on a tattoo and buy a suit, maybe even take her out someplace nice. Hopefully the suit will be useful to you, and I guarantee she will love seeing you in it.

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  • sheat

    well I you know that she likes older men why being in that relationship.. sooner or later she is going to meet someone older and she might like him and let you go anyway and other think look doesn't matter she might the most beautiful and it doesn't matter because she has eyes for someone else

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