Why dont dads do more for the kids

It sucks that he's not helping out more, and obviously you're exhausted, hence the exaggeration of "all dads".

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed as a new parent. Especially if you're feeling like you have no support from your partner.

Have you sat him down and told him you're not able to cope with this? Nagging is difficult to avoid when you're stressed and exhausted, but it will only exacerbate the situation. He may feel that he is not welcome to help out in his own way. Did you talk about each others expectations while you were pregnant? Has he gone to any classes with you? Do you have family or friends who can help out til you get everything under control?

You are a typical high school drop - out because you got knocked up who flunked English and spelling.
Your spelling and grammatical sentence structure is atrocious.
You should have been thinking with the head on your shoulders and not thinking about the head on a cock that you wanted in your cunt , poop chute and mouth.
You should have thought about that before your lazy ass spread your 2 legs wide open.

It's sad but I get the impression that this dynamic is very common.

I think a poll would have been more revealing.

Maybe a lot of these men didn't want to be fathers but are due to circumstances, pressure from society or they didn't take responsibility for their own fertility? That would explain being disinterested. Maybe their cultures/parents taught them that men don't need to be involved?

Just to be fair there are also lots of mothers who are disinterested with their children (often at an older age).

Seems to me that people just react to events and there's not a lot of thought that goes into their actions, choices and responsibilities.

If you want my advice; I think you should talk with your partner. If it helps maybe consider a counsellor to help avoid a solution oriented discussion turning into an argument about blame and frustration.

I'm really sorry you feel unsupported during such a challenging time. I hope the situation is resolved.

This is normal. Dads play with their babies when they are happy. Babies want their Moms when they are sad. For a happy family, tell your husband to play with the baby when she is happy.

My husband was never a dad as such always working away but was a fantastic provider bought everything I never went without he missed our daughters first words .her walking .starting school same for our second child but when he was home he made bottles put them to bed but I can count the times he helped out on 1 hand but financially I cannot complain I am a kept woman.yet I have worked most of my life

In my opinion, I feel talking to him is not going to work, but you can try.

Personally, I suggest you take a mom break and go to a relative's house for a few days while he takes care of the baby, alone and get into the habit of it without "mummy," to fall back on when the child whimpers. However, don't be spiteful about it. Just tell you're exhausted and need a break for 3 days or so, and give him a number he can reach you incase of emergencies.

I know it's a bit harsh, but I've seen parents like these, and they rarely change unless forced into a situation where they have to. He loves the child enough to brag and he takes charge when he notice you're too tired to, so he has it in him to be a good dad, just need bring it out.