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I am constantly hearing from men in thier late 40's, 50's, and 60's, that sex is over because the wife is not interested anymore. The wife must know that men need and want sex until they die.
I don't see this as a tragedy. It's not that much different from the men who lose their attraction to their wives after they got fat from pushing out the husband's babies.
It is a tragedy if the relationship turns to a stagnent, emotionless partnership. Isn't that when some guys start seeking sexual satisfaction elswhere? Which often leads to divorce or at least tragic deception. Could this be why the divorce rate is so high a few years after the babies are born?
In my experience, it's the men who can't keep up with the women. Every single one of my girl friends have complained that their partner doesn't want sex as much as they do.
boy are you full of crap lady. you better stop and think why and not just blame the men. women will drive a man to another's bed. then they cry foul. waaaa...... look what he did to me. get real if you want to be truthful for both women and men. both are at fault for not keeping their communications open and being truthful with each other. I don't feel she ever really loved him to start with she was in love with the idea of marriage . (like most women are.)
I Would almost bet that the husbunds are in thier late 40's or 50's. And I do agree that some men have a mental block when it comes to talking about sexual issues. They can't accept that they are not the viral sex machines anymore.
I'm guessing that 99% of the time, it's the guy's fault. He forgets how important romance is to a woman. He forgets that the marriage is a partnership and that his wife isn't just the cook and cleaner. Or child raiser.
Where are the flowers, the candle lit dinners at some intimate restaurant or a day together, maybe at the zoo, holding hands and whispering loving remarks in her ear. And fellas, don't just lube it up and stick it in. Where's all that affection you used to show? And KISSING? Why did you stop kissing her? Where are those long, slow, tender kisses? Nope, fellas, this one's on most of you.
The rest, head on down to the doctor and get the old gal checked out for some sort of medical/chemical imbalance. Women don't stop wanting sex. They just stop wanting, the same old boring, uninteresting, one sided sex, with you.
well I see you think you have all the answers. well sweetheart your really off base with this one. I ask what did she do to help him along with her problem. you seem to have the idea that it's always him to blame. you must be one of those women that really brow beats your man and you do it with sex. that in it self makes you a women that get paid for sex. not necessarily with money but none the less paid. us men are tired of women like you. you should turn gay if your not already. us men can do very well without a women like you around poising our wife's with all your bad mouthing of men . you are a man hater and it's time you admit it to your self and get on with your own life and stay out of others until you get it together. your not helping your part of the problem
Are you really that STUPID? Do you not know there is a profile behind the name on every account? Some people actually write something about themselves there.
Never mind the atrocious grammar and complete lack of punctuation, that could be over looked, but your "us men" attitude shows you have absolutely zero experience with women. You have shown yourself to be a total fool and rather simple minded.
Interestingly though, no matter how hated I might be by some members on this site, not one has suggested that I should become a gay woman before. You are indeed unique.
Congratulations on being the STUPIDEST person I have yet encountered on IIN.
Very good advice. The OP would to well to make every effort to follow it.
Occasionally, women will unexpectedly say, "I got the family I wanted off of you, stay on your half of the bed. The game is over." If that happens to you, move into a separate bedroom and masturbate to porn while you figure out what to do with the rest of your life.
They might want sex until they die, but I'm not sure if I would say it's something anyone "needs". Sex is supposed to be fun, and that just seems melodramatic.
Heartless as it might sound, life is full of tough choices. Sometimes what you want clashes with what other people want, and when it comes to sex you don't have a right to it. So you can either stick or twist. Move on and look for someone who wants the same as you (which there is absolutely no shame in whatsoever) or accept the fact that your relationship isn't everything you want.
If you love someone then even if you don't want to have sex, then I think you should have sex with them. Ofcourse, this doesn't mean have sex with them every time they want it and you don't, I mean if it's becoming a "once a month" type of thing.
I remember seeing a study a while ago that people in relationships that aren't married tend to have more sex than those that are married, so...
Just one of many as to why someone shouldn't get married.
I agree! In these modern times it seems the old wedding vows should be replaced with "I'll stay married to you as long as your boobs are firm and your vagina is tight."
And of course, "What do you mean, you can't get it up? I'm out here!"
A dear friend of mine told me of this really shitty thing his wife said to him once. He asked her why she never wanted to be sexual, romantic, affectionate or go out anymore like they used to after a couple of years of marriage and she said, "because I have you now." My heart just dropped when he said that!
As far as I'm concerned she's just as bad as men who are no longer attracted to their wives after they have children. The thing is he's a really sweet, sensitive and athletic guy. I've seen chicks throw themselves at him, but he doesn't reciprocate. She's lucky he hasn't left her cold hearted ass.
I agree with you. he's just being mean to him self by staying in a relationship where you spouse does not care what you might want in a good marriage. she is way to much self centered. she has the idea it's all about her. she took a vow but did not mean what she said. she just used him and his love for her against him to get what she wanted. she really does not give a shit about him. I hope he wakes up real soon and kicks her to the dogs
Old people should be put out in the snow to die, forget sex.
The Eskimos had the right idea.
Hey! Idiot! You too will get older! Maybe not much older with you smart ass attitude.
you'll be old real soon and you can run out in the snow if you like. me I'll stay in and do a lot of diving with my wife who loves it.
Hormone changes in women over 40 tend to have the effect of reduced sex drive and I'm telling you, having sex when you don't have the desire for it is, at best, a chore. At worst, it is an indignant nightmare. I know very few men who would enjoy having sex with someone who truly has no desire to.
It's not an issue of love or appreciation for many, rather, an issue of hormones.
I can understand the hormonal thing, but, really, in todays medical scene, isn't there something they could take that would help them? I know of several others that put some effort out and live very sexual lives, many into thier 70's.
Then go see a doctor and get it fixed dummy dumb they can you know. It is a choice if you don't and that leads to denying your spouse there needs in the marriage in which you did take a vow to honor and respect each OTHER. THAT MY FRIEND MEANS YOU LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHERS NEEDS AS WELL.
You can't compare people, though. It doesn't work like that, each individual is different. That said, they have hormone replacement therapies out there that can help but there is only so much they can do and results aren't guaranteed. Some women can't even do that because, believe it or not, putting artificial hormones into your body can fuck some people up. Many young women can't take hormonal birth control for that reason.
Science just hasn't gotten there yet.
Alright, okay, heeeeere we go, time to crank out another jem from our favorite 'resident scientist', so she can tell us some generic science-sounding stuff.
Older men are more attracted to women in their 20s and 30s and dump their old wives
That might well be true, but, I would bet that a lot of those women that don't want sex with thier husbands have a little toy that needs batteries. (Grin) The way I heard it is that 'Sex is life' and orgasms are a vital part of life.