Why does my husband say such hurtful things

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Ok. This weekend is only one of many occurances from my husband. We were at a home improvement store. I'm pushing the cart behind him looking for what he needed. We see two male employees. I didn't hear what my husband said but he glanced back at me and had that stupid smile when ge makes bad women jokes. (for some reason he thinks they are funny). The employees looked at me then him and told him that was cruel and walked away from him. I yelled at him telling him that he was damn lucky I didn't hear it. Later going to check out he tries to step on the back of my flip flops. Twice. I tell him straight to his face, "First you insult me, now you are trying to trip me. What else are you gonna do today?". I was furious. He just had this stupid smirk and shrugged his shoulders.
He says these stupid things when other men are around.
What's the hell is wrong with him?
He doesn't do it all the time. But enough to make me want to leave.
What is your take in this?

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  • jroscom
    13 years ago

    He loves you

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    Oh but yeah, to the poster: If you think your marriage is otherwise salvageable, set him down and talk to him about his twisted sense of humor and uh, the possibility of some censorship on his part....Tell him that you feel disrespected and let him know that you feel it is having a negative impact on your entire relationship. Don't expect him to change overnight, but if he is willing to change, work with him. Good luck!

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  • mysti446
    13 years ago

    Sounds to me like he has low self esteem and makes himself feel better by putting others down. My hubby used to do something very similiar but finally worked thru it and it's rarely a problem anymore.

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  • wheresmycoffee
    13 years ago

    ^ idiot.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    God damnit woman, hurry up on that damn shopping and get in the kitchen and make him a god damn sandwich

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      That made me laugh but its fuckin terrible.

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  • rynryn
    13 years ago

    He sounds severly immature and it also sounds like he doesn't respect you. No honorable husband would insult you to other people or put you down. Period.

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  • blueruby
    13 years ago

    agree with the three above comments. He has low self esteem, and when you get angry you lose control and it makes him feel incontrol. He is an absolute arse and if you don't have any kids. I'd get out of it. If you do have children then you both need to talk about his behaviour. What a prat!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ^^ lol nice one. I don't know why guys can act like that towards their girlfriend/wife. I never said or done anything hurtful like that to my girlfriend, I treat her like my princess. Maybe he likes seeing you mad at him? Maybe he wants to show other guys how you let him talk badly about you without you reacting? I don't know but that's seriously an asshole thing to say and do. Tell him how it makes you feel to the point you want to leave him, maybe he'll stop this shit.

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  • gowila
    13 years ago

    Just leave him

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    OMG are you on your period because he wad just fooling around and you took it the complete wrong way... BITCH!!

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  • Deut.6:5-6
    13 years ago

    This is for you - Book of Ephesians

    22. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

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    • Jen118584
      13 years ago

      I'm sure you're a good person and I see what you're trying to do with your Bible references. However, wives shouldn't "submit" to their husbands. A marriage is an equal partnership. Women are human beings, not dogs to be pulled around on a leash. I'm so tired of brainwashed Christians thinking that the Bible has the answers to all of life's problems. Wouldn't it be nice to have a mind of your own for once? Instead of begging God to get you through rough times and show you the way, or giving God credit for all your achievements, why don't you give yourself credit as a Human Being. God doesn't get you a job, or score a goal for you, or graduate college for you. Nor would He expect a woman to submit to a man who disrespects her and makes her unhappy. That way of thinking is so ridiculously archaic, and that is the problem with so many religions. People take religious doctrines so literally that they end up losing all of their FREE WILL and FREE THOUGHT. It's just pathetic.

      Okay, I ranted. Sorry. But holy shit, Bible thumpers annoy me.

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      • robbieforgotpw
        11 years ago

        What about islam terrorists?

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  • mrbrownfinger
    7 years ago

    He sounds a pure prick, wait til he's asleep and then sit on top of him and hold a stanley knife to his throat, ask him to repeat what he said in the store to the guys and if he says anything like that again you won't wake him just slice the fuck out his wind pipe. If you're lucky he'll piss his pants.

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  • femmefatale12
    13 years ago

    What an ass. Leave him!

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  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago

    wow cut the bible shit out. anyway you need to play with his balls once a day

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  • b454
    13 years ago

    He's a douchebag

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Either its his way of showing affection (unlikely) or you married a dilweed (likely). If he doesnt stop get rid of his ass. Theres guys that will treat you well out there

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  • hammerofgod
    13 years ago

    Well.. you married an idiot! He's likely always been that way and you figured at the time it was a guy thing, would grow out of it, cute or whatever.. you can't convince me that he just started being like way one day out of the blue.. need to start standing up for yourself..

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  • Deut.6:5-6
    13 years ago

    But read him this also from the book of Ephesians-

    25. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26. to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27. and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28. In the same way, husbands ough to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Oh stop acting as if some ancient & primitive society personally you a mandate from god to subordinate & boss women around - idiot.

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  • DrFroggFan
    13 years ago

    holy HELL well why dont yall just divorse (if i even spelled that right if not im sorry)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Forget the low self esteem: he's an insensitive embarrassing lout who doesn't even get that his sexist insults are not only not funny to you, but not funny to his audience (other men).

    You will not reach this man with words because he can't listen and has no insight. You may, however, reach him with deeds. Sort of like with a child.

    Say: "Next insult/torment of me and this ________ will happen." Then do it. Draw up a long list of things you do that you will take away. Make it immediate and always follow through. Also, some rewards for when he does the right thing: like has manners etc.

    Yes. You are raising a child, he is not a man.

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  • MarijuAtheist
    13 years ago

    He sounds like a child trapped in a man's body. I certainly wouldnt able to date someone like that.

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  • GaryT
    13 years ago

    Your husband has inferiority issues.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Make him a samich woman

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Leave the bastard.

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