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my bf always says he's gonna break up with me but he never goes through with it. 45-2 hours later he's always like i'm sorry i just don't know what to do! and he says he loves me all the time but like why does he do it
It's an immature thing to do.
Maybe he likes seeing you upset (which would be pretty messed up). Maybe he doesn't know how to handle his feelings for you. Maybe he has conflicting thoughts about how he wants to be with you, but he doesn't want to be tied down.
You could do as RoseIsabella suggests and try to cultivate an indifferent attitude, or you could just say you're tired of the BS, and tell him to go away and come talk to you again when he's grown up a little.
... because he is a jerk. He's trying to scare you, don't get scared when he says that, just say, "yeah, sure... whatever".
and after that what do i do..? i actually packed my bags last night and put my shoes on and was ready to leave which was a huge step... and then he got scared & said. i don’t know if this is what i want
Well, I honestly think that if he talks to you like that again you ought to leave him. Who needs to waste time with a person who makes idle threats in order to frighten and control you. Fuck that shit!
I must say I enjoy reading your responses,I believe you and I think alike,What is up with these young female lady's, I'm a 58 YO male and can't understand what they don't see.
Um... I dunno, I think anyone can have this mode of thinking regardless of age or gender, but it does seem to be more prevalent amongst young people and young females in particular. I think regardless of age or gender a person ought to seek to nurture a sense of independence and self love within her or himself. A big thing for me is having a relationship with my High Power! It's important and necessary for me personally to make God my number one in order to quell my feelings of loneliness. I think a lot of people, young people in particular put their significant other on a pedestal. It's not healthy or appropriate the way some people seem to worship a boyfriend or girlfriend. When a young person tells me that he or she is simply cannot live without a boyfriend or girlfriend, and that said boyfriend or girlfriend is their everything it's not love, but obsession.
I think the more a person is afraid of being alone, and the more desperate that person is for love and companionship the more that person will attract unhealthy and dysfunctional relationships. Abusive people are attracted to lonely, desperate and vulnerable people, because many abusers are narcissists, and narcissists need to find people who will give them the attention they crave. It's unfair the way things are, but the more I learn about it the more it makes perfect sense.
I personally think that the best course of action is for an abuse survivor to seek healing and self improvement rather than to look for a new relationship. Until a person is better he or she will continue to attract and be attracted to unhealthy people and unhealthy relationships.
If you're not sure what you want,You should take a few minutes and talk to him,But you should have a list of questions and he should h the answers you want to hear.Women get so tied up with one man or the Wrong man and think they are doing something wrong,Please keep in mind women have the control and power to get what they want,Dont allow yourself to be stuck in a tut.
It seems to me he's playing with you. Tell him to make up his mind. If he pulls something like that again, just leave him.
He wants to get rid of your sorry ass but he doesn’t have the balls to go through with it because every time he tries, you turn into a pathetic, suicidal train wreck