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So this guy I’m hooking up with this guy and the furthest we’ve gone is oral. He knows I’m a virgin but he wants to take my virginity even though we’re not that close and I’ve told him I don’t want to lose my virginity right now. He’s not a virgin btw. Why does he want to take my virginity? Is it just fun for him?
idk i feel like there are grey zones. op didn't go into enough detail to say for sure, simply "wanting" something doesn't make him selfish or a bad person, op's bf is probably young and horny just like any male would be, does it really make him selfish because just because he wants sex? now of course if he crosses the line and overly Preasures her, but op never said he was pressuring her, she simply said "he said he wants to" . i think its easy to project on to this, but there really is no way to know without knowing the people involved. Plenty of guys would want to take the virginity of a girl they really adore, it doesn't mean all of them think about at as2 dimensionally as you suggest, although it may be more likely in todays age, its not certain based off the information given.
* its POSSIBLE He looks at you as a possible accomplishment rather than as a person
Wait a minute, "were not that close" but you give him head? Where can I find girls like you? You can keep your virginity just give me some head.
Just use your brain and lose it to someone you want to lose it to. It doesn’t mean anything just because he is persistent about it. Sounds a tad too keen if you ask mowah
Another notch in his belt , plus what guy doesn’t want to put his penis in a nice warm vagina 🤷🏻♂️
He's wants to take your virginity, because he's a selfish piece of shit who sees deflowering you as a conquest, as another notch on his bed post. The only thing you should be giving his selfish ass is the boot. What you need to do is to dump his selfish, greedy, user ass! Save yourself for someone who loves you, honey!
It's another punch in every guys sexual conquest punch-card. Average virgin taker amount it 1. To get more than one is a side objective to some of us.
For a lot of men, it's a special delicacy. It's a manly thing to take a girl's virginity. So it's basically an ego thing for him probably. Or he's never had a Virgin before and is extremely curious
Some guys like the idea of taking a girls virginity. It gives them some sort of conquest validation. Healthier men will respect you enough to listen to your desires with your body. Do only what you yourself want and don't be pressured into anything you're not ready for.
He's a man. He wants to take your virginity like you want to eat when you're hungry.
I don't think all male humans are automatically that selfish, and predatory.
I don't think that is necessarily either of those things. On a fundamental biological level, the guy is succeeding if he's spreading his seed to new partners. If he's taking someone's virginity, then it's almost like a bigger success because you know you're spreading your seed where no one has before. Throughout the vast majority of history, those males who spread their seed to the most females are the males who have won the evolutionary race.
I don't agree with you on this, because no means no. When someone says no, to another person for whatever reason, then the person being told no needs to be able to accept no for an answer.
By the logic you are attempting to use men shouldn't be held accountable for anything they do that has to do with sex, which is false. People may have base urges, but people are not wild animals who cannot be held responsible for their actions. People have freewill, and have the capacity to know right from wrong. If someone says no, that should be the end of it. Any kind of coercion is selfish, and possibly even predatory depending on the circumstances. Human beings need to be held accountable for their actions!
Because this way you will remember him forever, he wants to be in your mind forever, I would also want to take it
I knew this person who is a total piece of trash and he told me it was a big deal for him because he wanted to be her first memory that shed never forget for the rest of her life even if it was just a hit it and quit it
Your comment said that you lost your virginity at 14, dude. Your overreaction about being told that trying to pressure a girl into sleeping with you doesn't make it any less selfish. Honestly, I think you're being way too defensive. Most people are selfish in one way, or another. It's better to just admit you've done some selfish things in your life just like everyone else has on the planet. It's not normal to be so melodramatic, and booty hurt about a little, honest criticism.
If they aren't even in a relationship, and she isn't ready, but he is still pressuring her then he is in fact a selfish asshole.
Also when a 14 year old loses his, or her virginity to a 25 year old adult, that is what's called statutory rape. I'm sorry that you were taken advantage of at a very young age, but it's always selfish when someone tries to pressure another person into doing something he, or she doesn't want to do.
idk rose i feel like there are grey zones. op didn't go into enough detail to say for sure, simply "wanting" something doesn't make him selfish, op's bf is probably young and horny just like any male would be, does it really make him selfish because he wants sex? now of course if he crosses the line and "pressures" her, but op never said he was pressuring her, she simply said "he said he wants to"
She said herself on the initial post that they aren't that close. If he really likes her then he'd willingly to wait. If she doesn't like him very much then it would behoove her to herself, and wait for someone she loves who loves her.
How have you been 'hooking up' with him and are still a virgin? Are we talking anal and or oral sex in these 'hook ups' or are we using a different definition of hookup? Call it a date please if you don't have sex okay mate! Outside of that listen to cuntsiclestick.
Oral is the furthest I’ve gone. It’s definitely not a date though I’m just not ready to lose my virginity yet.
If you're not ready - or you're simply not ready to go that far with this particularly guy - that should be the end of the matter as far as he's concerned.
If he keeps pestering (or even repeatedly hinting), you should seriously consider whether he respects you and if continuing to spend time with him is positive for you.
And when you say you're doing oral, I hope you're getting something in return (assuming you want it). If not, then it really sounds like he's just another fucking user who's looking for bragging rights.
Fair enough, oral counts as a hook up in my book. Still listen to cuntsiclestick and get out if this isn't what you want. On a side not if you post again(which you should) make sure to included details on what sex acts you have or have not done to give us commenters more perspective to give you a good response. More details the better usually. Nobody will judge you, your anonymous and most of us have sex too so don't be shy about it.