Why doesn't sex do it for me ?

I think sex is pleasurable when you are doing it, but I just don't like the thought of it, I don't see why people say they can't live without it or whatever. I personally can go forever without it if I'm not aroused. I don't know why or how sex has become this amazing thing that has to be done every night, it seems to be a crime to be with someone for a month and not have sex.

I don't understand it, but it is nice when you are with someone you have feelings for

You are looking for love.

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You need to find out what pleases you in order to enjoy sex. You sound like a girl who never masturbated, has no idea what she likes and then wonders why she doesn't get much out of it. Buy a toy, find out what you like and then maybe find a guy that you actually care about that will spend time exploring. When you jump in the sack with guys that lasts 2 minutes and you don't have an orgasm, no wonder it seems lousy.

try using a clit vibrator while having sex.

its because there is no feelings involed....ask anyone who has had loveing and nonloveing sex

feelings make it better

believe me i know it does ....its a fact tbh :)

experiment.

same here! i dont mind when its actually happening but the thought of doing it i just think "I cant be bothered"!!

Sex isn't only the act of intercourse: it involves once imagination and emotions too. It sounds like the guys you were with went straight for the kill without devoting enough attention to you. Maybe they don't know what they're doing, and maybe they don't mean that much to you (or you to them). Sex is about communicating feelings.

I've had sex for a few years now with several guys, two of which have been very long-term relationships. I've seriously done an experimental sampling of guys and situations-- loving relationships, one night stands, random strangers, casual dating, drunk, high, at home, in bed, standing up, standing in a shower. I have never ever ever experienced orgasm from sexual intercourse alone. I have no idea why. I have had patient and giving sexual partners try every single position and movement and everything. I've tried creams. I've tried everything.

I only experience pleasure from other things... I use vibrators during sex sometimes. I have learned to be okay with a guy going down on me (even though I've been very self conscious about it before). I have learned that it's much better when he makes an effort to touch me and try to please me while we're having sex.

It's hard for me to experience an orgasm. At first, I was really bitter about that. I felt like fate was cruel-- guys can get off so easily. But, now, I realize that it's a really convenient way to make sure that I have really meaningful sex most of the time. I only enjoy it when my partner cares about me enough to slow down and help me feel good too. It gives me a way to really love and feel close to a guy with sex. Good luck.

probably they bust their load too quickly.
amateurs.

and OBVIOUSLY if they didn't mean anything to you, that MIGHT be a bit of an issue <-- note sarcasm. it's more of a huge, looming obstacle you should have addressed already. or why you would even be that intimate with someone you don't care for.

i say different positions...most women orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris though and not through penetration but with right positions it will feel amazing, I can suggest one. lie on your back and keep you legs up along his body, feet at his shoulders- it so does it for me! however never had penetrated orgasm, which is normal..and make sure the guy uses time on you, not just for his pleasure!!

try different positions. you wont enjoy it if you lay there like a rug. if you make yourself believe u arent enjoying it then you wont. dont be so boring lol not all people can orgasm from regular sex so mix it upp haha good luk !
<3 amanda

maybe u shud try a GAL wot du u thnk lovey?

You know yourself sexually as well right? That makes a big difference.

Lol you need to find a guy who knows what he is doing. Sex is great but only if the guy is good at it.

Normal. I haven't done it but I don't see the point in it. Neither does my "experienced" boyfriend.

Try different positions and u should find some that will do it for u, some woman can only orgasm in a certain position and liking the person and having strong meaningful feelings for them really does help

Good luck!

Sounds like you haven't found a good connection yet. A lotof women, me included have to have a strong emotional connection to get much out of sex. Have any of these guys brought you to orgasm? Have they cared enough to really try? That might make the difference for you. Just don't feel that you have to do something you don't enjoy just to make the dude happy tho. Will just make you miserable! Go

I don't think its because they mean nothing to you that you don't enjoy it, but because you mean nothing to them. Let me put it this way. My male friend slept with my female friend. He says to me "Shes gonna tell you I was shit yeah..but actually I just got in and came as quickly as I could because I knew I wasn't gunna see her again". I think that sums up how much effort guys put into making girls come in one night stands.

I feel bad for any guys dating all of you who say this is normal. No wonder why so many marriages fail. -_-

- they mean nothing to you
- you have sex with *them*
- gives you no pleasure

Not normal, but maybe it gives you a feeling of fulfilment of your purpose.