Why do they do this?

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Hello,
I am 28 yrs old married. Got Married 1.5 yrs back.From Day 1 my motherin law ,sister in law and my co sister are of one group.They wo'nt discuss any family things with me.They make unnecessary gossips about me. My husband does'nt question them even if they are rude to me in front of him.They always pretend to be High profile and treat me as if i am a slave to 3 of them. They do'nt take me to any function, party, get together etc. I am not sure whats wrong with me.I always take care of their kids and treat them nicely. But in return they always hurt me.
I am from a middle class family.My sister in law is a IT proffesion and my co sister is a doctor. I do interior designing but my hubby doesn't like me working. so i have stopped working. Presently i am a home maker.Whole day i will be working in home and do all household works but in return they do not show me any love and concern.
Why is it like this? I am really hurt.I am going on depression thinking about it.
Please give me some suggestions how to come out of it

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  • Fenris33
    8 years ago

    You've got to be assertive and tell your husband to do something.

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  • Whatintarnation
    8 years ago

    I'd suggest having a conversation with all parties involved about your feelings and how it is negatively affecting you. If that doesn't work, then throw darts at them.

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    • needy
      8 years ago

      Thanks a lot for ur suggestion.
      I tried to do so once. But they pretend as if they are not responsible for it.
      I also suggested my husband that we will start living in a seperate home. But he is not willing to come out.
      I am worried. I got miscarriage 3 months back.I lost my 8 months baby. Even at this situation none of the people took care of me.
      I am thinking if i have to tolerate those bloody people for the sake of my husband, I can't tolerate them anymore.
      I am thinking to come out of the relationship.
      What I am thinking Is it right? I am confused. Please suggest

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      • Whatintarnation
        8 years ago

        Well if you've tried to talk it through with them and they still don't seem to care or understand perhaps moving on would be the best solution. Nobody deserves to be miserable and if your husband isn't willing to rectify the situation I'd suggest you do. I've had to move on from toxic relationships in the past. Though it was painful and rough for a while, ultimately I met someone much better. Just my two cents. Good luck.

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        • needy
          8 years ago

          Thank u once again.
          Will consider Ur suggestion seriously and think about it.
          Hope I will be able to come out of this situation ASAP.

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  • Soapy_Testicles
    8 years ago

    Sorry to hear you aren't appreciated or respected. The job you are doing is a very important one and is not in any way "sexist" or to be looked at negatively. I hope your husband respects and appreciates what you do. Unfortunately, women like you are becoming a thing of the past.

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    • needy
      8 years ago

      Thanks a lot for ur Reply.
      I respect the work what i do. I respect myself. Even if they do not appreciate me it does'nt matter but they prick me with their dirty mouths.They talk shit about me.
      I also suggested my husband that we will start living in a seperate home. But he is not willing to come out.
      I am worried. I got miscarriage 3 months back.I lost my 8 months baby. Even at this situation none of the people took care of me.
      I am thinking if i have to tolerate those bloody people for the sake of my husband, I can't tolerate them anymore.
      I am thinking to come out of the relationship.
      What I am thinking Is it right? I am confused. Please suggest

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  • IrritatedWoman
    8 years ago

    It's very common for a using partner with a family that adores them to ostracize the person who is in pain. Don't fall for there mud slinging. That's there final step of discrediting you. Concentrate on your work, people who care about you. Indulge yourself in the gym, travel, hobbies....the less you act like you need them the more they will panic. If they know there getting to you they will amp up the abuse. GO BACK TO WORK. He's trying to keep you dependent so he can control you.

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    • needy
      8 years ago

      Sure.Will start working again and keep myself busy as u suggested. It may help me to overcome my depression.
      Thank u once gain.

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      • IrritatedWoman
        8 years ago

        Your self esteem has been badly damaged. I know. I've been through the same. Please, if you get independent again they will all start to worry and you will be in the drivers seat.

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        • needy
          8 years ago

          S that's very true. I have been put down and insulted at each and every minute. My husband's sister, the dirty bitch, I don't get words to describe her. She is the main criminal and she is the one who ruined up my life.
          Till date she is harming my emotions. I am in such a anger that if i get a chance to kill her i will.
          The bitch my foot.
          Sorry I literally wanted someone to share my hurts.
          Sharing with u. Hope u don't mind

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          • IrritatedWoman
            8 years ago

            No. I don't mind. You have to take the high road here. Stay calm, ignore whatever they throw at you. The more you respond and get upset, the more they will say your crazy so stay calm and DO NOT react. I swear you will be happy you listened to this advice. Stay away from all of them. Start to get out of your house too.

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  • IrritatedWoman
    8 years ago

    He's manipulating you, wants to keep you secluded and respects his family more than his wife. Run for your life. They are all using you. Been there, done that. You will never win.

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    • needy
      8 years ago

      Yes that's sure.I have to take a decision now. It's Peak time.But in another way, I am worried how will this society treat me, I know i have to overcome some hurdles after my breakup. But I will go ahead.
      Thank u for ur support.

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      • IrritatedWoman
        8 years ago

        You are very welcome.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Wow, what were you doing when you were supposed to be learning English in school?
    Also, what is a co sister? Never heard that before.

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    • needy
      8 years ago

      If u can suggest me something pls suggest.I don't require ur thonts..I have enough people around me to do so.
      For ur information Co sister means its my husbands brother sister.
      Just search in an vocabulary

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